"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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My dating process for a LTR... Sounds good?

Shivastorm_88

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It's basically a few points that I have to keep in mind when dating girls and looking for a LTR. Of course on those points there can always be some exceptions :D

Dating Process

1) For the first 3-4 dates, I choose the dates, no exception, no compromise. If she doesn’t like my ideas, too bad. The point is to find the perfect girl that will like me and my hobbies, not to make a compromise.
2) I set dates over the phone (always make sure not to call the next day or the same day) and don’t keep contact with her in between dates.
3) One date per week for the first 4 weeks, and if she keeps saying yes, up it if I want too.
4) Don’t jump on a girl after only a few (2-3) action dates. After all, I am weeding out the girls for the perfect one, not to jump on the first one that I get a chance too.
5) If on action dates I keep getting good vibes, start planning romantic dates (IF the girl has passed all my expectations).
6) On romantic dates, escalate to kiss and more.
7) I go on action dates where I am comfortable enough to do by myself, because after all, the goal is to have fun on the date itself, no to have fun by being in the presence of the girl.
8) Keep the fun on me, not on her. She is merely tagging along in MY world.
9)If she flakes on me, she is not interested, therefore NEXT.
10) On the date itself, say the least things possible about yourself, unless she asks me.
11) On the date itself, show her by actions (escalating Kino, body language, eye contact, etc) that I am interested. If she rejects Kino, or her body language says she isn’t interested, NEXT.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"1) For the first 3-4 dates, I choose the dates, no exception, no compromise. If she doesn’t like my ideas, too bad. The point is to find the perfect girl that will like me and my hobbies, not to make a compromise."

There's nothing wrong with a little negotiation. I hate the word compromise. Compromising in relationships is awful, and it leads to bad things.

Look up the difference between negotiation, and comprise...

Otherwise, your list seems fine. It'll be very difficult, and almost impossible to follow it perfectly. You may find yourself in testy situations.

Remember, be flexible, not a dictator, you'll never find yourself in an LTR if you are too orderly.
 

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B4IFURU18? said:
"1) For the first 3-4 dates, I choose the dates, no exception, no compromise. If she doesn’t like my ideas, too bad. The point is to find the perfect girl that will like me and my hobbies, not to make a compromise."

There's nothing wrong with a little negotiation. I hate the word compromise. Compromising in relationships is awful, and it leads to bad things.

Look up the difference between negotiation, and comprise...

Otherwise, your list seems fine. It'll be very difficult, and almost impossible to follow it perfectly. You may find yourself in testy situations.

Remember, be flexible, not a dictator, you'll never find yourself in an LTR if you are too orderly.
Yea I know like I said there's always exceptions... that list is in the best of worlds. And by what I meant in number 1 is this: Assuming I propose the girl to go play pool (something I adore) and she says she hates pool... Already that's a bad start. Then assuming I suggest we go workout together someday and she refuses again. Why would I even bother going for that girl when I could find a girl that loves pool and/or working out?
 

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Shivastorm_88 said:
Yea I know like I said there's always exceptions... that list is in the best of worlds. And by what I meant in number 1 is this: Assuming I propose the girl to go play pool (something I adore) and she says she hates pool... Already that's a bad start. Then assuming I suggest we go workout together someday and she refuses again. Why would I even bother going for that girl when I could find a girl that loves pool and/or working out?

Right, nothing wrong there. If you suggest to do something, and she's rudely indifferent about it, she's gone. Especially so if she doesn't make a recommendation first.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nighthawk said:
Screw girls


Agreed. Very good advice. Total DJ Bible material right here!!
 

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You put way too much thought into this man. Just be a genuine, confident guy who is both interesting and interested and everything will fall into place. No need for a step by step system that will only constrain you.

1) For the first 3-4 dates, I choose the dates, no exception, no compromise. If she doesn’t like my ideas, too bad. The point is to find the perfect girl that will like me and my hobbies, not to make a compromise.
If she genuinely doesn't like something, suggest another plan. Negotiate, but negotiate from a position of leadership.

10) On the date itself, say the least things possible about yourself, unless she asks me.
I don't mean to come across as harsh, but this is an extremely bad idea mate. Talking from the "I" perspective is probably the best facilitator of connection possible. You want to build a connection with the women; else she's not going to be around for very long.

Overall, it sounds to me like you want to come across as extremely not interested in her, which is a big mistake. Playing hard to get is way overrated.

Basically you're rejecting her before she even has a chance to reject you. That's just another form of insecurity in disguise.

Don't take any of the above advice as a personal attack; please consider it.

Kudos,
Matt
 
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