Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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my first cold approach

zachamun

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holy sh**, this was the scariest thing i have ever done! I got SHUT DOWN, but hey, at least i tried.

I was in the library with a couple of buds. There was a HB7.5 looking at books and we were talking about her. Eventually, i just said f*** it, and went over and asked her if she needed any help finding what she was looking for. I pretty much got shut down, but i gained a lot of confidence from trying. I was shaking and had trouble speaking. Afterwards me and my buds got a good laugh out of it, so it was worth it even though it was unsuccessful.

Hopefully next time i won't be so freakin nervous!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blienk

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Good job man...The results aren't nearly as important as the fact that you did it.
 

Microphone Fiend

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Lol, good job.. F*ck the rejection... you did it AND got rejected and it wasn't bad was it? The key thing to remember here is to KEEP COLD APPROACHING. I remember my first cold approach where there was a hb9 latina about 7-10 years older than me in a tight black dress looking elegant yet fine. So here I am in my mecca jeans and some enyce shirt and my boys like "$5 dollars if you approach" I was like "Sure!" I get up there and the first words she said to me was "My boyfriends coming to pick me up" I didn't take it personal cuz she was older than me so I didn't expect to get n e progress (wrong attitude for going into a CA) but I got that confidence burst for a couple days and I haven't done any CA since(!)

Just remeber that look your boys had when they were like "oh **** he's going to talk to her!" That feeling is great innit :)
 

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You are definitely right about the looks on my friends faces Mic. Fiend. I will never forget it. When I came back they were like, "Holy sh** I can't believe you just did that" and it was worth it just for that. The funny thing is that I had never even noticed this girl before, and now I swear to god that I see this girl after EVERY block LOL. Thats what I can't stand about high school. Oh well.
 

RaMar

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your 17 and you just had your first cold approach!? Well I guess you started now. Seems like most people start younger. But hey its a good thing you broke the ice. I guarantee that will be your hardest approach ever. Now they will start getting much easier.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ace of Spades

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I'm just wondering, did you just ask her if she needed any help finding books or did you actually let your intentions be known??? If you only asked her if she needs help finding stuff, she may think you're an employee or something, but if you actually went for the number/later get-together, that's a different story.
 

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Congratulations: You have to start something before you can improve it.
 
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