You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She invited him!!! You did know that, right? It was not a coincidence! This was all planned and he lived too far for him to pick her up and take back home -- so she invited you!!!BADA-BING said:As the night goes on we were out with friends drinking and having a good 'ol time she starts talking to this guy she knew that showed up to the bar. We ended up going to another bar and this other guy shows there too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
thesynergist said:OR, you could further simplify your life by not going on dates with girls that regret having sex with you!
BADA-BING said:So i am seeing this chick, 25 yrs old, HB 7 very funloving girl. We have been hanging out and having a good time. Last sunday we went out and she ended up taking me home that night and we hooked up. It was great and she says the same. The next day (Monday) she emails me and says that we need to talk, im thinkin "uh oh".
Last night(tuesday) she somes over to pick me up and she says that maybe the sunday night hookup wasn't a good idea and maybe it was a mistake...blah blah blah...I like someone else...blah blahh... you get the picture. So I said "well its sounds like you have your mind made up, so I won't be a dingleberry nobody likes those." We left it at that because we were arriving at the bar we were headed to.
As the night goes on we were out with friends drinking and having a good 'ol time she starts talking to this guy she knew that showed up to the bar. We ended up going to another bar and this other guy shows there too. They proceeded to dance together and started getting touchy with each other. I was about to say something when this guys friend comes over and sits next to me and says "don't think about making a move because she is taken and youll get your ass kicked" There was four of them and I was by myself. I was like WTF??? i didn't know what to do at the time so I sat there and waited a little while before the bar started closing.
She eventually comes over to talk to me and informs me that she is leaving with this other guy. She is drunk and she drove and brought me, i was not quite so liquored up so i said "how do I get home?", she gives me her keys and says I'll take you to lunch tommorow if you take my car home and my friend. So long story short she left the bar with this other dude!!!!!!!!!(smacking my head on the pavement now) and I got stuck taking her friend home and taking her car to her house this morning. WHAT THE F*CK MAN!! I felt USED, and DISRESPECTED to say the least.
I am feeling extremely AFC right now. So once I dropped her car off i deleted her number from my phone book. I feel like revenge but she is not worth my time.
Maybe i should have called for a ride or something. But I do know that i need to study the bible hard to bust the AFC out of me.
How would anyone else handle this?
MacAvoy said:I would have said to the guys, "your right, she's not worth it, I'm out of here" and as I was walking away I'd say "ask your buddy later, how my cumm tastes"