My friends fantastically psycho ex wants to see me. Ew

[ThunderMaverick]

She was a spicy little latina girl back in the day. Total package. Big boobs, nice ass, very sexy. Years ago when I was 19 and an innocent little virgin my friend and her would always fool around in front of me. Nothing major, just flashing her boobs and whatnot. Total exhibitionist. I had a MAD f*cking crush on her for those reasons alone. Total wet dream.

Flash forward to a year later and her and my friend are on the outs. She's gotten into physical fights with the guy. Even an abortion (which totally depressed my friend. He got into coke (not the carbonated kind) a little after that. Flash forward to a few years later and my friend is married to someone else and has a kid. Totally happy. He's gotten his life together and he got a nice place with his newborn daughter and wife. I haven't spoken to him in a least two year. We use to be very close.

FLASHFORWARD AGAIN!!! (ololol) This time forward to the present. His psycho ex contacts me on facebook! She writes how much I've grown and wants to know what's going on in my life. I keep the message short saying "everything is good! U? She ask what I do and I tell her I bartend. She then tells me SHE WANTS TO STOP BY FOR A VISIT SOON.

Now. Ahem. I know this girl. She's a freak. There's no other reason for her to be stopping by for any other reason than d!ck reason.

NOW.


What do I say to tell her not to come by and visit me? This girl is BPD counrty. She dated my really good friend (who I considered a brother) and made his life hell. I mean I don't want to be rude, but there's no point in her coming by. I want to stay as far away from her as possible.


Suggestions?

 

[hithard]

She dated my really good friend (who I considered a brother) and made his life hell. I mean I don't want to be rude, but there's no point in her coming by. I want to stay as far away from her as possible.


Suggestions?

If you consider him to be like family, simply tell her you’re not interested after what happened. Watch out this doesn’t turn into a 'whoops she’s at my doorstep and oh no my di*ck fell in her' story. The easiest thing for a lesser man (which is something your not) would be to bang her. Be upfront before it progresses too far.

 

[KontrollerX]

Just tell her its not a good idea as you have a girlfriend already (even if that is a lie).

If you think saying it that way is offensive just make it sound like your girlfriend would be mad if you had her over.

Alternatively if you know yourself really well as the poster Bible Belt does you could engage in a joke of a relationship with this BPD chick and use her for sex.

PM Bible Belt for details.

I personally don't recommend this as Cluster B tries every trick in the book to break you down mentally and emotionally over time even if you maintain a cold stance towards them.

Their goal is to worm their way into your heart and get you attached so that they can make their exit. They'll manipulate and play jealousy games on you like you wouldn't believe but anyway I've given you two possible routes you can take.

Either...

1. PM Bible Belt for how to proceed and get your fvck on.

Or...

2. Simply use the excuses that I offered to you to get rid of her.

 

[wjh]

Cluster B tries every trick in the book to break you down mentally and emotionally over time even if you maintain a cold stance towards them.

Their goal is to worm their way into your heart and get you attached so that they can make their exit. They'll manipulate and play jealousy games on you like you wouldn't believe

Boy does that bring back bad memories...

 

[cordoncordon]

Yeah you're a good guy TM you don't need the drama of a BPD in your life. Just be polite but tell her considering all that has happened with your friend it would be better if you just remained internet buds.

 

[wjh]

Internet buds? LOL - if that's not insulting to a chick I don't know what is...

I'm not saying you shouldn't say that, I just find it amusing.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah I'm wondering if I should call my friend and tell him about it. He'd probably get flashbacks, like he was in vietnam or something. I mean this girl is INSANE. This isn't the first time she's done this also. This isn't the first time she's done this either. A few months after they broke up she called ME and said "if you ever need girl advice give me a call". I told him about it and he laughed it off. I don't think he knew she was trying to tell me something.

She's crazy, not stupid. She knows EXACTLY what she's doing. She's a very sexual creature. OMG I'm getting a boner just thinking about it. This feel weird. XD

No, I'm not taking Bible's route. I have enough problems as a lot of you know and I keep putting my problems on fate's tab. If I tell her straight up I think It would be better.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah you're a good guy TM you don't need the drama of a BPD in your life. Just be polite but tell her considering all that has happened with your friend it would be better if you just remained internet buds.

No. Nothing covert. I want to tell her straight out that I'm not interested in hanging out. PERIOD. I mean I don't want to be rude but I want her to get the hint.

See the thing is is that she KNOWS that I had a hard-on for her. Now she sees I'm more matured and a bit filled out. Now she thinks I'm ready for her. I am. Man this sucks. LUL.


Edit: I'm really liking Hithard's advice. I mean I don't speak to my good friend anymore, but after everything she put him through...

Plus if my friend and I ever touch base again I don't want her vagina, that he's dipped into as well looming over my head.

 

[DJDamage]

His psycho ex contacts me on facebook! She writes how much I've grown and wants to know what's going on in my life. I keep the message short saying "everything is good! U? She ask what I do and I tell her I bartend. She then tells me SHE WANTS TO STOP BY FOR A VISIT SOON.

You can't even trust yourself lol

Why would you answer her back on Facebook and tell her where you work if you didn't want to speak to her or possibly see her?! I think your d1ck and your brain are locked in a chess death match and one is trying to out do the other.

Brain:No she is nothing but trouble, you don't want anything to do with her.

D1ck: ohhhh she is so fvcking hot, I always wanted to bang her, just a little bit come on!!! no harm will be done.

I think the big head needs to tell the little head who is the boss, otherwise you are setting yourself up for some fvcking and then waking up the following morning with her laying beside you, shaking your head and saying "WTF WAS I THINKING??!!!"

 

[hithard]

Trust me I feel your pain. Most of my friend’s exes have wanted to hook up. And it is very hard to overcome hornyness if they are right in front of you, or you allow it to progress to far. Primal urges make deep regrets

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You can't even trust yourself lol

Why would you answer her back on Facebook and tell her where you work if you didn't want to speak to her or possibly see her?! I think your d1ck and your brain are locked in a chess death match and one is trying to out do the other.

Yes yes. *sigh* I got a total hard on when she messaged me. Total fantasy chick I'm telling you. I shouldn't have messaged her back in the first place. Me am stupid.

Brain:No she is nothing but trouble, you don't want anything to do with her.

D1ck: ohhhh she is so fvcking hot, I always wanted to bang her, just a little bit come on!!! no harm will be done.

Trust me, my brain is winning. I'm sure if my old friend found out as well he'd try to kill me too. Hahaha (he's eh...kinda violent.)

I think the big head needs to tell the little head who is the boss, otherwise you are setting yourself up for some fvcking and then waking up the following morning with her laying beside you, shaking your head and saying "WTF WAS I THINKING??!!!"

I think I'm more afraid of getting flak from both sides. I shouldn't have messaged her.

 

[decades]

first you have to decide you REALLY don't want to see her. If you make that decision for Yourself, it will be EASY for you to take care of this like a strong man. I believe you haven't decided yet because if you had, there would be no thread.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

That's half the reason. The other reason is getting advice on the best way of shutting her down. Trust me, I'm not planning on seeing her. I don't want to come off rude or anything. Y'know?

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Hooo kay here's what I wrote:



You'll swing by? Hahahaha. I don't think that would be too appropriate seeing as there's a lot of history between you and a certain good friend of mine. If that wasn't the case I would be all for it.

And yes, I'm still getting my foot in the acting door. I've been doing a bit of voice work here and there, just getting some experience in. When some of my performances are available I'll let you know. ^_~



I don't think I should have put that last paragraph in.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Don´t even try. The odds you´re gonna be played like a puppet is big.

I´ve been involved with one that seemed pretty happy. Now she´s showing her "sad/dark" side and is trying to drag me down by calling me and telling me about her problems. I told her that I don´t want to talk to her anymore because she only talks about negative things.

The headache is such that you don´t even think about sex, at least that´s what happens with me.

She told me that she used to fight with her ex (real fight). Man, I don´t wanna be the next stooge. I´m out. Fuk the sex. My sanity is more important than sex.

 

[MacAvoy]

Suggestions?

Hit & run in a hotel room & don't give her your phone number.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Are you serious? I can't stress the word "drama" that was involved between my good friend and her. I mean this is my childhood friend we're talking about! She had an abortion and it totally drove him to hard drugs!!! Are YOU GETTING THE IDEA OF THE BAGGAGE I HAVE TO DEAL WITH!?

 

[ThunderMaverick]

She wrote back:

I didn't mean too much by me "swinging by".... I just like to check out new places. I think you misunderstood, you weirdo. =) j/k. So how long have you been bartending? I bartend and work the door at LAX and Shag sometimes, I'm cool with you stopping by if you want. Do you bartened in the Valley?

Keep in mind I know how violent and freaky this chick is. (I have tons of other nasty stories about her) I know whats going on. There is absolutely NO reason for her to "swing by". We weren't friends. We didn't talk most of the time she was with my friend.


I'm not stOOpid. I wrote her back just now with:



Yeah maybe you didn't mean too much, but what usually happens is that I get to joking with a girl and hanging out it usually leads to sex. Tons of it. Then things get complicated. No doubt I would probably try to have sex with you because I'm a ***** hound. And I'm sure you know I had a huge crush on you.

I went from being a cute little virgin to saying "I'm definitely going to screw this girl" if she laughs or touches me a certain way. Most of the time it turns out like that. All subtlety aside, I'm attractive. You're attractive. You get two attractive people in a closet and they make rabbits.


Just being honest. So no, stopping by isn't in my future. hahahaha


I'm hoping all bases are covered in that reply. I don't want any kind of subtle games being exchanged. I want to get this over with. My erection is cursing me out and I'm covering my ears.


LALALALALALA

 

[iqqi]

I understand you know this chick, however, if we weren't going off of your word, I'd say that you are the one that sounds kind of crazy.

I also thought from the beginning that when she said "swing by" she meant your job, lol. Not your bed.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You know what? If she thinks I'm crazy then that's good. I know how insane she is. Actually I DO remember now! My friend and her use to f*ck in front of me from time while we watched wrestling on T.V. She's not stupid either. She would make comments on my looks and remember, when my friend dumped her she called ME and wanted me to call HER.


So let me ask: How do I sound crazy?

Edit: I know what she meant by "swing by". Swinging by my job usually means swinging for coffee and then after that swinging her by her naked legs onto my bed. I don't have female friends, Icky. Well, except for....you.