"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My ex-girlfriend who cheated on me left me a birthday card...

JCKey618

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For those of you that remember my threads, my last girl and I got in a big fight and I told her not to ever talk to me again and I left it at that. That was like 10 days ago and I haven't talked to or seen her at all, just like I wanted. (I also found out like 2 days later that she had had sex with some dude 2 weeks BEFORE we broke it off).

Well, today is my birthday. I come home from an outing and low and behold, there is a card in my door. It was asimple little birthday card from Lauren, the cheating ex. It said at the bottom "Yours truly, Lauren."

So, I called her up and thanked her for it cus I thought I should atleast thank her and then I said 'well, I just wanted to tell you I got it and thank you, bye."

She doesn't know that I know she cheated on me. I was just wondering if I did the right thing? Was it rude/wrong of me to be so short with her?

In all actuality, I wish she hadn't gotten me the card and hopefully she will not do things like this in the future. I just want to be rid of her forever.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Dude, let her go... You're continued attachment to her is making you nutsy over a piece of cardboard. Think about it....
 

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Guilt trip warning. It's a manipulative trick to clear her conscience and keep you as her little lapdog to feed her ego when she's down.

You shouldn't have thanked her for it as she had selfish motives to sending it.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Jariel
Guilt trip warning. It's a manipulative trick to clear her conscience and keep you as her little lapdog to feed her ego when she's down.
You've got that right.
 

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You being Rude?

The cheating b1tch should not exist for you anymore.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lol that's funny.

She cheated on you and you're worried about being rude by cutting the conversation short.

She didn't even deserve any acknowledgement. The positive of this is that you were polite (moreso than she deserved) but you stayed fairly strong too.

Now is time to just leave the whole thing alone on that friendly note.
 

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Here's what you do:

1) Go on the net and find a pic of a man and a woman fvcking.

2) Copy and paste to Word, landscape page format.

3) Inside the card, write "I know." Print, fold in half.

4) Place it outside her door.


Wait for her reaction.
 

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lol. that's hilarious.

no probs, man. nothing wrong with being polite. as long as it ends there. the woman cheated on you. move on. plenty more out there :cool:

cowboy up
 

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Originally posted by BrWnSugaMan
Here's what you do:

1) Go on the net and find a pic of a man and a woman fvcking.

2) Copy and paste to Word, landscape page format.

3) Inside the card, write "I know." Print, fold in half.

4) Place it outside her door.


Wait for her reaction.
wait for her birthday to do this actually :)
 

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Hello JcKey

Just forget about her. She is out of your life so just let it go. You are twisting yourself up in a pretzel and making bad blood for nothing. Learn to let go.

Though funny, the suggestion to give a her funny card is all spite for nothing. Just let go and let bygones be bygones.

If she writes you again in the future. Do not respond. If she ever calls you, tell her that everything is over in your mind and you do not want to talk to her again. Ignore her.

The range of possibilities for which she is writing to you are endless, but don't encourage it. Ignore her.

And! Don't talk about it to your new girlfriend!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I wouldn't have rung her up.

It will show her you don't give a **** ...which hopefully you don't if she cheated on you!
 
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