She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
KontrollerX said:Don't give her any of your time.
If she wants it she has to give you what you want.
Thats the way it works.
Still if you are forced to interact with her be it at school or work or whatever don't act all p!ssed off around her just be cordial and keep conversation to an extreme minimum.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Meh, fvck them.we all eat food said:ok sounds logical, but her friends already thinking im a jerk and she probably does also
Very nicely put. Always interested in your answers KontrollerX, keep that **** up.You two would never be real friends so no sense in putting on some charade and being a girlfriend to her while she talks to you about all the other guys she's fvcking and asking you for relationship advice about them.
I'm sure you or no guy out there wants to hear that sh!t. Even the biggest AFC's if you were to privately interrogate them wouldn't want to hear that sh!t even if they go along with this phony friendship b.s.
That LJBF stuff is an insidious mean spirited massive act of disrespect on a chick's part dressed up falsely as a true olive branch of friendship in order that she can...
1. Not be hated by you since chicks can't stand to be hated by anyone.
2. Keep you around incase her new relationship doesn't work out and she needs an immediate ego gratification fallback plan.
3. Get over any remaining emotional feelings for you quickly as the false friendship progresses because the false friendship itself helps to cement her self brainwashing that you are now just a friend ie seen as a friend.
4. She drifts away from the friendship entirely or worse keeps you as her girlfriend for life telling you all about the guys who are doing things to her you wish you'd be doing instead.
The man who entertains this garbage goes through a slow death of dignity.
Don't be that man.
Ever.
The only time friendship with an ex is acceptable is if you have both fallen out of love with eachother and mutually agree to end the relationship but remain friends since you agree you both work better that way.
This type of situation is balanced as you two are equals with neither of you having more power over the other.
Always be on good terms... you never know if you need help one day. Sh*t you could be broke down on the side of the road with a dead cell phone.. and she drives by...we all eat food said:I dont really care, me and her were nothing alike, she was too boring for me, I just went out with her for the sex i guess.
Anyways, is it DJ to not talk to her anymore, or should i be on good terms with her
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The Sperminator said:Don't contact her she already said she doesn't want to be friends.