"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My Confession

Mizael

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I don’t know where to start. I lost my biggest chance ever today. Judge me how you want, but I tried my best, AFC or not.

For 4 months a girl has been falling for me without me noticing until these last 30 drama days.

But let’s start from the very beginning:

A group of girls, man hunters, constitute of 4 girls. The first of them, probably the best looking one, is called Pamela. The second one, the cause of this disaster, Daniela. The rest, doesn’t matter.

They are always together, inseparable. Many try to penetrate the circle, but only a few succeeded.

Daniela grew interest in me, giving eye contact, smiles, and two attempt approaches, of which I did nothing, but soon this all stops. Time passes and Pamela starts playing her game?

I have caught a few ‘she checking me out?looks. But when trying to make eye contact, she acts as nothing happens, so I just thought they were talking about how cute I was. Timid or shy, I don’t know.

For the next two weeks, intensive approaches of her, a lovely Good Morning, frequent ‘Hi’s and repetitive eye contact. I loved it. First person I knew that had interest in me. First person that cute that had interest in me.

But during all that, Daniela was messing with me, or at least, I thought she was.

Although being Pamela’s close friend, Daniela gave me uncounted intensive stare, as will any high interest girl do, some of them, as long as 7-10 seconds. She fvcking confused me. That’s right, CONFUSED. Read it again if you don’t believe. CONFUSED !!!

With my straight A’s, my logical mentality didn’t function very well in this illogical world

I started to make theories, such as: Daniela helping Pamela to seduce me, or the other way around: Pamela helping Daniela to seduce me. Or, they both were trying seduce me.

I made a lot of move, but none of which lead to anything, all signs of interest disappear when I move in. They actually want to run away when I try to talk to them.

Impatient, asked one of the friends ‘which one had interest in me? but she acted like she knew nothing. So I took my chances?asked the very next one who stares at me out.

Believe or not, I asked the wrong one. Anyways, she rejected my invitation, my first rejection. LOL. Daniela rejected my invitation. Pamela was the one 'in-love'

The news spread quite quickly. Pamela was angry, furious, hurt.

I tried to explain it all in something called PIXLOG, in which many people post their pictures.

www.pixlog.net

Describing it all, respecting the first rule (never tell her u love her) and stating that I’m the prize, she updates the page, saying ‘Daniela, you can have him, I let you, he is all yours?

Im falling for her, guys, for Pamela. And a heck of oneitis of which I cant get rid of. The post of AFC Protector didn’t work on me.

Any great ideas?

Not much fish in the ocean.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LikRetsam

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End yourself.
 

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Bah. Oneitis is a *****.

I got over mine by getting with her and deciding thay she wasn't all that good. Maybe you should try it.
 

AFK Protector

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Yo. um, it's AFK Protector. I help AFCs and if they don't listen I'm not gonna protect them. But AFKs (away from keyboard), I'm gonna protect their ass until they get back. So that's the history behind my screenname.

Moving forward, about your issue. Hey man. It's ok if you have oneitis. That's normal. We're never really cured of it. Kinda like cancer if you get it. But here's the thing, which one did you ask? Was it PAmela? I didn't think that was clear enough. Just let me know whichone rejected you. And why do you even feel you have a chance after she's rejected you? Remember, ******d appearances are exactlyjust that: appearances. So perhaps the other girl may be even better than the one that rejected you. Combine my tip with going for other girls. you don't gotta end it with the one who rejected you. Be friends or something and use her as social proof to bag one of her hot friends.

Good luck and answer my question.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
Yo. um, it's AFK Protector. I help AFCs and if they don't listen I'm not gonna protect them. But AFKs (away from keyboard), I'm gonna protect their ass until they get back. So that's the history behind my screenname.
I always wondered ya know. I thought u spelled AFC wrong or something :p

Anyways to the original poster, should move on from her. I know you still have feelings for her and (more than likely) her for you too. But judged on your past performance I still think you aint got the balls to do anything to her. That was a pretty lame move on your behalf, picking the first one that looked at you, especially since you knew very well who you wanted.

And you posted the situation online on some random website for them to see? Wow... You're wrong, there are more fish in the ocean.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I kinda had this issue with these two girls (minus tons of EC) that were pretty hot; oddly enough the hotter one was Danielle. I asked out the one I liked more, and it turns out she had a boyfriend, but her friend, Elysse, didn't, and SHE would have said yes if I had just asked her out instead :rolleyes: .

Listen up, if you really want Pamela, you gotta explain to her what you told us. Just say it was all a misunderstanding and that you were confused as to which one of them was interested. Say you like her a lot more than you like Daniela. Depending on how she reacts, you can then ask if she wants to hang out sometime.

It's worth a shot and it's a hell of a lot better than wondering what could have been. Promise me you'll try something like that. Even if she also rejects you you'll feel MUCH better and be more able to move on.

Edit: The fact that she was so hurt, upset implies she likes you a lot, so if just explain to her what you explained to us in a sincere way, she SHOULD respond positively. If not, you'll feel much better knowing there was nothing you could do.
 
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Originally posted by AFK Protector
But here's the thing, which one did you ask? Was it PAmela? I didn't think that was clear enough. Just let me know whichone rejected you.
Daniela rejected, Pamela was the one. lol dummest thing i ever done.
i try to get over it..
 

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And you posted the situation online on some random website for them to see? Wow... You're wrong, there are more fish in the ocean.
she wont talk to me. already have no friends, and now have one more hating me!!?? no way!! told her that after all that, dont hate me. but she acts as i never existed.
 

Mizael

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Originally posted by wcknightjr
I kinda had this issue with these two girls (minus tons of EC) that were pretty hot; oddly enough the hotter one was Danielle. I asked out the one I liked more, and it turns out she had a boyfriend, but her friend, Elysse, didn't, and SHE would have said yes if I had just asked her out instead :rolleyes: .

Listen up, if you really want Pamela, you gotta explain to her what you told us. Just say it was all a misunderstanding and that you were confused as to which one of them was interested. Say you like her a lot more than you like Daniela. Depending on how she reacts, you can then ask if she wants to hang out sometime.

It's worth a shot and it's a hell of a lot better than wondering what could have been. Promise me you'll try something like that. Even if she also rejects you you'll feel MUCH better and be more able to move on.

Edit: The fact that she was so hurt, upset implies she likes you a lot, so if just explain to her what you explained to us in a sincere way, she SHOULD respond positively. If not, you'll feel much better knowing there was nothing you could do.
i DID explain to her, honestly, she replyed with 'u can have him Daniela, he's all yours' but anyway. thanks

oh, i told her 'like i will give myself that easily to anyone, they must deserve it.' hope that was not too cruel lol
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You're wrong, there are more fish in the ocean. [/B]

if u lived here, u might have a different opinion lol, unless u go for the younger ones :eek: 12 years old:confused: ?
 
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