"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is it possible she will come back?
More info this started with a trip I planned to a national park. Me and a friend ended up getting lost. She was so sick and tired of me that she finally left. Then I went and got a job at a hunters store. Should I just move on? Advice deeply appreciated.


Also a friend of mine also was recently dumped. But he went for the first girl that came along. Now his ex girlfriend knows where he lives. What should I do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Beardme321 said:
Is it possible she will come back?
Starting with this phrase shows that you do want her back and you are not really ready to move on, which is ok.

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More info this started with a trip I planned to a national park. Me and a friend ended up getting lost. She was so sick and tired of me that she finally left. Then I went and got a job at a hunters store. Should I just move on? Advice deeply appreciated.
This reminds me of Family guy lol! Firstly, you don't give more info here! Tired of what? You, getting lost in national parks? Or are you always doing foolish things? if yes, then it's your fault and yes you should move on and get wiser!

You basically say, I broke up cause of a stupid reason, should I move on or try get back with her? How can anyone here know the answer? You want to move on? Move on! You want her back? Stop getting lost in National parks and wise up before even trying!

More info are needed in this thread about what happened, how long have you been together etc, I don't think anyone can help with these kind of info.
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
Starting with this phrase shows that you do want her back and you are not really ready to move on, which is ok.



This reminds me of Family guy lol! Firstly, you don't give more info here! Tired of what? You, getting lost in national parks? Or are you always doing foolish things? if yes, then it's your fault and yes you should move on and get wiser!

You basically say, I broke up cause of a stupid reason, should I move on or try get back with her? How can anyone here know the answer? You want to move on? Move on! You want her back? Stop getting lost in National parks and wise up before even trying!

More info are needed in this thread about what happened, how long have you been together etc, I don't think anyone can help with these kind of info.
Thank you so much! We were together for 5 years. But she knows I was out of it for the last few years. I'm sure there's something there.
 

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DonJuanit0 said:
Starting with this phrase shows that you do want her back and you are not really ready to move on, which is ok.



This reminds me of Family guy lol! Firstly, you don't give more info here! Tired of what? You, getting lost in national parks? Or are you always doing foolish things? if yes, then it's your fault and yes you should move on and get wiser!

You basically say, I broke up cause of a stupid reason, should I move on or try get back with her? How can anyone here know the answer? You want to move on? Move on! You want her back? Stop getting lost in National parks and wise up before even trying!

More info are needed in this thread about what happened, how long have you been together etc, I don't think anyone can help with these kind of info.
You know the other day I tried to go sailing. And I ended up getting hospitalized. All I could say was brinks.
 

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Beardme321 said:
Thank you so much! We were together for 5 years. But she knows I was out of it for the last few years. I'm sure there's something there.
I will only stand here, she knows you were out of it? so you wanted to break up? if yes, then why all the fuzz?

You're sure there's something there? Sorry but I didn't get that! She broke up with you because she had figured it out?

If you regreted, you can try getting her back but I think you need to work yourself more. If she has moved on, you should move on as well! Your life seems adventurous so I don't think you'll have a problem with it! :)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonJuanit0 said:
I will only stand here, she knows you were out of it? so you wanted to break up? if yes, then why all the fuzz?

You're sure there's something there? Sorry but I didn't get that! She broke up with you because she had figured it out?

If you regreted, you can try getting her back but I think you need to work yourself more. If she has moved on, you should move on as well! Your life seems adventurous so I don't think you'll have a problem with it! :)
Well I fell in love with her.
 

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Well I fell in love with her.
After you broke up? Then it's more of an EGO thing rather than love I guess, but ok!

You can try man! We obviously can't be sure about the reasons she broke up with you but you can try! I don't know if what you did was wrong, cause I support any idea of adventure especially for a man, but you seem to have failed both times in a funny way though! :) Just ask her out again and see where it goes!
 

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Is it possible she will come back?
More info this started with a trip I planned to a national park. Me and a friend ended up getting lost. She was so sick and tired of me that she finally left
no move on
 

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no move on
Thanks. I think this is what I'll do. Hey that Vantage guy might end up with Kate Upton right. Who knows what could happen.
 

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Read the 'dumped' no contact challenge guide, perfect for your situation
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ok...blablabla...She broke up.....blablabla ...I love her...blablabla.
Nothing else to the story....everything in between is useless info. Now....time to say f it....cut your loses and no contact and move on.
I feeeeeeeel your pain.....I HATE IT....specially after a five year investment.
I wish there was a "pink pill".....we got the red pill, blue pill...and now its the pink pill. Except, this little pill you give to her and she falls in love with you as soon as she takes it. The pink pill....yeah, that is what I am going to call it!!!
Bro, not making fun of you, believe me when I say I am one who can easily fall in love, get oneitis, and become pu++y whipped if I let it happen. I have a jar of red pills to keep reminding me about reality. Unfortunately, that jar still almost full because I still have to keep taking it one by one....but one day that jar is going to be empty....and that's when I know I will be just fine.
Abe
 
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