"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kidd

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I feel that I am progressing in life. I am becoming a better man day by day, with lightning speed. That is where the problem lies.

I feel that, I have "outgrown" my friends. Come to think of it, quite a few of my friends are AFC. Every time we go out, I see their common patheticness. Just the other day, 3 of us were chatting up these 2 hotties. One of them asks if someone would throw away her empty cup of Starbucks. 2 of them both reach for it with lightning speed, like she is a queen of some kind. At the end, my friend went like "dude, lets go buy a condom, we might get some". Im sitting there thinking wow... what losers.

What was once fun has now becameold and boring. Nowadays all some of my friends wanna do is sit at home and play X-Box rather than going out and actually doing something productive. Only witha few of my friends do I truly enjoy hanging out with . I am just sick and tired of seeing this crap happen every damn time. And sometimes, to be honest, I feel I hardly have any friends left and even feel lonely. Like I said before, I have "outgrown" them in alot of ways. I really hate this, and I cannot just drop my "afc" friends.

Any suggestions are welcome.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AFK Protector

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I feel this way too. I'm jsut doing my work and all and my buddy is like, "dude, get XBOX live it is the best, halo 2 is coming out, omfg splinter cell is the best."

or

"yo man, get a new PC cuz counter-strike 2 is coming out omfg it's the ****. let's pwnage thems yo."

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annoying as fvck, so I just ignore them or tell them no I don't like that stuff as enthusiastically as them. You need to move on man. I'm kinda breaking off from my friends now. I still know them and keep connections cuz they're useful, but I don't let them or ANYONE keep me back.

You will eventually become the guy women view as passionate about life and independent. Great job.
 

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You described my exact situation. My friends are worse than AFC's, they are total losers. They don't even talk to girls let alone get the chance to throw away their Starbuck cups. But they are decent people (most of them) and I don't want to just drop them as friends, as I have known some of them for 6 years or more.

But we aspiring DJs can't really talk, as we were once like them, that's why we made friends with them; people like people who are like themselves.

And I feel like you Kidd, kind of lonely, as I haven't made that many new good 'friends', just acquaintances mainly.

I think the best thing to do is to try and teach them the lessons you have learnt here. E.g. after that cup thing, I would have told your friends not to be so submissive, and don't be such a doormat etc.

And get new non-AFC friends. I'm trying to do that at the moment, and when you do so, you can bring your old friends into the group, and they can learn even more from watching you DJs. :cool:
 

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Well, that's the great fun of such friends. They can help boost your confidence. In fact, they already have for you.

And who cares if they aren't getting any?

Just make sure you keep them aside when you work your magic, and when they do, you can either laugh inside, pity him, or give him pointers to be a better man.

--iMat
 

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Just the other day, 3 of us were chatting up these 2 hotties. One of them asks if someone would throw away her empty cup of Starbucks. 2 of them both reach for it with lightning speed, like she is a queen of some kind.
Did you laugh? I would have!

I know what you mean though, once you find yourself drifting away from the AFCness you've known for so many years, sometimes it can feel like you're lost.

How many years of highschool do you have left? You can always look forward to uni/college!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Oh my god......

Is that the sign of loser friends? all mine tell me to get x-box live all the time. When i say i'd rather spend the money in the gym or doing something productive, they look at me as if i broke into their house at christmas and urinated on their kids.
 

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I, by the way, did not mean that playing Halo is a sign of being a loser. I enjoy it too at times. But what I did mean, is instead of a saturday night at a concert/mall/whatever, they pick staying home.

I am a sophmore in HS, probably switching schools next year.

And no, I did not laugh, because after all they are my friends.
 

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I've never been a person that gives up friends easily. Im too tied to brotherhood and loyalty to do something like give up my friends just because they are AFC. dishonesty and unloyalty are NOT DJ traits.
 

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I just ran into a similar situation today and threw in some C&F. This girl jsut came to sit at our lunch table and she was a HB 9. Latina..nice ass, nice tits, both really good cushion for pushin material.:D

anyways, she's been eyeing me, this asian guy, in some of our classes and I just say stuff like, "you know, I'm more than just a piece of meat for you to drool over." and she just says, "omg, i wasn't staring at you!" then I catch her again and she blushes etc.

ok so today she's sitting with us for some bizarre reason, and she's done with her lunch. So we get up and she leaves it there. here's the convo:

me: are you just going to leave that there? for some innocent bird to choke on?
her: hahaa, there are no birds in here
me: ...for some innocent child to choke on?
her: haha ok...ok..
my friend jumps in: ooh it's fine. I'll get it for you.
her: see? there ARE sweet guys in this world, unlike you ::pokes tongue out at me::
me: don't worry, you're not special. they do that for anything with tits and ass.
her: :eek: tries to hit me, but starts chasing me cuz i'm a fast mofo.
 

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I have the same problem yet at school, my 'crew' is all AFC and i want to start chilling more with the in-crowd but its hard especially since they know you had loser friends before...you know? any tips on gettin in the in crowd since none of them kind of want to chill with you since you were likea loser [ouch thats harsh] before?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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