"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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My BPD ex getting in shape

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051AV

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I guess its getting time to look for a new man she's trying to get in shape, heard she's joined a gym seen a pic of her working out. When we met she was 27 had a nice body a little on the thin side, she's about 5'6" tall. When things started to get stressed between us she started gaining weight she was plowing back the high calorie food, today she's put on an extra 20 pounds she's got a butt on her and big thighs. Her butt cheeks were a couple handfuls not anymore she ain't fitting into those jeans she wore when she met me lol. She had sex appeal she knew it and used it, guys flirting with her like nobodies business. She is the wolf in sheeps clothing nobody knew about her dark side even her closest friends, guys she is/was in relationships with that was another story.

The man she replaced me with was fit and fairly healthy its all changed for him he's toast he's a mid 30s guy looks like he's late 40s early 50s he looks old enough that he could be her father. She's never had a good father figure in her life she hates his guts, her family life is a disaster. Her BF is an NPD he's attracted to her like a fly is to sh*t.

She added to my stress I already had in my life I wasn't the healthiest guy, its taken a good 4 years to get back to a healthy weight its a work in progress. I look younger than I'm I like that, flirting with the younger chicks is easy.

The reason why I started this post is I know she's damn well looking for a new man getting her sex appeal back to land a new man. I feel sorry for the poor bastard that falls for her looks he will be in for a world of hurt. I'm pretty sure I've been painted black I will run like hell if she tries to paint me white.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why the fuk are you even following her, looking at her pics?

Does it feel good now that you know, she is getting fit and ready to take big fat diks? Nope!

Here's an idea.. Forget what she is doing, stop watching her..

Focus on yourself, start hitting the gym.. Dedicate your life to training.. Lose the weight, gain some size and muscle..

You will be born again as a confident strong man!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know we are meant to be helping here, but man, oh man. I mean, I sometimes look at pics of my ex, but taking the time to create a thread about it...dude, move on. You're living in the past.
 
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Quit creeping her pics cause you are not over her,as a BPD survivor myself you have to move on,if you can divorce all emotion by all means smash her azz..
 
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Oh I have moved on life's better without her, it does make me laugh I was one of the reasons why she started to get fat lol. She's joined a gym operated by a friend of mine kid its how I know she's trying to get in shape. Her antidepressant meds kill her libido she's not overly sexual, the guy she's with is pretty much used for money. She's in university he lives in the town where she goes to school, free rent, he's most likely paying for her school.

I almost ended up in trouble with the law with her she claimed I was abusive it was all lies of course, she bragged about the fact she destroyed her last BF before me. I does piss her off that I rebounded and my life is better the fact she didn't destroy me like she did with guys past. I do wonder what kinds of stories she tells people about me lol she claimed her last BF committed suicide that's why she was single. I knew damn well he's still alive and kicking.

I'm hoping I'm still painted black I'm getting the feeling she wants to move back to my town where she lived before.
 
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The fact that you are even trying to defend your weakness is proof that she has your hamster wheel spinning. Don't even waste another key stroke on the *****.

Look... We have all been there..... The advise given is from hard learnt experience....

Just forget her and move on.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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