My GF is a b1tch sometimes update 1

[Jitterbug]

Have to concur with DonS. Looks like there are two b!tches in this guy's relationship. A cookie for those who can figure out who's the bigger b!tch.

 

[aix237]

lol jitterbug looks like your the bigger b1tch caues youre a posting machine on here with no b1tch of your own.

 

[aix237]

fvck well she was bluffing. We started talking when she got home. I kept on tellin her to hurry up and get out and that we will be done if she leaves for good. Then she went on to say if she moves out we should still be together. I was like yea ok that sounds fine (in my head i was like uh no im going out tonight to fvck a girl). I told her if she moves out im assuming were broken up, shes like noo. I konw that she wants to hold on till she finds someone.

Well then it got real interesting i started telling her well last night i made a decision not to fvck a girl cause i could have (which is the truth) cause i thought we were breaking up. She was like no were not if we were i would tell you. Then she said "well i need to tell my paretns cause they were going help me move out cause you were kicking me out." I said well. She said i was planning on staying for 2 more months here since im paying rent (in my head i was like you gotta be kidding me). The funny thing is that all she could say was i need space and want to live by myself. God i was playing along like o yea u can stay for 2 months then move out and well be togheter still. Even though i didnt mean it. Im goin out tonight to fvck and will if i can. How can you say you need space that bad then say well im going to live with you for 2 more months. lol. she might wait till this sh1t blows over cause there is no way she will have the same feeling two months from now.

 

[Jeffst1980]

You have way too much anger to be in any relationship right now.

Why don't you just end it now if you already know how things will play out? If you are so certain that she's just keeping you around till someone "better" comes along, why wait for it to happen?

It is NEVER a good idea to play the "I could've f-ed another girl last night" card. The motivations behind such a statement are so transparent that it instantly reeks of insecurity. Leave the mind games to the ladyfolk.

It sounds like you have no trust in your gf. Whether you're right or wrong, that means you should not be with her. Having said that, you owe to yourself to end things respectfully. If you hook up with another girl while she's under your roof, it will be quite obvious that you did it to "get back at her," much like an insecure girl will make out with an AFC in an attempt to inspire jealousy. This also has the added bonus of ensuring that she, her friends, and her family will remember you in a negative light.

A better idea is to sit her down and tell her that you think you both need time apart and that it would be best for her to move out now. Tell her that you thought about the discussions you've had and that it sounds like things just aren't the same, and that you'd hate to see your once great relationship turn into a hateful one. Stay calm and DON'T attack her for anything. This is the only way you can regain the power in the relationship; of course, what you do after that is up to you. She will most likely want to get back together, and I'm guessing you'll want to take her back.

The absolute WRONG thing to do right now is continue this silly drama of ignoring her, etc., while still allowing her to live with you.

 

[aix237]

Yea i know i need to cut off the little games. But i need to just let her know what is up. Earlier today i told if she moves out we will still talk be together or whatever her imaginary mind wants. she seemed comfortable cause she said "well i told my parents we are ok and if i move out there will be no hard feelings." But in reality that is not going to happen because i wont let it. If she moves out were never talking ever again. Thats just the way i operate. And i let it be known what is goin to happen.

I made a couple of jokes tonigth with her and said
"wow we got 60 days together until we never talk again."
"We should make a to do list of things we should do before we go cold turkey with each other forever"
"Ill make a calendar for the countdown"
"We are going to maybe have to pass two tests togehter. The first test is to see if we can save this in 60 days and if we fail that test we have to take test #2 to see if we wont crack and never talk again. I've passed #2 before."

She was like uh your off, why are you saying that, stop being so dramatic. I was laughin the whole time.

God shes said sh1t before and seemed set in her ways. Then I would say we are never talking again then. Next thing she goes against her own words. Its basically if i stand in her way somehow she wont go through with it cause she doesnt have the power in herself to pull the trigger and she changes her mind. If this relationship is going to end im the one who would have to do it and go through with it. She wont. im debating. Im goin out a lot more now so if i find someone pretty soon her azz is to the curb with a quickness.

 

[decades]

dude you are making yourself look like the Neediest guy on this forum. "I will kick her azz to the curb when I find someone new?" You are begging her not to leave you? You are "bargaining" with her in the hopes that she will continue to "want" you? All this proves you are deathly afraid of being "alone" and not having a warm body next to you. You don't listen to advice. You're simply here venting and blowing off steam, hoping that one of us will throw you a "morsel" of support in your attempt to supplicate yourself to this woman who really wishes you would just go away, because she doesn't have the courage or strength to leave you herself. This is so whacked out dysfunctional, which is why you two will probably stick it out.

 

[Jeffst1980]

I made a couple of jokes tonigth with her and said
"wow we got 60 days together until we never talk again."
"We should make a to do list of things we should do before we go cold turkey with each other forever"
"Ill make a calendar for the countdown"
"We are going to maybe have to pass two tests togehter. The first test is to see if we can save this in 60 days and if we fail that test we have to take test #2 to see if we wont crack and never talk again. I've passed #2 before."

She was like uh your off, why are you saying that, stop being so dramatic. I was laughin the whole time.

This reads as sulking. I understand you are trying the reverse psychology angle, but it isn't necessary--she obviously has contemplated these things already, and the best way to make her dwell on them is simply to carry on as normal. Don't let her move change your life, and stop bringing it up to her.

Its basically if i stand in her way somehow she wont go through with it cause she doesnt have the power in herself to pull the trigger and she changes her mind. If this relationship is going to end im the one who would have to do it and go through with it. She wont. im debating. Im goin out a lot more now so if i find someone pretty soon her azz is to the curb with a quickness.

You are deluding yourself. She WILL go through it unless you nip it in the bud and break up with her now. If it'll make you feel better about it, you can even take her back in a week when she comes begging (though I don't recommend it). But doing nothing is going to prolong your misery, and inevitably, she will find it in herself to leave.

If you had an infection, would you wait till your organs failed to treat it? That's essentially what's happening here.

 

[aix237]

I know my actions are like as you described but the whole point yea I can act needy right now just as long as its not everyday. Everybody acts needy you cant tell me you never have. A girl wont automatically leave if one day you act needy. She probably fills good seeing me act like that, but heres the thing. I act needy today she feels comfortable is getting what she wants, then the next im like well whatever I dont care, take away, in which case shell be like why doesnt he care all the sudden im losing him. If I want i can flip the switch and I have. Ive been with her long enough to know what she reacts to and how she is. There were times towards the beginning where she would be so set in her ways of us not being together I would push it and act needy then she would shut down then I would then she would come running back...this was done uncalculated.

To get what you want in this world you have to manipulate the situation. YOu cant say thats wrong because Im sure everyone here is needy in a way but the disguise it with a girl to not let her see it. Im not saying overall needy but at certain points this is done.

 

[piranha45]

I know my actions are like as you described but the whole point yea I can act needy right now just as long as its not everyday. Everybody acts needy you cant tell me you never have. A girl wont automatically leave if one day you act needy. She probably fills good seeing me act like that, but heres the thing. I act needy today she feels comfortable is getting what she wants, then the next im like well whatever I dont care, take away, in which case shell be like why doesnt he care all the sudden im losing him. If I want i can flip the switch and I have. Ive been with her long enough to know what she reacts to and how she is. There were times towards the beginning where she would be so set in her ways of us not being together I would push it and act needy then she would shut down then I would then she would come running back...this was done uncalculated.

To get what you want in this world you have to manipulate the situation. YOu cant say thats wrong because Im sure everyone here is needy in a way but the disguise it with a girl to not let her see it. Im not saying overall needy but at certain points this is done.

Haha, this is the battlecry of the oneitis AFC's who are beyond hope.

Seriously, I've watched so many threads where the original poster--utterly blind to all attempts at reason-- starts saying this exact stuff, almost verbatim. I still remember the day my best friend started muttering this "I can control her!!" stuff. You guys could start a Diehard-AFC clique.

DJs DO NOT CONTROL their women; they control themselves. AFCs are the ones who go berzerk and make attempts to control.

It's obvious to eveyone here that you can't separate yourself from her; you CAN'T. It's beyond your power. So now you're desperately trying to maintain that which your subconscious demands, in any form possible.

Anyway, you are a trainwreck, and you are completely lost to this forum, for now at least. AFTER this relationship's fiery demise rips up your psyche, you MIGHT learn something from it... I hope. Good luck, you frustrated chump.

 

[aix237]

Control is saying you cant do that or this dont wear this or that when in reality it is fine. You got it messed up pal. Im tellin her go ahead do what you gotta do but i cant promise you well talk if you move out. How is that controlling? She knows theres a possibility that I will shut her out forever if she moves out. Im just letting her know that. I shut her out completely for 2 years of my life and I can do it again this time for good. But I dont want that so im letting her know how its going to be if she leaves. I say DO WHAT YOU WANT IM NOT STOPPING YOU. Wow pretty controlling huh. Pir- I dont have to say much to you all i have to say is look who else (you) is posting on here

 

[decades]

no you can't flip the switch like a DJ because you have massive oneitis. And that's why you can't even imagine giving this chick up. Because you Need her. You depend on her. You'd be in the fetal position with your blanky if she dumped you. So you can "spit" out all the DJ lingo you want but I don't believe you are fooling anybody around here. You have massive oneitis and you are desperately desperately trying to hang onto this chick.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

God she really thinks she deserves a dude that makes like 500k a year right away. Well all i know is the dudes shes dated in the past. All non educated losers that got nothing on me and thats what shes going to get again if she decides to leave. I got a bachelors and Im finishing my masters right now. I know previous guys shes dated have a bachelors at best and are all push overs. I let that be known to her also that im not scared and not a push over like all her previous dudes. I also highly doubt shell find a guy that drives an 08 mercedes like myself lol.

She really doesn't think she deserves a dude that makes 500k a year, otherwise she'd attract and be with one of them dudes, right away.

Her record speaks for itself, she dates the same type of guys, then most likely, dumps them for a similar type. All the guys and you, have one thing in common, you lost your edge. Somewhere between when you first met and now, she has lost attraction, and respect for you, otherwise she would not be behaving the way she is. She knows what she can get away with you, and is constantly pushing the envelope in order to test your boundaries, with sadly, it seems she is not finding with you. She is loosing respect by the minute.

She might not find a guy wiht an 08 Benz, but she'll look for one who is a challenge and she can respect, at least initially, which were qualities you once displayed with her. Logically trying to point out all the "earthly goods" you have and can provide are just the equivalent to, "look at me, I got myself an 80,000 penis extension".

This will end the same way, you might as well kick her to the curb and salvage any amount of dignity you can still walk away with.

All The best.

 

[piranha45]

i hate when that happens

 

[aix237]

I know respect is being lost. its not about 500k a year its about the security hell if i was making 12k a year she would feel better. Shes struggling and shes worried taht since im not working she gets anxiety. Thats why im backing way off. Littl ehard when you live with them but still trying. I would call her atleast once a day to talk while shes at work but thats going to stop. Im even debating going away for the weekened. Im goin to give her a taste of what its like with me not around and see how she gets. If i want her in my life then Im going to cut her azz out for a little and make her feel lonely. Ill be nice around her but just cut the attention way down. At the same time if sh1t doesnt work out i will still be distant to make it easier. I honestly dont know.

If she moved gurantee I would get calls for the first couple weeks her coming over etc. Fvck that she leaves thats it.

 

[jophil28]

... a Littl ehard ....

I am surprised that your 'suprervisor' did not discuss your dyslexia with you when you submitted your masters' dissertation.

 

[aix237]

lol

 

[aix237]

update: So last week I went out almost every night and was short with her when I saw her. Then I didnt come home one night on purpose and slept at my parents house. The next day she was p1ssed. She said she never felt so lonely and thought i was cheating. I told her exactly what happened. Later on that night she was drunk and her true intentions were coming out. she was like i dont wanna move out etc. love you blah blah blah. I was like dont then. The next day her good friend came over which is also my friend i guess. Anyways she come over and was like you find a job blah blah blah blah. Obvious my GF was tellin her what she was thinking. I was right all along it was about my job situation. I really didnt bring it up with her. but things were good she was telling me she loves me etc saturday night etc. Sunday was basically fine.

Today she got a crown put on her tooth. so she was crabby. She has a gym pass which comes out of my account so every month she writes rent for a little extra. This has been going on for months which is no biggie and it shouldnt be. Then she was like yea ill transfer over my accout to myself. I asked for what, whats the difference? She was like oh whatever then. I said well actually ill just do it today cause i can just bring this check over so they can transfer it over. Then she was like nevermind yada yada yada.

Also today she was with me when I was on the phone with a recruiter about a really good job so she knows thats going on. But she makes these little comments here and there about moving out, then not moving out, then moving out, then just staying. I dont act indifferent like well I dont care what you do cause I really do and I let her know that. Like the comment about the gym account i knnow she wants to move it over for obvious reasons but i let her know i dont agree. Shes pretty much wishy washy.

So sickening. She wants to leave and have "space" be single what have you, so i give it to her and leave her alone at the house for 4 nights bascially and dont come home one. She gets p1ssed and comes home and says she wont leave anymore and felt soooo lonely etc. Then I start acting normal then she starts throwing hints again. Wtf.

I know she could be looking for a way out like luring me into being a d1ck but thats not going to happen. Im just going to act normal regardless and will put up a fight if she talks about leaving. i know her...she will do whatever she feels to do and will do it unless someone stands in her way then she will understand the logic. She can also just say sh1t so if she stays its my fault for her staying just in case something happens. Shes always been like this, always wanting to leave at certain points, does so, I say fine then she says ok my mind has changed ill stay.

 

[speed dawg]

Why hasn't this punk kid's IP address been banned?

 

[piranha45]

Because the mods/admins have a very lenient stance towards trolls.

 

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

Why hasn't this punk kid's IP address been banned?

Because in addition to all his other achievements, he is also a world class computer hacker, so any attempts you make to snuff him out will be futile!!! HAHAHAHAHA!!!