"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My first [recent] failure... HELP!

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Ok, so I saw this girl who had come to my room to introduce herself to my room (I think she introduced herself to everyone on the floor, not only me) at a picnic and I said hi... blah blah blah.. then I saw her and two friends went and sat down at a table and I was with another guy and I told him to come with me that we were going to sit with these girls.

So we sit down with them (which is a big progress for me) and I froze, didn't know what to talk about so I started throwing the generic questions (which I hate), what's your major, etc... the interest level was on the floor... finally I said something that made the three of them laugh, and then it went down again so basically they were talking to each other the rest of the time and eventually they left the table... duhhhh!

How can I increase the interest level?

What can I talk about besides stupid generic things?

What sort of things can I talk about with girls I just met?

HELP!!!!!!!!!!
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

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be more interesting ask more interesting questions...be more playful have fun...have you read the bible? A little C+F wouldn't hurt as well as some negging depending on how hot they're...but DON'T interview them, if you find yourself about to freeze just move away and avoid it if you can...
 

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Indigo man, come on. This question is surface-shallow,

It's not "what can I say?" but "who am I?" that's important. Get your beliefs right and the charisma will flow.

Secondly, if you make sure you lead an interesting life, then you'll never run our of things to talk about.

Still, the web is full of canned material to help out and assist in filling your repertoire of interesting quips. Reading funny material really can help to improve your own sense of humour, so frankly I see that as valid experience.

Just one last note -- Mystery bashes situational openers, but I disagree. If you're coming up empty simply talk about what you've just done, talk about the place. Doesn't matter. Just do it in the right way.
 

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Yeah I've read the bible...

Can you give me some examples of "interesting questions" ?
 

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Indigo said:
Yeah I've read the bible...
What have you learned from the Bible that hasn't worked for you?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Indigo said:
Yeah I've read the bible...

Can you give me some examples of "interesting questions" ?

Someone else's interesting question or joke won't necessarily sound good coming from you. Pre-planned jokes tend to be less funny anyway, specifically if you try to force them in, which you likely will (natural flow and congruency people!)

Learn to be a naturally interesting person, not a plagiarist comedian.
 
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