Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My friend ****blocked me

DrPhysique

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So I heard that my friend Bob was going to a university party (in a dorm), but it was a invitation party and it was at a different university than my own. The reason he was invited is because my other friend Jer invited him. Once I heard this, I took the opportunity and asked Jer to invite me as well because I wanted to test my game with women I'd probably never meet again.

I end up going. But as soon as I arrive there (at 4PM), Jer tells me that I can't hook up with any girl there. I was like, "Dude, seriously? You can't do this to me!" I decide to let it slide, but I know I still might try to hook up.

Fast-forwarding through all the awkward introductions he purposely made us experience, I notice that a few girls are showing interest. Anyways, finally the party begins and I'm just standing around and can't get into it. This is because the students are dancing some dance they made up and doing whatever. I am with Bob, though, so it's not a big deal.

After that, I finally get into it and talk to around 10 girls back and forth. Finally, I decide which one I want, Steff. We talk for a while and everything is going well. However, Jer says that we have to go to another party, but I tell her where it's at and she says she'll come in a little bit. As we're leaving, Jer tells me that I can't hook up with her. Apparently, every time there she hooks up with a guy, she ends up talking to him about it and says she made a bad decision. He tells me they are really close friends. I'm like, "so what?" And the night goes on.

We end up not going to the party we were going to because there was no alcohol left and a lot of people were leaving. We end up going to another party. I tell Jer to find the girl for me, but he doesn't want to. I end up convincing him and he tells me she's probably at the pub on campus. I text Bob and he says no. So, I look for her myself.

We end up all meeting each other and we go to a pizza place at 1 AM. I flirt with her even more. We go back to campus and I end up being alone with her. I tell her that she should go to bed cause I know she'll end up texting me after she does. Which is exactly what happens and she tells me that Jer would kill her if she hooked up with me. I'm like, "No, he told me it was fine earlier." She then says that she doesn't believe me. But then says, "and another problem, my roommate is sleeping in my room." So, I go and talk to Jer if I can borrow the room he's sleeping in (because me and Bob are sleeping in his room). He says no and I should go to sleep. Wow... So I ask Bob to leave and he does. I text her to come over to the room I'm at and she does.

First thing she tells me is that Jer will kill her and I try to convince her that he said it was ok. I end up making out for a little bit and she says this, "I told Jer you were hot and then he told me he would be pissed if I hooked up with you. I asked him three times if he was serious and he said yes." I was just about to talk her out of it, but then Jer's dorm neighbor (another girl I had my eye on), knocks on the door, but after a few words she leaves because she realizes what's going on (she was in a happy mood, though). Then I leave the door open and continue to talk to her. I was almost there, but then Jer's old roommate just walks in and sits on the bed. At that point, we just end up having a talk and she says she should go to bed and I tell her she should and Jer's old roommate leaves after.

If anything else happens, I'll try to update. haha
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It sounds like he is attracted to her, but can't get with her, so he doesn't want anyone else to get with her. This girl needs to get a backbone, if she wants to get with someone she should do it, she doesn't need some jealous chump telling her what she can and cannot do. Also, I'm pretty certain that if she wanted to have sex with you, she would have found a way to do so without this Jer fella being any the wiser of it.
 

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Perserverance is correct. Your "friend" is a jealous, c@ckblocking enemy. He knows you're a good looking dude, and he's threatened by it. You need to either go it alone or find a new loyal wingman of similar looks/status.

I'm also disappointed with this Steff girl. She lets this Jer guy control her like he's her father or something. She needs to keep her hookups to herself and free herself fron his control. (But that's not your problem.)
 

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perseverance said:
It sounds like he is attracted to her, but can't get with her, so he doesn't want anyone else to get with her. This girl needs to get a backbone, if she wants to get with someone she should do it, she doesn't need some jealous chump telling her what she can and cannot do. Also, I'm pretty certain that if she wanted to have sex with you, she would have found a way to do so without this Jer fella being any the wiser of it.
Yeah, well, we could have ended up having sex, I was just ****blocked by the other two people that interrupted us. Then I realized that I'm not really a guy who likes hooking up with random chicks. Even if I were that kind of guy, I still got ****blocked.

Next time I go there, I might try actually hooking up with her. She added me on facebook and texted me this morning so she's obviously still interested. Jer even told me this morning (before she texted me) she doesn't usually text guys back the next day.

I'm still good friends with Jer and maybe he does have feelings for her, but he told me yesterday that they are just good friends. However, I think he did say that he tried to date her a while back.
 

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Do what you want, but I just want you to see the whole picture.

This Jer guy isn't just being "protective" of his "friend" as he wants you to believe. He wasn't even going to invite you to this party until you put him on the spot and invited yourself. Plus he didn't want you to hook up with ANY girls there, not just Steff. I rest my case.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Jer" is a jealous ****blocking douche, and I wouldn't hang out w/ him anymore. I have friends like this too who if they're not going to hook up w/ somebody, they're going to do everything they can to make sure you don't either. I finally wised up and started going out with a different crowd. Works much better w/ loyal & supportive wing-men.
 

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sounds like your "buddy" jer has a serious case of oneitis. get some new friends dude...people like that will plague your life
 

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Should have shamed her bro. Made him out to be a jealous wuss and ribbed her for being his slave or somethin. No modern girl wants to feel subservient to a man.
 

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What a douche! Ditch that guy. I ve been through that as well.
 

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Sounds like a jealous d-bag. If I were you I would not hang out with this guy anymore. He'll stab you in the back.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When it comes to women, cant even trust a close friend at times......
 

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Just an update, she's been trying to talk to me for the past few days. I'll try to keep in contact with her for a while because we're most likely gonna see each other at one point next year.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that last week, she told Jer that he needs to stop her from hooking up with guys when she drinks. Mainly because she says she makes stupid decisions and the guys and "*******s". I told Jer afterwards that I would have made out for a little while and then told her to go to bed (because I'm really a guy who likes to **** just any girl). He told me that she would most likely have unzipped my pants and tried to **** me even if I didn't want to. Whatever.
 

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I would make some good contacts so you don't need Jer to go to these parties. Maybe stop focusing on getting laid for now and just get some good party organizer friends. Then start going to them but "hater free". That guys not your friend, he just wants you around as social proof or something.
 

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Tell Jer to get a better name and while hes at it get better game. What a oneitisy, jealous prick. People like that piss me off. I had a "friend" like that at one point, and he loved rubbing it in my face whenever a girl hooked up with him and he blocked me. Whose laughing now?

Also, this broad needs to grow a pair and become her own woman or whatever it is they do. Either that, or she should cut the crap on blaming alcohol for the fact that shes making lady gaga look like mother theresa, in which case stop buying her crap too. Oh. And glove up if you decide to poke her.
 

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okyoureabeast said:
I've warned friends before about women in my circle of friends.

Mostly the, "Yo if you want an easy lay go for x,y,z but be forewarned though."

Then again, that's not much of a warning...

Should have still put your game on Steff anyway and tried to hook up with her. Call JERkoff out.
Well, I think I said this already, but we probably would have ended up making out even more or having sex if it weren't for 2 other people that came to the room.

I can still have this girl when I want to now, so I guess I'm alright. haha
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The problem now is not whether you could/couldn't hook up with the girl.


The problem is that this Jer ****wad is not a true wingman/friend.
 
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