"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My ex-girlfriend who cheated on me left me a birthday card...

JCKey618

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For those of you that remember my threads, my last girl and I got in a big fight and I told her not to ever talk to me again and I left it at that. That was like 10 days ago and I haven't talked to or seen her at all, just like I wanted. (I also found out like 2 days later that she had had sex with some dude 2 weeks BEFORE we broke it off).

Well, today is my birthday. I come home from an outing and low and behold, there is a card in my door. It was asimple little birthday card from Lauren, the cheating ex. It said at the bottom "Yours truly, Lauren."

So, I called her up and thanked her for it cus I thought I should atleast thank her and then I said 'well, I just wanted to tell you I got it and thank you, bye."

She doesn't know that I know she cheated on me. I was just wondering if I did the right thing? Was it rude/wrong of me to be so short with her?

In all actuality, I wish she hadn't gotten me the card and hopefully she will not do things like this in the future. I just want to be rid of her forever.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Dude, let her go... You're continued attachment to her is making you nutsy over a piece of cardboard. Think about it....
 

Jariel

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Guilt trip warning. It's a manipulative trick to clear her conscience and keep you as her little lapdog to feed her ego when she's down.

You shouldn't have thanked her for it as she had selfish motives to sending it.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Jariel
Guilt trip warning. It's a manipulative trick to clear her conscience and keep you as her little lapdog to feed her ego when she's down.
You've got that right.
 

Rogerman

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You being Rude?

The cheating b1tch should not exist for you anymore.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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lol that's funny.

She cheated on you and you're worried about being rude by cutting the conversation short.

She didn't even deserve any acknowledgement. The positive of this is that you were polite (moreso than she deserved) but you stayed fairly strong too.

Now is time to just leave the whole thing alone on that friendly note.
 

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Here's what you do:

1) Go on the net and find a pic of a man and a woman fvcking.

2) Copy and paste to Word, landscape page format.

3) Inside the card, write "I know." Print, fold in half.

4) Place it outside her door.


Wait for her reaction.
 

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lol. that's hilarious.

no probs, man. nothing wrong with being polite. as long as it ends there. the woman cheated on you. move on. plenty more out there :cool:

cowboy up
 

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Originally posted by BrWnSugaMan
Here's what you do:

1) Go on the net and find a pic of a man and a woman fvcking.

2) Copy and paste to Word, landscape page format.

3) Inside the card, write "I know." Print, fold in half.

4) Place it outside her door.


Wait for her reaction.
wait for her birthday to do this actually :)
 

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Hello JcKey

Just forget about her. She is out of your life so just let it go. You are twisting yourself up in a pretzel and making bad blood for nothing. Learn to let go.

Though funny, the suggestion to give a her funny card is all spite for nothing. Just let go and let bygones be bygones.

If she writes you again in the future. Do not respond. If she ever calls you, tell her that everything is over in your mind and you do not want to talk to her again. Ignore her.

The range of possibilities for which she is writing to you are endless, but don't encourage it. Ignore her.

And! Don't talk about it to your new girlfriend!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I wouldn't have rung her up.

It will show her you don't give a **** ...which hopefully you don't if she cheated on you!
 
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