"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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hey

one of my closest friends who also happens to dam sexy has sundenly become extremely sexually aggressive with me.. she doesnt shut up about me wanting to f%ck the hell out her... everytime we hang out she never shuts up wanting me inside her and everything she says has sexual connetations in it... plus the amount of touching between the 2 of us is insane!!!

the PROBLEM is she happens to be a very very good friend of mine and i actually value her friendship alot... when she mentions me fu%ing her i just laugh it off... i def give off sexual vibes thou as im def recipricating her touches... actually following through thou and escalating further with her worries me as im not up for losing her as a friend over some fun, especially as she and i would never work as boyfriend and girlfriend...

plus i dont know if she is doing it as some form of validation to prove her sexiness to herself and loves the idea of me wanting her and trying to test me to see if i want anything more.

the fact she has been so aggressive with me after being good mates for more than 2 years just confuses the hell out of me ( even though it does excite me). i know i have developed as a person but the fact she is openely saying she wants to blow me in the toilets out of the blue is strange!

just wondering if any of you guys have slept with a close friend and if it basically ruined your friendship afterwards...

thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Kidd

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make a move.

you may think you have something good being her friend, but you will have something better being more. you dont have that much to lose, think about it
 

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You're worrying about ruining your friendship with a girl by fvcking her when she's giving you blatant signals like this? Do you even have a pen1s?
 

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She's giving you the 'LJBFWSEOHACOEOF'

Lets Just Be Friends Who Stretch Each Others Holes And Cvm On Each Others Face
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i know fu$ing her would be amazing...

HOWEVER i am not up for doing it if it will ruin my friendship... there are so many girls out there... why fu#k a friend who i consider a life long friend, when i should be really trying to hook up random chicks, even though it would be pretty awesome

just wondering if any one has been in my situation and did it fu#k up your friendship
 

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because eventully she will get married, have kids, get fat and will no longer be your friend. Once people get married all that **** changes. Now if you are even remotely attractive once she gets in a serious relationship or engaged you will be kicked to the curb because of the guy she is dating. Trust me this is life.. Ask your dad or mom how many people they are friends with from when they were 25 years old, or friends they talk to or hang out with regullary. This movie idea of being friends, meeting for lunch and being life long friends is BS.....
 

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Don't worry about ruining the friendship. That ship has sailed.

Why do people have this BS thinking about sex ruining friendship? WTF???
 

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one of your "closest" friends just happens to be damn "sexy". is there a "bangs forehead" emoticon available?
 

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Fvck her already.

Your friendship will be ruined anyway if you reject her advances.

If you just fvck her for a while you might find out that you and she work together and she'll be a good girlfriend for you if thats what you want or just a good fvck buddy which will also be good.

Alternatively things may just fizzle out and she'll LJBF you which won't be a problem with you as you legitimately do want to be her friend anyway.

So all I'm seeing for you in this situation is win but you better act quickly before one of us takes her away from you. :p
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why is she putting it on a plate for you now? Whats changed? Hw long has she been like this with you for? There may be a reason behind her current behaviour.

Carpe-diem, dont kick yourself over it in the near future!
 

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You're already getting hard over what she's doing. You're not exactly "friends" anymore are you.

She is laying it on a plate for you. Take it before someone else does.

And who the fvck said you won't be 'friends' after it.

Don't be a homo, just do it lad.
 

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Of course you can still be friends - friends with benefits ha.
 

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ATTENTION ALL HOSPITAL STAFF...

We are missing a pair of balls. Yes, human testicicles. If found, please return to operating room 2, where (s)heMan is currently getting stichted up.

He says they just popped out one day and said see ya later. Its imperative we get these balls back into heman before his friend moves on to a man with some testosterone.

THIS IS NOT A DRILL FOLKS
 

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07-06-2009, 08:46 PM #11
Cinamon
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Why is she putting it on a plate for you now? Whats changed? Hw long has she been like this with you for? There may be a reason behind her current behaviour.

Carpe-diem, dont kick yourself over it in the near future!
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thats what im confused about. it has all come from nowhere. been like this for a few weeks and i keep ignoring/laughing at her comments. i guess i can say im developing as a person but still its still doesnt make sense why she begging to fu$k me after so long.

maybe that makes her want me more as she has always thought i wanted her and not responding to her advances. maybe she just needs her ego boosted

i understand people think im a ***** for not doing it but i feel im going to end up hating her after it happens. she is one of those girls who is a super super flirt and goes from one guy to the next.

anyway thanks for all your advise. appreciate it!
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Here's the thing: Chicks are alwaya saying "it will ruin the freindship." but have you ever actually SEEN or heard of it happening? I havent. The worst that happens, is it gets awkward for a month, then things smooth out. The only way you will hate each other, is if it turns into a relationship and one of you fvks the other one over. Quit worrying about it, and bang her.
 

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"i understand people think im a ***** for not doing it but i feel im going to end up hating her after it happens. she is one of those girls who is a super super flirt and goes from one guy to the next."

You're going to hate yourself even more if you pass up your chance to hit it.

As Str8up is often fond of saying the window of opportunity to nail any particular chick can close at any moment.

If its not you who fvcks her its going to be someone else and why the fvck are you saying you're going to be pissed if she fvcks other guys after you because she is a super flirt?

You only supposedly want her for her friendship anyway so that shouldn't bother you. :rolleyes:

To end with a Rollo quote...

"Every man wants a wh0re its just that he wants her to be his wh0re."

Sounds to me like this chick doesn't want to be exclusive with anybody and is a party girl so you may as well hit it and just deal with the fact that afterwards she's not going to settle down into an exclusive girlfriend role for you.

She may not become the girlfriend that you clearly want her to be if you are to hit it but at least you'll have the satisfaction of knowing you had her and that she felt you to be worthy of having her.

You won't be saying to yourself in years to come "man I wish I would've listened to those Sosuave guys when I had the chance, look at her cavorting around getting nailed by all these losers, what do they have that I don't have? Oh yeah thats right the common sense to fvck a hot babe when she throws herself at them. Doh!"
 

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I say challenge her. Tell her she's all bark and no bite. If she's serious about it rather than just wanting the satisfaction of knowing you want her, then she'll escalate further.

How far have things actually gone? Does she just talk or does she make a lot of physical contact with you?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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