"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My girlfriend+college+my summer...weird.

Patrick124

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I've been with my girlfriend for 5.5 monthes, one of whcih I broke up with her for. I came back to her[it was a weird situation, my face got fvcked up in a fight and I hadnt had sex in weeks cause of school conferences n shat, though i did get with 2 girls lol..] and now we've been dating.
Since then shes taught me how to be a decent boyfriend. But ever single day in the back of my mind is a nagging thing. Shes done with highschool, I'm going to be a senior; when she goes to college in 3 weeks, shes gonna drink[she doesnt drink as of now] party, and probably sleep around because shes pretty easy. I'm honestly kinda looking foward to her leaving because I
ll be free to do w/e i want for a while.
And for that month we were broken up, I made date-plans with a girl that I've never gotten to do since shes been on vacation for 2 monthes stragiht, now shes back and I hope to get her to go to homecoming with me int he upcoming year. She even was so excited about the date she left me a comment on myspace 3 weeks ago; "I'll be home soon Pat, and I do believe I owe you a sushi date!"
basically, do I continue to date around[and how do i do so without cheating, but also not looking like I'm scared to make the first move] lol.
what would you all do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NYC Dude

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Well you will (hopefully) break up with her before she heads off to college, so why not just get it over with now and start dating other girls?
 

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she knows i'm dumping her the day she leaves for college.
and i tried that, that was my reason the first time. i actually liek the chick a lot, but half of me[the pen!s half] wants to date casually.
feel me?
 

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If she knows you are dumping her the day she goes to college, just get it over with. If she already knows, why drag it on?

Ditch her and date around. That is why you are asking us for advice on something you are already going to do.
 
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