"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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My first [recent] failure... HELP!

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Ok, so I saw this girl who had come to my room to introduce herself to my room (I think she introduced herself to everyone on the floor, not only me) at a picnic and I said hi... blah blah blah.. then I saw her and two friends went and sat down at a table and I was with another guy and I told him to come with me that we were going to sit with these girls.

So we sit down with them (which is a big progress for me) and I froze, didn't know what to talk about so I started throwing the generic questions (which I hate), what's your major, etc... the interest level was on the floor... finally I said something that made the three of them laugh, and then it went down again so basically they were talking to each other the rest of the time and eventually they left the table... duhhhh!

How can I increase the interest level?

What can I talk about besides stupid generic things?

What sort of things can I talk about with girls I just met?

HELP!!!!!!!!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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be more interesting ask more interesting questions...be more playful have fun...have you read the bible? A little C+F wouldn't hurt as well as some negging depending on how hot they're...but DON'T interview them, if you find yourself about to freeze just move away and avoid it if you can...
 

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Indigo man, come on. This question is surface-shallow,

It's not "what can I say?" but "who am I?" that's important. Get your beliefs right and the charisma will flow.

Secondly, if you make sure you lead an interesting life, then you'll never run our of things to talk about.

Still, the web is full of canned material to help out and assist in filling your repertoire of interesting quips. Reading funny material really can help to improve your own sense of humour, so frankly I see that as valid experience.

Just one last note -- Mystery bashes situational openers, but I disagree. If you're coming up empty simply talk about what you've just done, talk about the place. Doesn't matter. Just do it in the right way.
 

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Yeah I've read the bible...

Can you give me some examples of "interesting questions" ?
 

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Indigo said:
Yeah I've read the bible...
What have you learned from the Bible that hasn't worked for you?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Indigo said:
Yeah I've read the bible...

Can you give me some examples of "interesting questions" ?

Someone else's interesting question or joke won't necessarily sound good coming from you. Pre-planned jokes tend to be less funny anyway, specifically if you try to force them in, which you likely will (natural flow and congruency people!)

Learn to be a naturally interesting person, not a plagiarist comedian.
 
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