"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My first time being an AFC lame

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Well the other day i lost my AFC virginity. I played the fool. I mean i really played the afc. The funny part was that I realised that I was being and afc and i still did it any way. I even realised and that alot of these things i did were corny but i did them soley for the purpose of wanting to make my EX happy. I never ever am the afc and I underestimated my opponent and got played pretty hard body.

I'm too lazy to type now but i tell yall bout it later......
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this is me

First the description of my ex. She is cute about 5'o and is asian. Very intellegent and responsible. Extremely modest tho. Always respectful and seem like a good person. I was like she is a good person so ima try and be good to her.

We decided to take a little break (from what I dunno), but right before work my EX calls me and tells me that while we were together she went on a date with this other guy she liked from a while back. I had questioned her about it a while ago and she told me she didn't go, I said "ok baby I know I can trust you"! She decieved me. She told me that she didn't wanna see me anymore not because she was too busy but because she has developed feelings for him. She ain't keep it funky. The real reason is because she thinks he is a better catch, he is in the navy, her dad was in the navy, he is older, he has a car and a licence and can see her. Even though i do work, I am in a little legal trouble, (suspended licence for 2 mos, well 3 weeks now).

She was one of those prude virgins and wanted to wait till marrage, she said she wanted to make sure a dude wasn't gonna hit it then quite it. So I was patient. I waited about 8-10 monthes for her, well during that time i lost my license for a DUI a while back(1 yr ago). I lost it for 60 days and she couldn't even wait 2 months me for until i got my license back. I though she would be a little understanding of this, Expecially since she doesn't have her licence either. When I was driving i always came to pick her up and take her out, I bough her gifts, an example was a ****tail dress and heels so we could go out on my B-day. She ain' get me naythin. I was cool bout it. I'm a 22 year old guy. I look good. i like women, me and her weren't ****in, I still never pressured her and i never cheated, I treated her like my queen, I was loyal and understanding and considerate.

She asked me if I was mad, I said "naw disgusted", I said "I hoped you were above these type of shady dealings". She asked me if we could still be friends, I was like "You wildin I don't need no friends who gonna lie to me, hell naw we can't be friends." "You certainly don't deserve someone as nice as me, cause your too immature to appreciate it."

Alas I must I detest, on a positive note, this is a good thing, at least i know what kinda person she REALLY is. I rather know now than years down the road. I don't want a woman who is gonna run at the first sign of trouble, i want someone who will help me out.

Another mistake I made was waiting. The only thing wait for my black ass is the reeper, I'm never gonna "Wait" for a girl again, if she isn't ready to have a serious and mature relationship on a mental, emotion, physcial and sexual level as I am, then i'm gonna next her and shoot for the friends route and pursue someone that desires the same type of relationship as i do. Time waits for no one, it don't wait for me- so I REALLY can't be waiting for someone either.
 

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Any thoughts I know its long but a few of my nice guy friends said i should forgive her? I'm like maybe but we could never be friends again. What yall think?
 

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god-damit I been nexted that chick man. lmao. What I'm sayin is do yall think i am being petty or do i have a valid reason to be tight. The old violent me would have wanted to run dudes face wit a switchblade for mackin my lady, but its more her fault for lack of loyalty, on the real he ain't my woman he don't owe me **** its actually her that owes me something....
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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1, sex is never ever, EVER worth the wait. that's a **** test that you failed. yeah, she's got her V card but she is going out every other night

I think you payed to much attention to what she said she was and less attention to what she actually was.


other than that man.. I mean, what can you do? she is what she is... **** her. you've moved on already ovbiously
 

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what are you confused about? I did lose my AFC virginity to this girl, she was the only one who i tried to take a serious as possible. She took advantage of me, this is the first time that anyone has really taken complete advantage of me. This means this was my first time being an AFC kinda guy.

In my other post i am actually confirming that i used to be a playboy. I was reminising the various types of females i have been with, and realised I got around. I was a 100% playboy, i never hurt women, i was straight up, and told them i ain't looking for no lady, I was never in it for anything long/short term, most i wanted was friendship (with benifits)...is this a little more clear to you.
 
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