This situation can be extremely challenging. Whether you should talk to this man or not would depend on the man. Even though he is confident and successful, the reality is that he is as human as the rest of us. 14 years isn't easy to let go and give up on, and it would appear that he was seriously committed the entire marriage. He may not be receptive at all to anything you have to say. It may take some time for the emotional sting to wear off before he will be open to any advice along the lines of not falling into the trap of practically begging.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
My boss is chasing/tryin to win back wife that cheated, Should I advise?
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