"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My ex GF in front of my house right now!

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I don't know how to handle that anymore... I'm trying to solve this the best I can. I told I don't wanna talk, I want to be alone... Not even said there was a problem in the relationship... Just said that I want to be alone and not emotionally good for a relationship right now.

She sent me a message saying that she was there waiting for me. This is very disrespectful man.

I couldn't even went to my home now because she will be there untill I arrive.

Is there a way to handle that without being rude with her? Cause it's starting to go beyound the limits.

I blocked her on all... but this fcking Android doesnt block SMS.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is not a good situation to be in... However, I wouldn‘t stay away from my own home because of her. Stay calm when you arrive and she‘s still there. Don‘t let her provocate you or worse let her involve you in a bad situation.

Do you have a buddy who can go with you, in case of escalation?
 

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This is not a good situation to be in... However, I wouldn‘t stay away from my own home because of her. Stay calm when you arrive and she‘s still there. Don‘t let her provocate you or worse let her involve you in a bad situation.

Do you have a buddy who can go with you, in case of escalation?
Right now no... Also I don't want to involve my family into that. I live alone btw.

I could go there and just tell I don't want to talk... but she says that she doesn't accept that man. That is not right... and for this behavior I should be far away from her.

Gonna wait some hours... maybe sit down on a bar and hope she doesnt find me. She can also came to my job, she did that in the past.
 

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Definition of stalker

1: a person who stalks : a person who pursues someone obsessively and aggressively to the point of harassment
 

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Definition of stalker

1: a person who stalks : a person who pursues someone obsessively and aggressively to the point of harassment
What should I do?

Call the cops? I really don't know what works... the time I stop the car and open the gate... she will go inside my house. I was very clear when I say: "I took my decision, I don't want to talk anymore... Theres nothing to talk, just respect that please!"

The only option I see is to stay at a hotel for some days and wait untill she gave up. Wtf, how can a person do that sh1t!!!!!!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What should I do?

Call the cops? I really don't know what works... the time I stop the car and open the gate... she will go inside my house. I was very clear when I say: "I took my decision, I don't want to talk anymore... Theres nothing to talk, just respect that please!"

The only option I see is to stay at a hotel for some days and wait untill she gave up. Wtf, how can a person do that sh1t!!!!!!!
ghost that hoe
 

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What should I do?

Call the cops? I really don't know what works... the time I stop the car and open the gate... she will go inside my house. I was very clear when I say: "I took my decision, I don't want to talk anymore... Theres nothing to talk, just respect that please!"

The only option I see is to stay at a hotel for some days and wait untill she gave up. Wtf, how can a person do that sh1t!!!!!!!
I don't know how things are in Brazil, but here in the U.S., I've had friends who called the cops and they themselves got arrested even though it was clear the woman did all the harassing. Be careful about getting law enforcement involved.
 

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I don't know how things are in Brazil, but here in the U.S., I've had friends who called the cops and they themselves got arrested even though it was clear the woman did all the harassing. Be careful about getting law enforcement involved.
LOL man!!! That's fcking insane!

I'm affraid of that... and it's carnival here... so the mess is just starting near my office!

Gonna check for a hotel or leave the town for some days! =/
 

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By not giving me the distance I want you're not respecting my decision. You're acting selfish and are only pushing me away when you act like this. If you want to talk to me again then respect my decision, otherwise I will continue to avoid you until I get the space I want.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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By not giving me the distance I want you're not respecting my decision. You're acting selfish and are only pushing me away when you act like this. If you want to talk to me again then respect my decision, otherwise I will continue to avoid you until I get the space I want.
talking sense to psychos, is a waste of your life.

Save your energy for important things.
 

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Send her @EyeOnThePrize ‘s text via messenger and see what happens. If she doesn‘t back off you have evidence of you trying to solve the situation without confrontation
 

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By not giving me the distance I want you're not respecting my decision. You're acting selfish and are only pushing me away when you act like this. If you want to talk to me again then respect my decision, otherwise I will continue to avoid you until I get the space I want.
Wise word

Might not work with the crazy.but you mever know
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've been stalked four times (perhaps more if they were good enough stalkers).
Her next move will be to push your buttons. She wants a reaction (any attention is better than no attention)
Then... after she accepts that you aren't interested, she'll feel the need to regain her pride. Expect further drama and unkind situations (one of these keyed my car) .

If you think it's serious, file a restraining order. It's been years since I've encountered your situation, but with the climate *these days* you need all the evidence and protection on your side.
 

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I don't know how to handle that anymore... I'm trying to solve this the best I can. I told I don't wanna talk, I want to be alone... Not even said there was a problem in the relationship... Just said that I want to be alone and not emotionally good for a relationship right now.

She sent me a message saying that she was there waiting for me. This is very disrespectful man.

I couldn't even went to my home now because she will be there untill I arrive.

Is there a way to handle that without being rude with her? Cause it's starting to go beyound the limits.

I blocked her on all... but this fcking Android doesnt block SMS.
Call the cops. This can turn bad if she doesn't like what you say.
 

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Hire someone to get video or pictures of her doing this. In fact, go into the cop shop and ask them who they recommend....let the cops show concern for you, not her. She must know you're alone with no buddies or family. This situation sucks. She's abusive and a criminal at this point. Kind of worried for you, maybe contact a lawyer before the cops?
 

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By not giving me the distance I want you're not respecting my decision. You're acting selfish and are only pushing me away when you act like this. If you want to talk to me again then respect my decision, otherwise I will continue to avoid you until I get the space I want.
I said something similar to that. Its really the best way to talk to someone in that case.

The only problem is that she doesnt care about having a proper conversation or respecting my decision.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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