My Girlfriend Started Playing Hard2Get all off a sudden please help?

[Axl Salvator]

Okey i don't really know how to start it's really complicated!
So we went out a bunch of times head sex etc everything was going fine!
We were really open to each other expressed every emotion that we head she told me a bunch of times i can't live without you i did the same i mean everything was going fine she would pm me afterwards for hours asking me caring about me i did the same.
But lately she suddenly changed for late 10 days,She pm's acts a bit distant cold short answers but still talks keeps in touch,The thing that she pays attention the most is she starts the convo makes me warm up and then suddenly leaves in the middle of the convo letting my message the last and then she again pm's tomorrow playing it cool like nothing happened and continues the loop like this,again the tells she loves me but the emotions are less,and she keeps telling me trying to make me jelly that a bunch of guys stared at her today that she's beautiful etc,So one day i got really tired of this **** and asked her what was going on with an emotional text and she told me she does not feel like talking to people in general she is tired etc it has nothing to do with you etc,and in the old day's she would be tired and still talk to me.She is playing it cool and trying to get me mad or make me jelly when i explode she then tries to chill me like nothing happened.
So i really thought of changing the game idk should i remove the Validation and like if she pm's me keep the convos short like 20 minute give her less validation like calling her babe and asking how her day was the telling her got to do sth important and leaving i really need to cut the convos really short cuz she fools me warms me up then leaves in the middle of the convo shes unpredictable when she is going to leave,I once talked to her 10 minutes and then told her that i need to do sth and she was like i love you left the text on seen then she snapped and again pmed me furious asked me a question and left my last answer on delivered and ran away!
I really like her we connected so much i just don't wanna lose her but she is really playing hard so i can't stand it!
Also note:She suffered from Depression this may be one cause,the second cause is she is trying to figure out if i am the same guy and i love her as my woman not just an sexual object but if i keep her begging caring alot i am losing her she thinks so high of her status and i drop myne,3rd one is she is probably talking to a guy which the possibilitie's are less since i was the first guy she was in the Relationship!
It's like i am so confused idk what to do and thank god i found this forum please if any of you could help any answer would be much appreciated thank you alot guys it means alot!

 

[wifehunter]

Low interest level. Take a step back. Let her come to you. Its more natural this way, since woman was made for man. Save your strength for your mission.

 

[Axl Salvator]

Okey so she did not pm for 2 days she is going to sooner or later i should just be patient and w8 right,if she pms
the other question is should i keep the pm's short and interesting and then leave in the middle of the convo or tell her that i am busy ttyl and leave giving her the same validation
like im going to buy sth babe ttyl and then not pm again.
Or if she pm's should i at least leave it 1 day on delivered like she does make her wonder even more!
Lets hope she pm's i am really confused man idk,i can't even inv her out again cuz she will probably refuse for sure right now.

 

[dude99]

Okey i don't really know how to start it's really complicated!
So we went out a bunch of times head sex etc everything was going fine!
We were really open to each other expressed every emotion that we head she told me a bunch of times i can't live without you i did the same i mean everything was going fine she would pm me afterwards for hours asking me caring about me i did the same.
But lately she suddenly changed for late 10 days,She pm's acts a bit distant cold short answers but still talks keeps in touch,The thing that she pays attention the most is she starts the convo makes me warm up and then suddenly leaves in the middle of the convo letting my message the last and then she again pm's tomorrow playing it cool like nothing happened and continues the loop like this,again the tells she loves me but the emotions are less,and she keeps telling me trying to make me jelly that a bunch of guys stared at her today that she's beautiful etc,So one day i got really tired of this **** and asked her what was going on with an emotional text and she told me she does not feel like talking to people in general she is tired etc it has nothing to do with you etc,and in the old day's she would be tired and still talk to me.She is playing it cool and trying to get me mad or make me jelly when i explode she then tries to chill me like nothing happened.
So i really thought of changing the game idk should i remove the Validation and like if she pm's me keep the convos short like 20 minute give her less validation like calling her babe and asking how her day was the telling her got to do sth important and leaving i really need to cut the convos really short cuz she fools me warms me up then leaves in the middle of the convo shes unpredictable when she is going to leave,I once talked to her 10 minutes and then told her that i need to do sth and she was like i love you left the text on seen then she snapped and again pmed me furious asked me a question and left my last answer on delivered and ran away!
I really like her we connected so much i just don't wanna lose her but she is really playing hard so i can't stand it!
Also note:She suffered from Depression this may be one cause,the second cause is she is trying to figure out if i am the same guy and i love her as my woman not just an sexual object but if i keep her begging caring alot i am losing her she thinks so high of her status and i drop myne,3rd one is she is probably talking to a guy which the possibilitie's are less since i was the first guy she was in the Relationship!
It's like i am so confused idk what to do and thank god i found this forum please if any of you could help any answer would be much appreciated thank you alot guys it means alot!

She is entertaining attention from other guys and is now taking for granted that you will pine over her forever.

Withdraw all of your attention. Become busy and start dating other girls aka spin plates. Show her you have options. Be busy. Do not be availabile for her.

If you are focusing all your time and energy on her she will see you have no options and she will see you as low value.

If she sees you hwve options and are busy and not waiting around for her then this will get her hampster wheel spinning.

 

[dude99]

Okey so she did not pm for 2 days she is going to sooner or later i should just be patient and w8 right,if she pms
the other question is should i keep the pm's short and interesting and then leave in the middle of the convo or tell her that i am busy ttyl and leave giving her the same validation
like im going to buy sth babe ttyl and then not pm again.
Or if she pm's should i at least leave it 1 day on delivered like she does make her wonder even more!
Lets hope she pm's i am really confused man idk,i can't even inv her out again cuz she will probably refuse for sure right now.

If she hasn’t messaged you for two days then you are out. She has nexted you already.

If she suddely answers you then i would ghost her and stay nc until she shows some serious interest if she does at all.

I think its time to move on. Spin plates. Then you won't care so much about this one

 

[RangerMIke]

You are more into her than she you, she senses this and is pulling back. You need to back off an start seeing other girls. Don't get all butt hurt about this, all chicks are like this, there is really nothing for you to fix because this is normal. If she likes you she'll be back to reaching out to you again, then make dates and fvck her. If not... keep seeing other girls.

 

[dude99]

Honestly, any guy spinning plates would probably end up in my mind set. And that is a small proportion of this forum.

Nobody is fvcking doing it. And then many complain when a man of abundance tells them the score.

Spin more plates. Get a grip.

This b1tch means nothing in the grand scheme of things. She is merely a tool of excitement and self-reflection.

What is there to learn in this particular endevour? What of your actions are being reflected back at you here?

Have a brief think before approaching the next one.

I agree. Not sure who said it but one of the guys here pointed out that most guys spend most of their time chasing girls who aren't interested. Of he was spinning plates he wouldn't care or may not even notice when a low quality woman starts to drift away. The only reason this is bothering him is because this is the only girl he is seeing most likely.

 

[Axl Salvator]

Yo thank you guys for all thos answers it really means alot,idk it just
happened suddenly you know she was all emotional etc etc once her cat
jumped out of window and she told me she needed me more then anything
but on the other hand you guys are right i gave her all myself so she
knows i am there and is keeping me as a bench player i guess while
talking to other guys,if she ever pms i will give her the same validation
just act busy and leave it at short if she snaps then i'll just inv her
out and **** her again then i can controle her i think.It was really
suprising that when i asked her what was wrong she answered me why are you
thinking bad things etc it's not about you in general i am not in the mood
talking to people lately i feel tired etc i showed her neediness i guess by
the pm,it was just suprising all thos things she shared she even cried
i was always there to motivate her how easy it was for her to forget i mean
maybe she did not forget she is just testing me lets see what happens

 

[Axl Salvator]

Guys one More question please,if someone can make this clear to me
If she decides to pm me lets pretend she pmed me should i let the message
on delivered for a day and then pm her back telling her hey i was busy
And talk about some school projects etc like nothing happened like she does
and then tell her catch ya up laterz and leave again and not pm i think
this might increase the chase on her side a bit more!
Also is there a possibility how to put the ball on her court and inv her
out straightly and then leave please someone answer.
She always when she decides to pm pm's warms me up in the convo and you
can't really predict when she will leave the convo boom she leaves it and
then she pm's tomorrow again,once i didn't pm her for like 3 hours she got
super pissed and when i pmed her back she waited a day then replied please
someone make this clear to me it would mean alot i know i am boring but
it's just that i really don't wanna lose her!!!!!

 

[CMNILS87]

Wall of text crits you for 9000. First off she knows you're scared of losing her and it reeks of desperation. She's testing you to see what you'll do. I'd distance yourself and just act normal

 

[hockeyfreak79]

You care way to much! Stop having conversations with her via text! Leave conversations for when you see her in person! Texting is for setting up dates. Seriously forget about her & find new prospects. When she went cold she was out going on dates with other guys. Get your head straight and stop this spilling out emotions crap and I can't live with out you bs.

You have major oneitis, start reading the Bible asap.

 

[Axl Salvator]

Wall of text crits you for 9000. First off she knows you're scared of losing her and it reeks of desperation. She's testing you to see what you'll do. I'd distance yourself and just act normal

Well then you guys need to tell me a good way to inv her out it's like
take it or leave it the last time i asked her about going out she said
she does not feel like going out cuz her parents aint allowing her bla bla
so i need to gif her sth take it or leave it and not pm her again since
you guys telling me to stop the texting ****!

 

[marmel75]

You are way too easy for her...no challenge and she is simply bored. She never has to wonder about you, she knows she can do whatever and you'll be head over heels in love with her

She has you twirled around her finger and whenever something comes that easy it has little value. You need to pull waaaaay back and get a grip on yourself. Stop acting like a love sick puppy and start acting like a man. At this stage of the relationship she should care about you at least twice as much as you care about her. It her job over time to get it closer to 50-50.

When you give her 50-50 or in your case even worse, 40-60 at the beginning you've ruined it for her, she needs to feel good about locking you down. How can she feel good about that when you've ran inside the cage, slammed the door shut, locked it and then handed her the key??

In her mind it clearly shows you are desperate and have no options other than her, and the most unattractive thing for a woman is to think you are with her because you have nobody else. She wants you to be with her because you've chosen her over everyone else..

 

[Axl Salvator]

You are way too easy for her...no challenge and she is simply bored. She never has to wonder about you, she knows she can do whatever and you'll be head over heels in love with her

She has you twirled around her finger and whenever something comes that easy it has little value. You need to pull waaaaay back and get a grip on yourself. Stop acting like a love sick puppy and start acting like a man. At this stage of the relationship she should care about you at least twice as much as you care about her. It her job over time to get it closer to 50-50.

When you give her 50-50 or in your case even worse, 40-60 at the beginning you've ruined it for her, she needs to feel good about locking you down. How can she feel good about that when you've ran inside the cage, slammed the door shut, locked it and then handed her the key??

In her mind it clearly shows you are desperate and have no options other than her, and the most unattractive thing for a woman is to think you are with her because you have nobody else. She wants you to be with her because you've chosen her over everyone else..

Okey man can you please specify one thing by pulling what do you mean?
If she pm's for ex like not answering her pm's totally ignoring her
or keeping the pm's short interesting and leaving acting busy!
At first she accepted me the way i was right now she is bored i guess
If she decides to pm what should i do how should i act provocative or what ?
Please i just wana be sure and clear!
If she ever pm's again!
I just don't get it how can she not remember the moments we head all thos
hugs her telling me she loves me etc!

 

[Axl Salvator]

Okey man can you please specify one thing by pulling what do you mean?
If she pm's for ex like not answering her pm's totally ignoring her
or keeping the pm's short interesting and leaving acting busy!
At first she accepted me the way i was right now she is bored i guess
If she decides to pm what should i do how should i act provocative or what ?
Please i just wana be sure and clear!
If she ever pm's again!
I just don't get it how can she not remember the moments we head all thos
hugs her telling me she loves me etc!

And if we start talking in pm's should i call her babe or anything like validate her?like nothing happened i just wont be angry and act busy i guess.

 

[Axl Salvator]

If i don't reply if she decides to pm she will feel ignored her interest
level will drop even more one more question,i also need to reply if she pm's
we cant set up meetings without pm's.

 

[Spironoa]

Man you have to relax, accept the fact that you did things wrong. Invest some time in you (friends, activities, working out) go meet other people, feel better about you ! You should go nc let her wonder, improve, read the Bible and get your sh*t together. You should not care if she texts you atm cause you are probably going to do things worse. Stop bombarding her with pm's it shows that you are losing it ( same as the constant posting in here ). Life is fun dont get miserable over a chick...

 

[Axl Salvator]

How many other women are you approaching weekly (even monthly if you prefer)?

Talking to 4 woman atm man,but i just head sex with them i don't feel anything for them
i liked this one because not just she was hot or anything but she was caring sensitive emotional

 

[NSX-R]

Man up you little biatch.
Relax. There are 2 steps that you have to do.
1) Start No Contact.
2)Start Spinning plates.

She's just one of 3 billion women in the world. She's not so special as you think.

 

[marmel75]

Okey man can you please specify one thing by pulling what do you mean?
If she pm's for ex like not answering her pm's totally ignoring her
or keeping the pm's short interesting and leaving acting busy!
At first she accepted me the way i was right now she is bored i guess
If she decides to pm what should i do how should i act provocative or what ?
Please i just wana be sure and clear!
If she ever pm's again!
I just don't get it how can she not remember the moments we head all thos
hugs her telling me she loves me etc!

Until you stop needing her validation to lead a fulfilling life nothing I will say is going to matter.