"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My approach

Pdizzzzzzle

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Alright guys, here's an approach I recently did. Basically it was the morning and I was on the school bus saw this hb 8.5-9 and started a convo with her. She was sitting in front of me listening to her ipod.

First, i unplugged her ipod's headphones and put mine in. I realized she was listening to "If I were a boy" by Beyonce or some artist.

Me:Well, guess i can't date you.
her:what?
me: if you really wanna be a boy that would make things kinda awkward.
her: haha
me: so what are you studying there? ( i saw she had a notebook out)
her: O, its just some stuff from English on the Odyssey.
me: Cool, that was a pretty good story. Did you get to the part where Circy and Odysseus got it on?
her:yea that part was one of the only good ones so far.
me:I thought you'd like it... (with a smile on my face saying "you know you want it.")
her: You're pretty funny, you're girlfriend must love you.
me: one girl can't hold me down.
her: so you don't have a gf?
me: no, do you?
her: I don't have a boyfriend.
me: I never said boyfriend...
her: haha, well it been pretty fun talking to you (the bus pulled up to school).
me: let me see you hand really quickly...

I took her hand and wrote my number on it, it was really the only chance at kino i had.

So, thats basically it. Hope you guys like it or I helped someone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Pdizzzzzzle said:
Alright guys, here's an approach I recently did. Basically it was the morning and I was on the school bus saw this hb 8.5-9 and started a convo with her. She was sitting in front of me listening to her ipod.

First, i unplugged her ipod's headphones and put mine in. I realized she was listening to "If I were a boy" by Beyonce or some artist.

Me:Well, guess i can't date you.
her:what?
me: if you really wanna be a boy that would make things kinda awkward.
her: haha
me: so what are you studying there? ( i saw she had a notebook out)
her: O, its just some stuff from English on the Odyssey.
me: Cool, that was a pretty good story. Did you get to the part where Circy and Odysseus got it on?
her:yea that part was one of the only good ones so far.
me:I thought you'd like it... (with a smile on my face saying "you know you want it.")
her: You're pretty funny, you're girlfriend must love you.
me: one girl can't hold me down.
her: so you don't have a gf?
me: no, do you?
her: I don't have a boyfriend.
me: I never said boyfriend...
her: haha, well it been pretty fun talking to you (the bus pulled up to school).
me: let me see you hand really quickly...

I took her hand and wrote my number on it, it was really the only chance at kino i had.

So, thats basically it. Hope you guys like it or I helped someone.
Nice pick up bro, very smooth.

I especially like that "if I was a boy" line you said. Good example of exactly what to do when communicating with a woman.
 

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Awesome pickup man

The only thing I would've done differently is ask for her number. If you give her your number, the chances of her calling are slim.

Not because she's not interested, but because girls fear rejection more than men. You put it in her hands, and almost all of the time the girl will never make that first move.

Luckily you probably catch the same bus so when you see her again, get her number. Don't count her on her to call you though.
 

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props man. i would've never had the balls to even go up and touch her headphones. now i see what it takes =P. good job.
 

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Damn that's an awesome approach! How exactly were you able to pull off unplugging her iPod wihtout her being like WTF?! Did you do it really quick or what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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San Jose California said:
Did you unplug her headphones and plug in yours without any words at all? That OWNS.
Haha yeah that's what I'm wondering. No way I would've been able to do something like that wihtout the girl wodnering wtf is going on
 

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Dude im not gonna lie that takes some serious balls lol...im surprised when you plugged out her headphones that she didnt turn around and be like "wtf is your problem a-hole?"

and i wouldnt have written your number on her hand cuz that makes you come off looking kinda desperate and now she prolly wont call you
 

Pdizzzzzzle

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eaglez1177 said:
Dude im not gonna lie that takes some serious balls lol...im surprised when you plugged out her headphones that she didnt turn around and be like "wtf is your problem a-hole?"

and i wouldnt have written your number on her hand cuz that makes you come off looking kinda desperate and now she prolly wont call you
sorry ive been gone a while and im just getting back now. Yea, i just took out her headphones and put mine in, she looked at me a little funny as I did it but the reward payed off for the risk.

Secondly, yea I know about the number thing. She did call me back , but in some cases there will be girls who are afraid of rejection, thinks you giving them your phone number is a sign of weakness, etc. I guess its all about just reading the situation. Plus im kinda lazy so it was just easier.... ;)

If you guys want I can post more approaches. I do a lot poking fun at girls and stuuf during the convo if you guys need examples.
 

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Pdizzzzzzle said:
sorry ive been gone a while and im just getting back now. Yea, i just took out her headphones and put mine in, she looked at me a little funny as I did it but the reward payed off for the risk.

Secondly, yea I know about the number thing. She did call me back , but in some cases there will be girls who are afraid of rejection, thinks you giving them your phone number is a sign of weakness, etc. I guess its all about just reading the situation. Plus im kinda lazy so it was just easier.... ;)

If you guys want I can post more approaches. I do a lot poking fun at girls and stuuf during the convo if you guys need examples.
yeah i'd like to see some more of these, i like these examples

I would never have the balls to pull out her headphones.
 
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