"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My first close please critique

zack77766

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Me: C+F opener.
Her: she’s laughing but completely misses the joke
Me: (I look at her shoes) So do you skateboard?
Her: no
Me: Have you ever thought about learning how to?
Her: No
Me: Oh that’s all right I’ll teach you(I whip out my paper)
Her: ???
Me: Oh (Do you ever get asked out?) let me call you sometime.
Her: Oh I don’t have a number (or something like that and starts walking to some girls nearby)
Me: OK so can I have your email? (She does so) You’re not a theif are you?
Her: No
Me: I’d like you to have this (I screwed up on this big time?). I take off my watch.
Her: Oh no that’s ok.
Hows it look? Why wont she give me her number? Why did she look all confused when I whipped out my paper? Was she impressed? I know her a little and she had a crush on me. Its a real email too.

We both had strong eye contact, were about 3 inches apart, and we were alone but around a crowd. Some girls were trying to pull her out but she said stuff like just a sec (obv jealousy). before my close she did sit next to me
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
lol some girls simply doesnt wanna give their number to strangers .
And the moment she started going away from you you lost her .

And what was a deal about the watch ?
You were going to give it to her ???? :box:
but i still got her email.... If she wants to play games then i know im done
yeah about the watch, I totally screwed up i wanted to do the neil straus technique but it backfired. she isnt a stranger
 

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How well do you know her? Once you asked her if she liked to skateboard and she gave you a negative response - you should've went off onto a story... maybe about how you learned to skateboard. She will listen and her mind won't help but think of something else to say. That'll get you alteast 2-3 more minutes of conversation, which you can use to flirt and build attraction.

You have many more closes to go if this is your first, but I salute your efforts. Progression is the name of the game.
We know each other cuz were in a club at school. we only see each other once a week. She shows lots of iois at the club and sometimes would try to start a convo. I made my move yesterday.
 

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Umm well i dont really like how you appraoched and tried to conquer, but you did have enough balls to talk to the girl and try and that is more than anyone could say for about 75% of the guys on this board. So congrats, keep leaning, just keep trying, and eventually you'll plant your seed!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ye i thought that was wierd too? its seems like your just talking to a girl who seems pretty uninterested and then you try to pawn your watch off on her?
 

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zack77766 said:
Me: C+F opener.
Her: she’s laughing but completely misses the joke
Me: (I look at her shoes) So do you skateboard?
Her: no
Was she wearing skate shoes? Why'd you ask if she skateboards?
Me: Have you ever thought about learning how to?
Her: No
Me: Oh that’s all right I’ll teach you(I whip out my paper)
Her: ???
She says she's never thought about learning how, then you offer to teach her how... try listening to her. She said she wasn't interested in skateboarding. Change the topic slightly at this point.
Me: Oh (Do you ever get asked out?) let me call you sometime.
oh God. Please tell me you didn't say "do you ever get asked out?"
Her: Oh I don’t have a number (or something like that and starts walking to some girls nearby)
Me: OK so can I have your email? (She does so)
OK, you're being persistant, not bad in itself... but... well, she's already walking away... at this point, consider saying something noncommittal, like "yea, take 'er easy" or something. conversation's pretty much over at this point.
Me: You’re not a theif are you?
Her: No
Me: I’d like you to have this (I screwed up on this big time?). I take off my watch.
Her: Oh no that’s ok.
Dude. That's just creepy. The girls trying to walk away from you, and you start telling her you're going to give her your watch? ... something like that might work right off the bat with a random girl, but... well, it's got to go to a point where you get your watch back... then you start talking to the girl about herself.

Hows it look? Why wont she give me her number? Why did she look all confused when I whipped out my paper? Was she impressed? I know her a little and she had a crush on me. Its a real email too.
It doesn't look so good. My guess is that she wouldn't give you her number because she doesn't want to learn how to skateboard. It's not really a girl thing. She might have a crush on you, but try to find something you two both like to talk about, and then use that to find out something that you both like, or that you'd like to try together...

but for now, let it slide. Give it a few days, a few weeks, whatever. If you keep at it, she's going to think you're trying too hard.
 

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um no she was interested in me. the email address she gave me was legit. remember girls were trying to pull her away for about 2-3 times that night but she still stayed. i think if she wasnt interested she would have just gave me a fake number. she still lives with her parents.....about the watch yeah I screwed up cuz I was trying to do strauss' give trick but I botched the words
 

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the stuff that confuses you didn't work becuase it came across WIERD

the paper thing came out of nowhere. one second you're asking if she skateboards. then you're whipping out a piece of paper without any context. meanwhile she's looking at you, wondering wtf is going on? next time pull out the paper AFTER she gives you the contact info. that's what someone who isn't so eager to get the number would do

the watch thing came across wierd because it was out of nowhere too. she wasn't even paying attention to the watch and then suddenly you wanna give it to her. next time give her the watch only if she notices it first and gushes at it or soemthing. even still giving her a watch is kinda wierd because, well, it's a watch and it's something YOU would NEED. I think Mystery uses a hat when he does it. that makes more sense. and even then he only gives the hat after he knows he's got some attraction
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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zack77766 said:
Me: C+F opener.
Her: she’s laughing but completely misses the joke
Me: (I look at her shoes) So do you skateboard?
Her: no
Me: Have you ever thought about learning how to?
Her: No
Me: Oh that’s all right I’ll teach you(I whip out my paper)
Her: ???
Me: Oh (Do you ever get asked out?) let me call you sometime.
Her: Oh I don’t have a number (or something like that and starts walking to some girls nearby)
Me: OK so can I have your email? (She does so) You’re not a theif are you?
Her: No
Me: I’d like you to have this (I screwed up on this big time?). I take off my watch.
Her: Oh no that’s ok.
Hows it look? Why wont she give me her number? Why did she look all confused when I whipped out my paper? Was she impressed? I know her a little and she had a crush on me. Its a real email too.
You offered your watch for her giving you her email? LOLOLOLOL. What would give her if she gave you her phone number - your pants? If she doesn't skateboard, you have change the subject to something she IDENTIFIES with. Clothes, music, hair, sex, whatever. She said she didn't skateboard and you forced the issue. Pick something she likes and roll with it as much as you can.

Reverse the situation and pretend a HB was into you trying to pick you up.

HB: Do you bungy jump?
You: No, I like skateboarding
HB: Why don't you bungy jump?
You: I don't know, skateboarding is much more fun. I love skateboarding.
HB: You should learn how to bungy jump, I can teach you.

How would you like this girl if she's not listening to what you are saying? You would probably tell her where to go.
 
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