"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My Brother is dating a BPD...how to get across to him?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Atom Smasher

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Love is blind. What can you really do? When someone is blindly in love, exposing the woman for who she is will only elicit resentment from your brother. The only thing you can do is to casually ask leading questions to see if he reveals some doubts, and if he does leverage the conversation to open up his eyes. Questions are a lot more disarming than statements.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SgtSplacker

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Being in a relationship with a BPD is bad enough, add in your family being all up in your biz and it's just too much. Just try to support your brother in a positive way.
 

Dominance

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You don't give any detail which doesn't help.

BUT... i've found trying to get involved in other peoples relationships just causes them to think you are the bad guy. And usually the guy (especially if he's whipped) will stand up for her no matter how bad or wrong she is.
 

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You won't get anything across to him until he's ready and willing to listen - Usually not until she has split him so badly or so often that he can no longer deny/rationalise/avoid recognising that there is something very seriously wrong here.

In the meantime, you could gather some of the info/links on BPD here together so you can give them to him when that time comes. The usual caveats on not being that guy who sticks his oar-in without welcome apply, so take care of your own position and just leave him to draw his own concllusions (if any at all) once you have.

And yes, some more info on how her potential BPD is manifesting itself to him would help.
 

VladPatton

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Leave it alone, and let him find out. You will be labeled 'the bad guy' guaranteed. All this stuff we talk about on here is like classified Area 54 shıt. Keep it to yourself and don't talk about it. Most men won't understand and will think you're just crazy no matter how correct and how much of a visionary you are. It's one of the prices to pay for taking the red pill.
 
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