"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well I noticed since I started going out with her, some things have changed. First, the music she listens to has "magically" switched from the poppish stuff she liked (britney spears I guess?) to what I listen to. Things she's only heard when she's with me she says "Oh I love that song!". Her clothing style is starting to match mine more and more, and her attitude is going from more of a sarcastic or bleak outlook to happy and optomistic (like mine). When I'm sad, she's sad. When I'm happy, she's happy. Oh and I play guitar. She bought a guitar a couple days ago.

I'm baffled and intrigued. All at once. Someone care to explain what's going on? Is this normal?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Turn her into a dirty latina maid and have fun
 
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Sounds like she's just really into you. And maybe she doesn't yet have a real good grasp on who she is. I dunno.

I think it would be kind of flattering and cool for a while, but I could see it getting old. Variety is the spice of life.
 
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Sounds to me like she wants acceptance. Maybe she doesn't know what she wants or knows who she is? It may be kinda cool now, but a little difference isn't all that bad.. in fact it keeps things interesting. I wouldn't be surprised if she started getting on your nerves here in a little bit.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Enjoy it and tell her you really like to give oral sex, there's nothing more satisfying....
 
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It's simple.. acceptance and a way to connect. Doesn't mean anything more.
 
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Sounds like you have a good thing going - she is obviously really into you, and wants to feel closer to you. It really seems that when two people feel strongly for each other, they tend to change to become more like each other. My girlfriend's tastes in music have changed slightly (she was already listening to stuff like Evanescence and 3 Doors Down, so Linkin Park wasn't a big step), and both of us have taken greater interest in the other's hobbies.
 
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She probably looks up to you, you've probably made quite the impression on you.. and like someo of the guys said, sounds to me like she wants to please you or impress you!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How many "playersupremes" are actually on this site? :confused:
 
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then i guess PS should be extremely flattered then.
 
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