Gah... messy situation here. My friend (let's call him Matt) has a sister (let's call her Jane). She's 19, I'm 18. Lately, her and I have been flirting pretty hardcore with each other (lot's of kino and sexual innuendo, and I've also massaged her tits a couple of times while she, Matt, myself, and a few other people were sitting around watching bad zombie movies. I did this discreetly, of course), but tonight things got a little farther than I expected them to.
Jane was with three of her friends, and she called me up tonight to suggest that I join up with them. I told her to come to my house to get me, and we'd take it from there. I also let her know that I was high at the time. The five of us ended up walking around outside for a while before the four of them had to leave. For most of this time, however, Jane kept trying to get me to kiss her, and at one point she was even suggesting that she spend the night with me (which she could have, since my parents and sister are all on vacation, so I have the house to myself for a few days).
Now, as much as I wanted to bang her, or at least get head (since I had no condoms), whenever I considered escalating things, I felt a pang of guilt and immediately thought of my friendship with Matt. After all, Matt is one of my best friends, and I don't want to do anything to ruin that. So essentially I pretended that I was higher than I actually was, and played like I was too "lost in space" to know what was going on. She seemed to buy it, and I avoided kissing her or having her spend the night.
So now I'm conflicted between my desires for Jane (not just for sex, but also for a relationship perhaps, since there's some of that chemistry between her and I as well), and the value I have on my friendship with Matt. At the very least, I've decided that I wouldn't try for anything with Jane without Matt's blessing first. However, I'm not sure if it's a good idea to even try this, since it may make things a little awkward for Matt and I. To be fair though, Matt is friends with many of Jane's exes, and in one case he actually knew the friend before said friend started dating Jane, which is virtually the same situation I'm in now. Therefore, there's some "precedent", and it suggests this wouldn't be much of a problem. Still, I'm feeling a little torn on the issue.
With my rant out of the way (I apologize if it seems a little wordy; I have a tendency to do that), I'd like to ask you guys what you'd do about this, given what's happened so far and also Matt's history with being friends with Jane's exes?
Jane was with three of her friends, and she called me up tonight to suggest that I join up with them. I told her to come to my house to get me, and we'd take it from there. I also let her know that I was high at the time. The five of us ended up walking around outside for a while before the four of them had to leave. For most of this time, however, Jane kept trying to get me to kiss her, and at one point she was even suggesting that she spend the night with me (which she could have, since my parents and sister are all on vacation, so I have the house to myself for a few days).
Now, as much as I wanted to bang her, or at least get head (since I had no condoms), whenever I considered escalating things, I felt a pang of guilt and immediately thought of my friendship with Matt. After all, Matt is one of my best friends, and I don't want to do anything to ruin that. So essentially I pretended that I was higher than I actually was, and played like I was too "lost in space" to know what was going on. She seemed to buy it, and I avoided kissing her or having her spend the night.
So now I'm conflicted between my desires for Jane (not just for sex, but also for a relationship perhaps, since there's some of that chemistry between her and I as well), and the value I have on my friendship with Matt. At the very least, I've decided that I wouldn't try for anything with Jane without Matt's blessing first. However, I'm not sure if it's a good idea to even try this, since it may make things a little awkward for Matt and I. To be fair though, Matt is friends with many of Jane's exes, and in one case he actually knew the friend before said friend started dating Jane, which is virtually the same situation I'm in now. Therefore, there's some "precedent", and it suggests this wouldn't be much of a problem. Still, I'm feeling a little torn on the issue.
With my rant out of the way (I apologize if it seems a little wordy; I have a tendency to do that), I'd like to ask you guys what you'd do about this, given what's happened so far and also Matt's history with being friends with Jane's exes?
Well actually you should atleast go after an LTR,it's the respectable thing to do.