DreamAgain
Master Don Juan
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So, I posted a while back how I thought the quality of women for long term relationships was higher abroad than in the US. I had certain reasons why I believed this, perhaps less toxic feminist influence being one, less obesity, etc.
I gave it a good attempt of going to a European country where I spoke the language fluently, and was in the upper tier of financial status. After many months, I am giving up in this endeavor and explaining why it failed below:
1) If you go to a place where there is net migration out of the place, primarily due to professional/economic reasons, you (as an immigrant without an established social circle) will always be viewed as an outsider. Making friends was particularly difficult because there was just too big a difference in terms of values, life philosophy, financial means, etc.
2) Despite not finding a reliable wingman I still relied on day game and swipe apps to go on dates and hook up with some girls. But I found that due to the ubiquity of smart phones, the younger generation there is no different than the younger generation in the US. They are just poorer.
3) As a result of this poverty, you conversely have bad levels of education. Talking to girls was not enjoyable due to this, the universities are not good in the country I went compared to what I was used to in the states.
4) The older girls (age 27+) are looking more for beta male providers and not to be pumped and dumped, they would rather not even hook up due to this fear. I guess it happened too many times, as the saying goes, once burned..
So overall, I found the compromises of living in a much worse off country were not worth the potential trade offs of meeting better quality women.
What I advise, instead, for any guy in his early thirties or late twenties to do:
1) Move to a larger tier city where you can make a good income, earn respectable status with your occupation.
2) Get in the best shape as possible. Become well versed enough to be able to talk about almost any topic.
3) Take the best pictures you can, professionally if needed, and pay for access to all the dating apps in your area.
4) Look for a single good wingman or two who you enjoy spending time with and hit up happy hours/popular bars in your area from the times of 7:30 to midnight on either friday or saturday night.
I gave it a good attempt of going to a European country where I spoke the language fluently, and was in the upper tier of financial status. After many months, I am giving up in this endeavor and explaining why it failed below:
1) If you go to a place where there is net migration out of the place, primarily due to professional/economic reasons, you (as an immigrant without an established social circle) will always be viewed as an outsider. Making friends was particularly difficult because there was just too big a difference in terms of values, life philosophy, financial means, etc.
2) Despite not finding a reliable wingman I still relied on day game and swipe apps to go on dates and hook up with some girls. But I found that due to the ubiquity of smart phones, the younger generation there is no different than the younger generation in the US. They are just poorer.
3) As a result of this poverty, you conversely have bad levels of education. Talking to girls was not enjoyable due to this, the universities are not good in the country I went compared to what I was used to in the states.
4) The older girls (age 27+) are looking more for beta male providers and not to be pumped and dumped, they would rather not even hook up due to this fear. I guess it happened too many times, as the saying goes, once burned..
So overall, I found the compromises of living in a much worse off country were not worth the potential trade offs of meeting better quality women.
What I advise, instead, for any guy in his early thirties or late twenties to do:
1) Move to a larger tier city where you can make a good income, earn respectable status with your occupation.
2) Get in the best shape as possible. Become well versed enough to be able to talk about almost any topic.
3) Take the best pictures you can, professionally if needed, and pay for access to all the dating apps in your area.
4) Look for a single good wingman or two who you enjoy spending time with and hit up happy hours/popular bars in your area from the times of 7:30 to midnight on either friday or saturday night.