"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My ex is mentally ill

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So my bpd/npd ex sister just contacted me. Both of her sisters actually, they told me how there sister used to gaslight them and destroyed their self esteem. They told me they think my ex is a narcissist and Im like no ****! They knew everything about NPD and BPD...They told me about all the manipulative abusive **** she used to do. It was really refreshing to relate to two people that knew this woman quite well.

Our relationship was on the rocks but I was the one who pulled the trigger and decided to not work things out. Now she is going around telling everyone she broke up with me which isn't 100% true, we agreed to say it was a mutual breakup.

She told her sister "well I was the one who broke up with him. He's a ****ing idiot haha" Absolutely no remorse considering how good I was to her. We ended things on good terms and I went on with my life and started dating other hotter women without saying a single bad thing about her. Her sister also told me she continues to bash me on social media.

The idea that I was making love to a woman with no soul, that was mentally ill, for two years is kind of disturbing to me. Its a very creepy feeling that I can't quite describe. So for all you guys going through breakups that actually lost out on a a good woman, don't feel too bad...I would take being heartbroken by a good woman over being disgusted by a sick individual any day.

Im not even going to contact her and curse her out for the things she posted about me, she's not worth it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The idea that I was making love to a woman with no soul, that was mentally ill, for two years is kind of disturbing to me. Its a very creepy feeling that I can't quite describe.
Yes, it’s the realization that there was absolutely no love involved on her side regardless of what she said and told you.
It’s the same feeling that the victim of a good con job has. You feel played and wonder why you didn’t see it while it was happening…
 
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your obsessed with her you need to go complete NC no checking FB NOTHING ...shell be back then shell dispatch of you quicker than a fat bird going down on a sausage roll
 

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theres a lot of talk about mentally ill women on this forum, but nearly every woman i know could tick 70% of the check list if there under 40 years old
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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@captain55

How many threads do you need to create before your open your eyes?

It is absolutely astounding that you have been here over 4 years, and from what I have observed, have learned very little... You will be better served by finding a desperate overweight woman on OLD and venting to her about your issues.
 

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your obsessed with her you need to go complete NC no checking FB NOTHING ...shell be back then shell dispatch of you quicker than a fat bird going down on a sausage roll
I was no contact. Her sister contacted me
 

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So my bpd/npd ex sister just contacted me. Both of her sisters actually, they told me how there sister used to gaslight them and destroyed their self esteem. They told me they think my ex is a narcissist and Im like no ****! They knew everything about NPD and BPD...They told me about all the manipulative abusive **** she used to do. It was really refreshing to relate to two people that knew this woman quite well.

Our relationship was on the rocks but I was the one who pulled the trigger and decided to not work things out. Now she is going around telling everyone she broke up with me which isn't 100% true, we agreed to say it was a mutual breakup.

She told her sister "well I was the one who broke up with him. He's a ****ing idiot haha" Absolutely no remorse considering how good I was to her. We ended things on good terms and I went on with my life and started dating other hotter women without saying a single bad thing about her. Her sister also told me she continues to bash me on social media.

The idea that I was making love to a woman with no soul, that was mentally ill, for two years is kind of disturbing to me. Its a very creepy feeling that I can't quite describe. So for all you guys going through breakups that actually lost out on a a good woman, don't feel too bad...I would take being heartbroken by a good woman over being disgusted by a sick individual any day.

Im not even going to contact her and curse her out for the things she posted about me, she's not worth it.
These women feed from the attention they generate via drama. It's best to ignore them.
 

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OP "Professional victim" there called and there good at it
 

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@captain55

How many threads do you need to create before your open your eyes?

It is absolutely astounding that you have been here over 4 years, and from what I have observed, have learned very little... You will be better served by finding a desperate overweight woman on OLD and venting to her about your issues.
Pretty much this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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