My GF is acting like a loney tune right now. WTF do I do

[MKS82]

My gf is acting crazy. she can't sleep at night and shes very snappy. we have been fighting a lot recentley. Shes in grad school and is stressed out, we also just got a dog (we live together) and shes stressed out about that, she might be stressed about me but I really dont do anything except put her in line when she does stupid sh*t. But she just gets really moody and on the edge ready to snap. I just get kind of hard show her tough love sometimes cause she needs to grow up. But what should I do right now ive never seen her like this? should I just let her be by herself and her friends or try to help her? She always says she wants to be left alone when shes in a bad mood.

 

[Black_Italian]

I think she might be cheating. Women try to hide the guilt in diffrent ways some will be extra nice some will go crazy.

Ninja out

 

[NewMan]

Tell her to go see a Dr.

 

[MKS82]

yea she wants to see a doctor but thats just stupid if she starts seeing a doctor and taking pills im outty.

 

[DJ_in_making]

well, i'll be....

Does she only act like this certain times of the month, or all the time??

 

[jprjrjr]

Re: well, i'll be....

Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Does she only act like this certain times of the month, or all the time??

Cry really loud in front of her, and see what she does.

 

[TxCowboy]

Before you go assuming a bunch of stuff about her , you need to understand something about college. I dont know if you've been or not, but , college is very stressful and I can personally testify to that (I'm graduating this Saturday). I see this kind of stuff all the time around here (campus) - girls will smoke more, drink more, bit*h more, and take out a bunch of anger on others. In fact, guys do it too. Nothing is worse than trying to get a stupid 40 page thesis paper in for some prof who wants everything done their way.

You should take this into consideration a little bit more. Also, how much more time does she have to go in college? Was she like this b4 she started getting her masters?

If this isnt the case, then your g/f needs some help ...

 

[Skel]

who cares if college is stressful. Because she goes to college doesent mean ****. She should act right or get left behind if you ask me. I dont put up with that bull****.

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by Skel
who cares if college is stressful. Because she goes to college doesent mean ****. She should act right or get left behind if you ask me. I dont put up with that bull****.

Good for u Fvck nuts ! Obviously your just another pre-teenie and have no fvcking clue about life outside of high school.

And yes, i too would only stand for so much of that crap b4 i put a boot to her h0 ass !

B4 u next the h0, at least take some sh1t into consideration is all im trying to get across here ...

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Originally posted by Black_Italian
I think she might be cheating. Women try to hide the guilt in diffrent ways some will be extra nice some will go crazy.

Ninja out

And where in MKS82's post is there an indication where he suspects that his girl may be cheating on him? Get a grip.

 

[Black_Italian]

I don’t care if he suspects the girl may be cheating I am just offering advice as to some behavioral changes a women shows when she is cheating. A sudden change in behavior could indicate that she is cheating it may also indicate other things. It is common for a woman that is cheating to become "crazy" because that how she deals with her guilt. I am in no way saying that she is definitely beyond a shadow of a doubt cheating I am simply telling him to watch out because what he has described could very well be an indication that his GF is being unfaithful. So you are the one that should "get a grip".

Ninja out

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Sounds pregnant.

 

[Black_Italian]

Theres another reason.

Ninja out

 

[DJ_in_making]

Originally posted by TxCowboy
Before you go assuming a bunch of stuff about her , you need to understand something about college. I dont know if you've been or not, but , college is very stressful and I can personally testify to that (I'm graduating this Saturday). I see this kind of stuff all the time around here (campus) - girls will smoke more, drink more, bit*h more, and take out a bunch of anger on others. In fact, guys do it too. Nothing is worse than trying to get a stupid 40 page thesis paper in for some prof who wants everything done their way.

You should take this into consideration a little bit more. Also, how much more time does she have to go in college? Was she like this b4 she started getting her masters?

If this isnt the case, then your g/f needs some help ...

Yea, college is stressful. LIFE in general is stressful, but you are not excused for lashing out on someone else b/c of this. Everyone gets upset, and if there is a way to calm her down w/o escalating the situation MKS82 should do it. However it is still her responsibility to find a healthy way to vent out w/o projecting on someone else.

 

[CLOONEY]

College is not that stressful, and anyone who thinks it is takes themselves and life too seriously! That or they are real stupid and need to study too hard to pass! If you find College stressful, you are not going to survive 40 years in business with far more real life resonsibility on you!

She is either cheating on you, she is bored of you and wants something new or she just has serious issues. Either one, I would talk to her about it seriously, sit her down and do it properly. Wait and see if there are changes, work hard to keep it together if you like her and want this to last and she does also. If worst comes to worst, you are still young, move on!

How long have you been together?

 

[CLOONEY]

Oh sorry, didnt read the bottom part of it, she is definately getting bored and suffocated by you! Living together, YOU IDIOT!! Dont do this with a girl you like until you are married! IMHO!! Give her a LOT of space, start doing the things you love, and hang out with your friends. Give her moer space than she thinks she wants! Thats the only way to get this back on track!

 

[Black_Italian]

Originally posted by CLOONEY
Oh sorry, didnt read the bottom part of it, she is definately getting bored and suffocated by you! Living together, YOU IDIOT!! Dont do this with a girl you like until you are married! IMHO!! Give her a LOT of space, start doing the things you love, and hang out with your friends. Give her moer space than she thinks she wants! Thats the only way to get this back on track!

I’m somewhat confused on living with a girl before marriage. Don’t you think it would be a good idea to live with her so you get an idea of what she’s like to live with? You wouldn’t want to marry her then find out her habits around the house are really annoying and you can’t stand living with her.

On the other hand if you live with her before it can ruin the relationship.

So ive never been able to make up my mind on this.

Ninja out

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Black_Italian
I’m somewhat confused on living with a girl before marriage. Don’t you think it would be a good idea to live with her so you get an idea of what she’s like to live with? You wouldn’t want to marry her then find out her habits around the house are really annoying and you can’t stand living with her.

On the other hand if you live with her before it can ruin the relationship.

So ive never been able to make up my mind on this.

Ninja out

I agree, and thats why I dont live with them, but may some weeks spend a few nights of the week at eachothers place. This way, you get to see a lot of their habits, as you still practically live together, but still get your own space! Once marriage and total committment are involved, then its time to get in the real nitty gritty of the relationship and work out the flaws. If you live with them before, I honestly dont see nearly as much fun to marriage. Thats also why I added In My Honest Opinion, some may disagree and fair enough for their own reasons, just my opinion and thoughts from observations and experience!

 

[Black_Italian]

I agree with your opinion on this. I just got this fear that after i marry a girl il find out she has some really bad disgusting habbit and im goign to get turned off by it. You make a good poitn anyway spend a weekend over her place so you get an idea.

Ninja out

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by Black_Italian
I agree with your opinion on this. I just got this fear that after i marry a girl il find out she has some really bad disgusting habbit and im goign to get turned off by it. You make a good poitn anyway spend a weekend over her place so you get an idea.

Ninja out

Yeah, well more than a weekend. I usually spend anywhere between 1-5 nights a week with my girlfriend and have done so in the past with my other serious girlfriends. Gives me space when I want it and lets me see if I could possibly be compatible with them in a real serious LTR. Not just the 2 months LTRs people preach about on here. One similar to a marriage, where you get space and have to do a lot of sh*t together.

A couple of was fine spending a couple of dates a week with them, but realised once the relatinoship was intensified (and all have to be eventually), I couldtn deal with them in the long term. This is also why I beleive what guys say on this site, "only see your girlfriend once a week", is absolute bullsh*t! That is true for the first month or two, but then you have to step it up!