"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
My girl has had sex before me
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If so you are in a lucky situation although I hope you tread lightly...a girl that forward raises a few red flags.....if your looking for a quick sex encounter no big deal...but if you are looking for a quality girl I might suggest you do your homework on this chick....I pray for you she isn't a party favor.
If you want more I wouldn't highly recommend this girl (no offense) butif she is cool with admitting this so casually who knows what else she hass done. I come down to this...are you cool with being with her knowing about her past. If you think it is something that'll make you uncomfortable then say the hell with it....no girl is worth that in my opinion.
Don't know what advise i should offer a 16 year old, but here is my input.Sosa_80 said:
Sex is fun and for her to insist or mention it proves she enjoys it.
She shouldn't be able to put you under pressure to have sex and you should do it when you feel ready. If she values sex above you, then she needs to find some else who will supply her urges.
She is being honest with you. She may have thought that your under the assumption that she is a virgin and when the right time does come, she didn't want you to be shocked or surprised.
Either way, don't allow yourself to placed under pressure by her.
Have sex when you feel you are ready to do it!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
It seems to me that shes the type of girl that had sex and now LOVES it. They exist I know quite a few of em.
You need to figure out how you feel about it and what you wanna do and where you want the relationship to go.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Yes, that should always be the only type of girl in your life.
I agree with Zen. To the op, are you worried about doing it and then her liking the other guy better? Whatever your concerns about that other guy might be, you are the one she wants now. He's probably sitting at home crying over her because he turned into an afc and chased her away.
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