"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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my approach dialogue

baurman

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so i saw this very hot looking lady at starbucks by herself so I decided to approach her

me: hello. how you doing today?
her: ..ok
me: whats a good thing to get from here? I dont really come here often
her: im drinking the frapichino (or whatever it was..)
me: my names jon..
her: crystal.. ::shake hand::
me: so wheres your man at, whats a beautiful girl like you doing here by yourself?
her: i dont have a man and im a starbucks fiend...i like it here.

then i just started to talk about random crap, did a little C+F, conversation was going for about 5 minutes and i was running out of crap to say and she wasn't talking much....... so I wanted to get her number and get the hell out of there so i just said

me: well i gotta get going now, let me get your number and we'll talk more

she gave me a number...
2 days later i called it...

"Sorry but there is no crystal at this number..."

:box:

anything i did wrong?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mr.Speed

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me: so wheres your man at, whats a beautiful girl like you doing here by yourself?

I think that sounded quite needy, you should never ask indirect if she has a boyfrind, this way you show her exactly that you are intrested in her.

remember: if she has a boyfriend,she would tell you,so you do not need to ask
 

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baurman said:
me: well i gotta get going now, let me get your number and we'll talk more

she gave me a number...
2 days later i called it...

"Sorry but there is no crystal at this number..."

:box:

anything i did wrong?

Congradulations!! You have balls to ask for a number, but lack brains to ask if it's a real number. :yes:


Women get approached by men all the damn time, they've developed defence mechanisms, such as giving wrong phone numbers. They'd give you a number, just because it makes them feel good when you ask them for one.

You should have done this:

YOU: Well I gotta get going, my friends are waiting on me....

....tiny pause.....start walking away.... then turn around

YOU: Do you have an email?
HER: Yes I do
YOU: (take out a piece of paper from your wallet and a small space pen) Ok, write it down for me.

while she's at it

YOU: Write down your phone number too. (kino)
HER: Ok
YOU: Is this your real number? (while you get closer to her, in very serious and demanding tone - like a cop)

If she laughs, say "Look, give me your real number, I only call 9 times a day"


If she says she doesn't have e-mail ask her if she has electricity.
If she says it is her real number, ask her if she's serious. Don't laught while you say any of these.



For better advice read double your dating by DeAngelo.
 

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The trouble with your advice is that even though you caught her out about the fake number the fact that she was trying to give a fake number shows you that she ain't interested. As far as pointing out what you did wrong you havent really given enough detail to comment on.
 

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Zebedee said:
The trouble with your advice is that even though you caught her out about the fake number the fact that she was trying to give a fake number shows you that she ain't interested. As far as pointing out what you did wrong you havent really given enough detail to comment on.

Women would give out fake numbers. Unless you Brad Pitt there is no way around it. It doesn't mean she's not interested in you. Watch DeAngelo's seminars. As far as hot chick is concerned you're just another a55hole asking her phone number this week. If you can be different, then you stand out of the crowd of a55holes. Your mind set and tone when you ask if the number is real should be "my time is valuable and I don't waste it just on anybody, I am very selective."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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vorbis

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I agree with Zebedee. Here in the states, getting a phone number is not a huge deal. I've gotten phone numbers off girls I've only chatted too for a few minutes on the subway. They've been legit but no good (flakes) Point is, chicks tend to give out their number quite easily but its another ballgame entirely in terms of getting a date from that. A fake number straight off the bat would be low interest in my books.
 
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