"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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my first cold approach

zachamun

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holy sh**, this was the scariest thing i have ever done! I got SHUT DOWN, but hey, at least i tried.

I was in the library with a couple of buds. There was a HB7.5 looking at books and we were talking about her. Eventually, i just said f*** it, and went over and asked her if she needed any help finding what she was looking for. I pretty much got shut down, but i gained a lot of confidence from trying. I was shaking and had trouble speaking. Afterwards me and my buds got a good laugh out of it, so it was worth it even though it was unsuccessful.

Hopefully next time i won't be so freakin nervous!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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blienk

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Good job man...The results aren't nearly as important as the fact that you did it.
 

Microphone Fiend

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Lol, good job.. F*ck the rejection... you did it AND got rejected and it wasn't bad was it? The key thing to remember here is to KEEP COLD APPROACHING. I remember my first cold approach where there was a hb9 latina about 7-10 years older than me in a tight black dress looking elegant yet fine. So here I am in my mecca jeans and some enyce shirt and my boys like "$5 dollars if you approach" I was like "Sure!" I get up there and the first words she said to me was "My boyfriends coming to pick me up" I didn't take it personal cuz she was older than me so I didn't expect to get n e progress (wrong attitude for going into a CA) but I got that confidence burst for a couple days and I haven't done any CA since(!)

Just remeber that look your boys had when they were like "oh **** he's going to talk to her!" That feeling is great innit :)
 

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You are definitely right about the looks on my friends faces Mic. Fiend. I will never forget it. When I came back they were like, "Holy sh** I can't believe you just did that" and it was worth it just for that. The funny thing is that I had never even noticed this girl before, and now I swear to god that I see this girl after EVERY block LOL. Thats what I can't stand about high school. Oh well.
 

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your 17 and you just had your first cold approach!? Well I guess you started now. Seems like most people start younger. But hey its a good thing you broke the ice. I guarantee that will be your hardest approach ever. Now they will start getting much easier.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ace of Spades

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I'm just wondering, did you just ask her if she needed any help finding books or did you actually let your intentions be known??? If you only asked her if she needs help finding stuff, she may think you're an employee or something, but if you actually went for the number/later get-together, that's a different story.
 

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Congratulations: You have to start something before you can improve it.
 
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