When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LovelyLady said:Thought I'd share some info on Feminism as a political movement for those who may not know...
In Western culture there are three main timeframes of Feminism :
The first was Victorian/Edwardian/20's.
It's beginning is usually marked with Sojourner Truth's famous Ain't I Woman? speech. It extends through obtaining the right for women to own and inherit property, and enter in to legal contracts. This period ended with women getting the right to vote in 1919. (There was early addressing of economic and reproductive rights at this time - but not much actual change regarding these occured during this first period).
The second period was the 60's and 70's.
Women's rights to control their reproductive destinies were addressed by feminists with the pursuit for access to birth control, abortions, and access to affordable pre-natal care (and to have female health/reproductive needs be covered by insurance companys). Legal protection/recourse regarding pay inequity, sexual harrassment in the work place and domestic violence were also addressed.
The third movement is 90's to now.
The Feminist movement is working on addressing forced prostitution, child prostitution, genital mutilation (aka female circumsion) and rape. This movement is starting to address the concerns of women outside of the Western World.
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However, philosophically, there are two main divisions that have existed within Feminism. (But both sub-groups remain united in addressing the aforementioned causes.)
With the first sub-group, the belief that the differences in the sexes are bioligically based, are acceptable, and need to be honored by equality with the differences respected.
The second sub-group believes that the differences in the genders are due to social conditioning and therefore need to be eliminated.
It is this second philosophical sub-group that has much social/relational impact on our culture.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
True, but read the Book of Pook to get a good idea of what anti-feminists are saying. Or better, Pook's blog: dapook.blogspot.com. His recent "Radicalism of Vilar" posts get quite nicely to the point.potato said:I grew up in the 70's when feminism was coming into its own. Mostly it was about setting women free from having to define themselves by the men in their lives. It was about birth control and pursuing careers. I really don't see it as a problem and certainly don't know what all the right wingers complain about all the time.
It takes a wimpy man to worry about competition from women.