"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My girlfriend versus my pride

the_great_gaia

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My girlfriend once told me that if we went a whole day without talking on the phone, it'd drive her crazy.

She called me at 10:30pm, but we didn't talk too long. She said that she'd call me back. I went to sleep immediately after, I was tired. I woke up at 2:45am, and I looked at my cell phone and it didn't say "1 Missed Call"- she never called back. I know that she went out with her sisters for that night, but she never even called back. I become concerned, but I also kept telling myself "I didn't care". I called and left a message saying "You never called back, but I'm not mad. Well, good night, I'll talk to you later" Why did I leave that message? Because we've been telling each other "Good Night" on the phone for the last 2 months, kinda like a ritual. Not last night, and I definitely feel like the ball's in her court. It is. I am silently going crazy, but she'll never know it. If she ever calls back, I'll play off as if last night never even mattered. And I solely believe that my girlfriend is an "Attention *****". She has all the symptoms of one. I really think that she met another guy last night and she probably spent an eternity with him on the phone. How can I find peace?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This will work itself out. What you need to do is act normal, and not do anythingrash for 1 week.

In 1 week, you'll see how stupid it was for you to have posted this message.
 

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quit being a b1tch. oh boohoo she didnt call u. Who cares, get a life.
 

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Originally posted by Julian
quit being a b1tch. oh boohoo she didnt call u. Who cares, get a life.
Harsh, but true. If you don't trust that your girlfriend loves you, even when she misses a call, either 1) she's not trustworthy enough to be your steady girl, or 2) you're not secure enough to be her steady guy.

Relax. :)
 
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Why are you calling a girl to tell her 'good night'???

Boys do this kind of thing - men don't!!!

Don't talk on the phone too much - that is what women do. Men are of 'action' not conversing - bring her in your territory and leave that phone crap for girls!
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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i appreciate all the advice i'm receiving, even the cruel comments are beautiful; i only wish i had someone to tell me these things all alone.

Anyhow, the next morning, I woke up at 12:30pm, I went to lift weights; the fact that she didn't call was still riding on my back, I was basically feeling like a pure b1tch. And a b1tch i was, so i decided to work out. I actually wish I hadn't waken up so early, so I did a work out to make me go back to sleep; which worked. I woke back up at 2pm, and I still hadn't gotten a call. By this time, i called her and TWICE i got her voice mail. I didn't leave a message. I agreed not to call her again until 4:30pm. But I decided to check my message, because something didn't feel right. I had one new message, by her, it went:
"Yeah, wassup, Mike, this Andrea. I was just calling you to tell you i miss you and I ain't have nobody to talk to so I decided to call you or whatever. But I see you sleep, and I done called you like a million times but i'm all home by myself so all i could do is think about you, good night. bye"
........now what?
 
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You sound like a wussie!!!!!!!

Read my first post and adhere to the counsel!!!!
 
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