"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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My Boss did not accept LinkedIn Request

Reyaj

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I need your opinion on this for those who are in the workforce.....

I sent my boss a LinkedIn request several months ago... it looks like he never accepted it. Yet he accepted other people in my department, even people that don't work directly for him!

Would you confront him about it if you were me? If he doesn't like me and is plotting to let me go I want to know ahead of time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Wow, man. That's extremley insecure. That's something a little kid would complain about. "Why don't you wanna be my friend!?!?"

Why would you want to be involved with social networking with a boss anyway? Why do you think just because he/she doesn't want to be associated outside the work place that he/she will fire you?

He/she could think you are perfectly fine in the workplace but just doesn't want to be your friend outside of work. He/she's not obligated to do anything outside of work for you.

What are you going to say? Why didn't you accept my request, do you want to fire me or something?

What are you hoping to acheive by "confronting" your boss? You can't control him/her, they are their own person. Quit being so insecure.
 

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joverby said:
Wow, man. That's extremley insecure. That's something a little kid would complain about. "Why don't you wanna be my friend!?!?"

Why would you want to be involved with social networking with a boss anyway? Why do you think just because he/she doesn't want to be associated outside the work place that he/she will fire you?

He/she could think you are perfectly fine in the workplace but just doesn't want to be your friend outside of work. He/she's not obligated to do anything outside of work for you.

What are you going to say? Why didn't you accept my request, do you want to fire me or something?

What are you hoping to acheive by "confronting" your boss? You can't control him/her, they are their own person. Quit being so insecure.

I agree with the principle of what you are saying. But we are talking about LinkedIN here, not Facebook or MySpace. LinkedIn is specifcally focused on people you work with. That is why I asked for people who work professionally to comment.

The fact that he accepted my co-workers and other people in the company makes me a little concerned...
 

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Bosses have their favorites. But that doesn't mean you're in danger of getting canned.

My former boss showed massive favortism. I was rarely if ever selected for trips to conferences, promotions, etc. But, I was invaluable to him and he knew it. So while he didn't love me, he had no plans to ever get rid of me.

This is going to sound like a lecture, but I don't mean it that way. Just focus on your work. Get your stuff done on time and get great reviews. That way, while your boss might not want to have a beer with you, he won't want to get rid of you.

Forget about the boss on your Linkedin. You don't want him on there anyway in case you want to network for another job.

I would just chalk it up to favortism, not take it personally, and let it go.

(I wouldn't have friend requested the boss to begin with.)
 

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Maybe the reason he didnt add you is because through that network he is "friend" of other companies who could find you usell and he simply doesnt want you to be aware of the existence of those companies and the salaries they grant to their employee.

Its remotely this case but yet it could still be, or he didnt recognize you.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Reyaj said:
I agree with the principle of what you are saying. But we are talking about LinkedIN here, not Facebook or MySpace. LinkedIn is specifcally focused on people you work with. That is why I asked for people who work professionally to comment.

The fact that he accepted my co-workers and other people in the company makes me a little concerned...
I do work in a professional environment.(Believe it or not that website isn't required for success) I've just made similar insecure confrontations with an EX-GF in the past.

Doesn't matter if you're going to confront over facebook or whatever social networking, it's still an insecure confrontation that won't achieve anything positive.

Just keep doing your best at work and don't worry about. Not sure why you'd want your boss anyway, if it's for work place networking...You already work for him right? So you see him 5 days a week?
 
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