Does anyone have the same problem? Its like if i have a good first approach and everything goes well, im on fire all night. Where if i have a bad first approach and im all lame, i have a bad night. Its like my first approach determines how confident i am in my game for the rest of the night. Wondering if anyone is like that too?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
My first approach at a club determines how the whole night goes
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I think that if you get rejected, you should hit a different part of the club. That way, you don't feel embarrassed because chances are no one there saw the rejection. Or you can wait and witness another guy get rejected and realize that it's all a numbers game.
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yup its important to nail that first approach...
but if it don't work out right keep at it ...(I know its hard..but you can rebound well if you try hard and don't ruin your mood....just move onto some other hot b!tches
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but if it don't work out right keep at it ...(I know its hard..but you can rebound well if you try hard and don't ruin your mood....just move onto some other hot b!tches
)I also think that drinking enough can help you withstand rejection, just don't get too drunk. This plan is only good if you aren't planning on driving back home.
If you really want to nail your first approach, I would suggest first getting out in the middle of the dance floor and start dancing by yourself. This helps you get your body used to moving to the rhytym and the beats, so your first approach comes off more smoothly. Then find a girl nearby and casually approach her for a dance.
NEVER approach a girl as soon as you spot her from a distance. I've been shot down many times by using this technique because you come off looking kind of creepy. You should only do this if you have already danced with a couple of chicks and you are feeling extremely confident. Otherwise, keep doing nearby approaches.
Hope this helps!
If you really want to nail your first approach, I would suggest first getting out in the middle of the dance floor and start dancing by yourself. This helps you get your body used to moving to the rhytym and the beats, so your first approach comes off more smoothly. Then find a girl nearby and casually approach her for a dance.
NEVER approach a girl as soon as you spot her from a distance. I've been shot down many times by using this technique because you come off looking kind of creepy. You should only do this if you have already danced with a couple of chicks and you are feeling extremely confident. Otherwise, keep doing nearby approaches.
Hope this helps!