hahaha man you reek of insecurity. i have definitely NOT the most cut-up body that girls drool over, yet i can still pull HBs. when the topic comes up of body, they talk about how that guy has "such a nice body." who cares? in the end you are the one boning her. get a grip on yourself
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My GF loves hulked-out guys & Im not 1
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Great, now you are finally starting to get somewhere. So your gut is sending off warnings right? Stop trying to hold on to her. Stop arguing about it. Stop spending time/money on her. Make her a FB but don't tell her. Play the game. When you pull back she will do one or two things, chase or release. And I do agree with logical player...you need more women on your team. You're all nutted up over this one because she's smoking hot and she's probably the only woman you have right now. If you roll in circles to meet women like her, then you need to be meeting more women like her. You need to go out on "boys nights" to where more women like her hang out. You need to basically relax, chill and be free, that's probably what attracted her to you in the first place, and now you are acting anything but. Stop worrying about what she likes and worry about what you like, spin some plates and relax. Detach your emotions from the pussay.Zappati said:
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Zappati said:
Assuming all of this is true, obviously it does not require self-esteem to land a hot girl.
As oua1989 said, you reek of insecurity. Logging onto her myspace & facebook? Demanding that she repeatedly profess her attraction to you? Your behavior is at about a junior-high school level of maturity.
You have to stop caring what some bimbo you're dating thinks, as well as, for the most part, what everyone else thinks of you. Why does it matter? It shouldn't. When you get over your own insecurities, you will find women to be a lot more attracted to you, and the fear of that not happening was what you were insecure about in the first place.
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sharkybear said:
The person least invested in the relationship has the most power. It really sounds like she's got you by the balls with her having her cake and eating it too.
Have you tried flipping the script with her? Start checking out other hotties and don't be discrete about it. When she starts complaining just say you're gonna start people watching like she does. If she gives you crap or starts to try shaming you, bring out my lovely line "How would you feel if...?"
I think your focus is WAY too much on your girl. Why not focus on yourself? See, I'm a fairly skinny guy too. and I tend to get insecure about my weight b/c it's just frustrating. So I started hitting the gym to solve my skinny problem. Now, I'm eating 2x to 3x as much food per day, and I'm a eating & sh*ting machine. My confidence is higher, and I'm seeing results in the mirror.Zappati said:
My Suggestion: Work on the insecurity instead of working on her. Honestly man, someone made a great point on this board: you'll end up breaking up or married. Those are the only two possibilites. Now think about that?? You need to improve yourself man. Nothing works faster than finding an insecurity, focusing on it, and feeling great about your progress and results.
Don't try to overanalyze the problem. Find a solution QUICKLY and get started! Plus, working out will make your work and house tasks much easier, carrying stuff is a breeze, more respect as you walk around the city, better sports performance, better sex performance, I could go on but you know what I'm saying!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think you are being too insecure wit yourself
look at you. you are the one with this chick now. not some beefy hulked out guy, but you. you say you have a good relationship and she likes you, yes YOU, so why should it matter if she like Hulked out guys? i'm sure you check out hot chicks when you see them, and you would agree that checking out if generally harmless. she was disrespectful to do it infront of you, but i would not count a huge strike against her just because she physically appreciates another man. do her one better, agree with her, that'll throw her a loop
as for the comment thing....that's different. i don't know what to say about that one...talk to her..don't fight, but talk
but all in all, have more confidence in yourself. she likes you now, so be you, the person that she likes now
Personally my gf Goes Gaga over guys who can sing, and has dated singers in the past. I know how it feels bro, i felt it before too. I have a terrible singing voice, i sound like someone dying.
but she loves me now and that's all that matters. She likes my speaking voice, she thinks it's sexy. that's what makes me, me. screw what she saw in other guys. be you. she obviously like something in you that she didn't see in other guys, or is more valuable than big muscles
have more confidence in yourself man. that's what's causing problems. your insecurity.
look at you. you are the one with this chick now. not some beefy hulked out guy, but you. you say you have a good relationship and she likes you, yes YOU, so why should it matter if she like Hulked out guys? i'm sure you check out hot chicks when you see them, and you would agree that checking out if generally harmless. she was disrespectful to do it infront of you, but i would not count a huge strike against her just because she physically appreciates another man. do her one better, agree with her, that'll throw her a loop
as for the comment thing....that's different. i don't know what to say about that one...talk to her..don't fight, but talk
but all in all, have more confidence in yourself. she likes you now, so be you, the person that she likes now
Personally my gf Goes Gaga over guys who can sing, and has dated singers in the past. I know how it feels bro, i felt it before too. I have a terrible singing voice, i sound like someone dying.
but she loves me now and that's all that matters. She likes my speaking voice, she thinks it's sexy. that's what makes me, me. screw what she saw in other guys. be you. she obviously like something in you that she didn't see in other guys, or is more valuable than big muscles
have more confidence in yourself man. that's what's causing problems. your insecurity.