"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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my gf's brother/problems....

illmatic1005

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ok..my gf was flirting with some drunk guy the other day..and i wasnt really mad because i trust her and whatever...but i just told her that it was kinda disrespectful but im not mad or anything because they were just having fun..and i want her to have some fun...


the only problem was that her brother found out and thought i was really jealous and upset(which i wasnt) ..and told her basically that im a piece of trahs jealous loser and i should grow up and not worry so much and stop trying to 'control' her life..(even tho i didnt really care)..

Then, my gf told him that i wasnt mad and that someone told me they made out, which was the only reason i was mad..and then she said that shes not 'tied down' bcuz shes not married..


now shes acting all differently like she never use to be4...i think she doesnt wanna feel 'tied down'..even tho i gave her all the freedom in the world to do whatever and trusted her that she didnt cheat on me..

any advice?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WHOA DUDE!!! she made out with another guy. and then she has the nerve to say that shes not tied down because she is not married. wow this b1tch is a trip. so much disrespect that i dont even noe u and im pissed. please get rid of this chick.. u can do so much better bro

good luck man
 

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Dump Her.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Tell her; "Sorry I havn't been giving you "freedom" but now, that i'm breaking up with you. You have all the freedom you want!!!" :crackup:

That will teach her. Plus, she made out with another guy? Not a huge deal but still... Get rid of her.
 

JDA70

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When you say GF did you actually ask her to go steady?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Dude, you posted about this party slvt before, she needs to be downgraded to a fvck buddy with no emotional attachment to her.

I would never ever have a GF who flirts with other guys when drunk.

NO EMOTION ATTACHMENT!

You don't even need to tell her, she already treated you like cr@p.
 

JDA70

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Well then it's time to cut her off
and find some other girls.
 

illmatic1005

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wolf116 said:
Dude, you posted about this party slvt before, she needs to be downgraded to a fvck buddy with no emotional attachment to her.

I would never ever have a GF who flirts with other guys when drunk.

NO EMOTION ATTACHMENT!

You don't even need to tell her, she already treated you like cr@p.

i would but she says shes a ''good girl'' now...yea what a bunch of cr@p...

i asked her when we gonna take it to the next level bcuz its been 2 months and shes like ..'im a good girl, maybe never"

so i said "im find holdin hands with u if thats all u want'..and she was happy.

BUT the only problem i have is that after i met her, i became GOOD friends with her brother who is my age...i chill with him all the time and when i see him, i'll see this girl and it willbe akward and she'll try to make me jealosu when other guys are around!!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's only awkward if you care.
She will only try to make you jealous if you get jealous.

You sound really young(high school?), so I guess you are still learning.
Just make sure you do learn.

Hold up. This brother doesn't sound like much of a friend if he is speaking sh!t to her!

You don't need these people.
 

illmatic1005

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wolf116 said:
You don't need these people.
i think your are right when u say that...but its always fun hanging out with them..sometimes i wish she would dissapear from sight..then it would be easy cause ill find another chick easily...im reallllyy attached to this girl tho ughhhh
 

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Stop relying on other people to give you fun and make you happy.

You are only attached to this girl because she is you only supply of ass ATM.
 

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wolf116 said:
Dude, you posted about this party slvt before, she needs to be downgraded to a fvck buddy with no emotional attachment to her.

I would never ever have a GF who flirts with other guys when drunk.

NO EMOTION ATTACHMENT!

You don't even need to tell her, she already treated you like cr@p.
Yep.

Can't turn a ho into a housewife no way no how.

Making out with someother dude= immediate breakup with that chick.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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illmatic1005 said:
ok..my gf was flirting with some drunk guy the other day..and i wasnt really mad because i trust her and whatever...but i just told her that it was kinda disrespectful but im not mad or anything because they were just having fun..and i want her to have some fun...

Then, my gf told him that i wasnt mad and that someone told me they made out, which was the only reason i was mad..and then she said that shes not 'tied down' bcuz shes not married..
She must really love you to make out with another guy.
 

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Ah look its the old Captain-Save-a-ho' back with more issues from the same girl. You completely ignored what i posted last time (which was very useful information because i went out with the exact same type of girl back in highschool), thus i will not give you more advice except this...

When the "relation****" is over, bleed it out, get yourself together, then go find another girl/girls because you can definitly do better than this one.
 
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