Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
:trouble:check_mate_kid_uk said:$100 for a hole in the wall? Ask her how much she charges for a hole in her face.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
spider_007 said:1) move
2) get some help, punching holes in the walls is not NORMAL, cool or healthy...you got some major problems
3) leave your parents bee. Carma is a *****. When they are 80 years old and are in the nursing home, with nobody visting them..... they'll be paying for it.
True...but if he had 50K (from wherever source)...that is HIS money. The parents can manage that money...but they cannot just arbitrary go out and spent it and used the "we are raising you" as an excuse.penkitten said:in these parts of the woods, a minor under 18 has to have at least one of his/her parents on the savings account with them.
they legally control the account and the money.
if they cant pay the rent or afford to feed you, they can take it out of your account to do so.
i dont think you have a lawsuit, you just have found another reason to grow up and when you turn 18, be your own person and get out on your own.
i am not saying this is right, but lets face it, life sucks.
Agreed. Minors are basically helpless against their parents, short of physical abuse (and often even then). The most frustrating thing in the world is to have your rights walked all over without being able to do a thing about it. Luckily, Rint, Desidinova is right in that at this point you have the freedom to leave so it is up to you to do so, otherwise everything you are subjected to is a result of your choice not to. Your parents shouldn't have done what they did, but unfortunately it doesn't look like the law would agree. Still, spend some time researching what you can do.Desdinova said:I'm going to sympathize with this dude. I'm not sure how many of you have experienced frustrations like this while you were living at home, but it isn't fun.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.