Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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My female boss

LuckyStrike

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I have this HB8 as a boss. I've received mixed signals from her in the past but I've dismissed them since she's is my boss(indirectly), she's married and I consider chicks at work as off limits anyways because of the obvious.

Anyways, the other day, I'm on the phone and she walks by without looking at me. A couple of minutes later she walks by again and looks at me(still on the phone) and asks "Is that your girlfriend?" and then walks away.

What the hell is up with that???
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tazman

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LuckyStrike said:
I've received mixed signals from her in the past but I've dismissed them since she's is my boss(indirectly), she's married and I consider chicks at work as off limits anyways because of the obvious.
Sounds like you haven't really "dismissed" her otherwise you wouldn't have posted about her asking if you were talking with your gf.
 

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flippinfreak said:
Your at work... you are on the phone

If I were your boss, you wouldn't be on the phone at all.
Then he might not be doing his job??

Some people have jobs that require them to use phones, most don't require you to say "you want fries with that?".
 

MindOverMatter

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Good_ol_boy said:
Then he might not be doing his job??

Some people have jobs that require them to use phones, most don't require you to say "you want fries with that?".
Ouch, lol.

To the original poster, no it's not an indicator of interest. It's common for a boss to take interest in the lives of employees (when I was in management I knew most of my employees down to the last detail). By building that kind of rapport with a client, you establish more trust and it makes it easier for them to do their job (i.e. i don't have to yell and threaten them to stop them from slacking).

As for the mixed signals, I'd advise you not to act on it. Most women in charge tend to have flirty personalities (it comes with the power and confidence), so it's easy to mistake their platonic personality for one that's full of interest.

My advice? Don't sh!t where you eat. Be professional, do your job, get your pay and f*ck women you're not financially attached to. And never get tied up with a married woman, that sh!t is nothing but trouble.
 

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flippinfreak said:
If I were your boss, you wouldn't be on the phone at all.
Sounds like you wouldn't be a boss for long. Alot of people use the phone for business reasons instead of personal.

Even if you were using it for personal reasons, it makes me wonder why she would even ask if you were talking to your girlfriend or not. What does that matter? Unless she was jealous or something...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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GirlCrazy

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Maybe she's just feeding the office rumor mill. Some of the girls in the office might be curious about whether you have a GF or not, and your boss is just getting the scoop. Who knows, but I wouldn't read much into it.
 
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