"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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My chick is cooler than me.

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Ok ok... this is a stupid problem to have, I know, but it's still a problem.

I feel strange: my chicky (3 months) is cool. Skydiver extreme, life of any party, damn near celebrity from modeling, super hawt, rich, funny, etc etc etc. Yeah, she has alot of cool stuff going on in her life.

And I'm just an average Don Juan, in university, still living with parents, and who loves saturday morning cartoons.

Suddenly that song: "She's so high above me" comesto mind. *sighs* I'm seriously starting to feel, ehh... intimidated. I know she REALLY digs me, I've been trained to recognize tha - and I know I love her, coz, uh, she told me. ;)

Keed, keed.

Right... so somone say something before I do something stupid.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
chill out..maybe she thinks ur average arse is cool
I am chilled!

Sh!t... I need a drink... is this behavoiur normal? For the last few days I've been bitter towards her... and I have no idea why... omgoodness.
 

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Sh!t... I need a drink... is this behavoiur normal? For the last few days I've been bitter towards her... and I have no idea why... omgoodness.

prolly some stress

try to unwind!
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
prolly some stress

try to unwind!
Might be... really worrying about my finals that are comming up soon. :-/
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My girl used to be a boobie model in Japan, shes 5 years older than me, shes already majored and has worked full time.

NOTHING of that changes the fact, that the equilibrium of power is shifted strongly towards me in the relationship. Dont even think about it, shes with you isnt she?
 

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I think you've lost sight of the #1 DJ principle. But don't worry, that happens to all of us now and then.

Stay focused on your ambitions. Do everything possible to be above average, no, superb at what you want to do with your life. If you have your own life, dreams, goals, and you work your damndest to achieve them she'll totally dig you, and continue to dig you even though she might be further ahead in her pursuits.

I know some will probably disagree with me on this but the DJ's objective is NOT to just get women. It's to be the best, most confident and self-fulfilled man you can be. The women are icing on the cake, and will be naturally attracted to you as a result of your hard work. Furthermore, as you succeed in achieving your own goals and dreams confidence with women will come a lot easier.

Bottom line: who cares if your girl is "cooler" than you. Just keep doing your thing and portray yourself as the prize. Cos you are :up:
 

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Originally posted by Drewgie
I think you've lost sight of the #1 DJ principle. But don't worry, that happens to all of us now and then.

Stay focused on your ambitions. Do everything possible to be above average, no, superb at what you want to do with your life. If you have your own life, dreams, goals, and you work your damndest to achieve them she'll totally dig you, and continue to dig you even though she might be further ahead in her pursuits.

I know some will probably disagree with me on this but the DJ's objective is NOT to just get women. It's to be the best, most confident and self-fulfilled man you can be. The women are icing on the cake, and will be naturally attracted to you as a result of your hard work. Furthermore, as you succeed in achieving your own goals and dreams confidence with women will come a lot easier.

Bottom line: who cares if your girl is "cooler" than you. Just keep doing your thing and portray yourself as the prize. Cos you are :up:

Awww.. thanks! But damn... now I need tissues!

;)

Yeh, I must stop letting her dominate my state of mind... otherwise I'm just handing over my balls on a plate.
 

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Listen up!

It is not about what u do, if your also super hot, or any of that sh!t... its about YOU.... and obviously there is something about YOU that she likes/loves.... So kick the intimidation out the door, kick the jealousy out the door, kick the "oh she deserves better than me" out the f*cking door, cause she is with YOU for a reason. She KNOWS she can get some other rich jock, but she still stays with YOU. To me, this is what LOVE is, that she will love u, no matter what. And you need to remember, just because ur not rich, doesn’t make u unworthy of her. Just because ur not a super model, doesn’t make u unworthy of her. Just because you don’t do any extreme sports etc, does NOT make u unworthy of her. Its WHO YOU are that has already proven that you ARE worthy of her, and its her being who SHE is, that makes her worthy of YOU.

Good quality guys are hard to find in the days of today, and maybe she just see's u as a good quality guy, that she happens to be in love with. So what’s the problem? I dont see a problem, do YOU see a problem? ... I should hope not.


Laterz...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It is not about what u do, if your also super hot, or any of that sh!t... its about YOU.... and obviously there is something about YOU that she likes/loves.... So kick the intimidation out the door, kick the jealousy out the door, kick the "oh she deserves better than me" out the f*cking door, cause she is with YOU for a reason. She KNOWS she can get some other rich jock, but she still stays with YOU. To me, this is what LOVE is, that she will love u, no matter what. And you need to remember, just because ur not rich, doesn’t make u unworthy of her. Just because ur not a super model, doesn’t make u unworthy of her. Just because you don’t do any extreme sports etc, does NOT make u unworthy of her. Its WHO YOU are that has already proven that you ARE worthy of her, and its her being who SHE is, that makes her worthy of YOU.


great post
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
great post
Why thank you:)


Laterz...
 

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Originally posted by Keeper
Ok ok... this is a stupid problem to have, I know, but it's still a problem.

I feel strange: my chicky (3 months) is cool. Skydiver extreme, life of any party, damn near celebrity from modeling, super hawt, rich, funny, etc etc etc. Yeah, she has alot of cool stuff going on in her life.

And I'm just an average Don Juan, in university, still living with parents, and who loves saturday morning cartoons.

Suddenly that song: "She's so high above me" comesto mind. *sighs* I'm seriously starting to feel, ehh... intimidated. I know she REALLY digs me, I've been trained to recognize tha - and I know I love her, coz, uh, she told me. ;)

Keed, keed.

Right... so somone say something before I do something stupid.
Get over it or find another chick that has no money, no life, and has a few friends.
Something you can handle
 

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Re: Re: My chick is cooler than me.

Originally posted by OneArmDeeJay
Get over it or find another chick that has no money, no life, and has a few friends.
Something you can handle
Lol

Just know that in general, women marry/date up . Meaning, they usually seek out men of higher social status(meaning wealth, power, etc) than themselves when they're looking to settle down. Of course it's not a hard and fast rule, but I've seen it enough times to know that this generalization isn't that far off the mark.
 

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italostud: Those are called Gold diggers :rolleyes:


Laterz...
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by ~��Q��T�$~
italostud: Those are called Gold diggers :rolleyes:


Laterz...
Nah man, it's just social dynamics. Golddiggers are something completely different.
 

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Just know that in general, women marry/date up . Meaning, they usually seek out men of higher social status(meaning wealth, power, etc) than themselves when they're looking to settle down. Of course it's not a hard and fast rule, but I've seen it enough times to know that this generalization isn't that far off the mark.
I agree to an extent.

but there good women out there who want you for what you are on the inside(inner game)....he seems to have found one..which is a good thing.

dont leave her.
 

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Ya know, I take back my first reply.

She IS too good for you. Send her digits my way. I wouldn't mind skydiving with her, among other things :D
 
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