My Amazing LTR GF has a "Bad Past"

[ShortyMac]

Who the hell cares? the girl had some dyck in her past and had experiences you wish yoiu had. The problem isnt with her it is with you. You are either jealous of her or insecure about it. Either way get over it

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Well she is apparently catching up with her bestfriend who joined her in a threesome. Wow I didn't think she would be capable of this, but that is fu'cked up. She is her bestfriend and would never repeat that stunt ever again but no way I would stick around for that.

 

[ShortyMac]

Is this chic cute?

 

[ShortyMac]

Try and have a 3way with the two of them. If your lucky, she will remember her past and how much fun she had and before you know it the two of them will be suckin you off

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Um no...I am over that stage...I don't care about about getting threesomes. Plus I dont have to wait for her friend to get threesomes in the first place. I can get it from other girls apart from them.

Stop thinking with your d'ick and stop acting like a typical fratboy

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What was the eventual outcome and how did you feel afterwards.

I could break up with her, easy as that. But I will feel like crap for so long. So yea it doesn't make it any easier. We've been fighting on and off recently. I feel like the harmony has been disturbed.

 

[Last Man Standing]

We've been fighting on and off recently. I feel like the harmony has been disturbed.

Yep, your angst is justified!! A "threesome" is the unnatural order of things!! So your thinking and reaction is a natural consequence and in sync with the rhythm of truth!

You will not be able to control who she sees, so you'll jave to live with this, or bail!! Your girl kissed and licked this other girl!!!

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea..seems like its downhill from here. I feel like I'm searching for faults and harder to get on with things.

 

[Last Man Standing]

You knew her past from day one!! For you to "fall" in love with her tells me that your thinking is lacking!

 

[Adrian]

Has anyone been in a similar situation? What was the eventual outcome and how did you feel afterwards.

I could break up with her, easy as that. But I will feel like crap for so long. So yea it doesn't make it any easier. We've been fighting on and off recently. I feel like the harmony has been disturbed.

Yeah I have... Plenty of times. I would tell her personally and face to face that I feel insulted and quite uncomfortable about this whole "catching up" thing. I would be as assertive, serious and casual as possible without causing any drama. If she truly loves and cares for you she would be considerate. If she seems to choose her friends over you that should also tell you ALOT. Watch her reactions carefully... does she get defensive? angry? changes the topic? Pretty much any bad reaction means bad intentions on her behalf.

You also stated that there's been fighting on and off between the two of you. Why is there fighting? Is she causing these fights unpurpose? I don't know if she may be trying to cause a break-up or needing an excuse to do something she shouldn't be doing because you're an ******* (hence the sarcasm). Only you would know the answers to that. Maybe it's her time of the month? My point is though that you should always be on your toes and trust what your gut is telling you. I'm not trying to say that she actually is or is going to cheat on you. Whatever the case might be it's your job to KNOW.

As far as breaking up is concerned... that's also entirely up to you. Sometimes the hardest choices are the right ones. If that happens to be the case and you want to be over her fast (and I mean really FAST) just sleep with other women. If worse comes to worse don't be so skeptical and give it a shot. I promise you'll thank me.

If you can be a little more specific about exactly what it is that you've picked up on and what is bothering you then I can help you out.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Adrian, what is bothering him is that he "fell" for a homo 3-some hor!! What don't you understand?

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

No I genuinely don't think she is going to cheat on me. She always tries to spend time with me on her spare time so she pretty much dedicates everything on me.

It is the time of the month for her. And its a bad time for me as well because of other issues with work, family and other things unrelated to her, therefore I have serious anger issues. So we fight all the time because I blow up over things and totally lose it. Bad on my account. I dont really recall her starting a fight over this or anything other than her little jealousy issue. (Hates other HBs trying to get my attention.)

I was good the past few month while I was with her. We used to housesit together for a whole month and only had each other for company. She prefers to bike for nearly an hour to see me rather than get out of my way to drive to her place lol. She has done for me more things than all of the other girls I have been with combined. She hasn't done anything seriously bad towards me either which is why it is so hard to break up with her other than reasons associated with her past.

Seriously the only reason I can use as significant reason to break up is her history because I am scared it is going to catch up really bad later down the track. A friend said "if it ain't broken, why fix it". There is nothing broken in this relationship apart from conscience and peace of mind over her history.

When Adrian talked about the hardest choices, I couldnt tell which one is the hardest. Whether I take the choice of staying with her and knowing her history OR take the choice of dumping an awesome girl who treated me like a king. Both choices are really hard to take and so that is why I am such in a bad dilemma.

Her friend was being stupid and bought a ticket to visit her here and now she can't get a refund or transfer. So this is really making it hard for both of us. They both have been best friends for over 3 years. I don't know if her friend knows our situation and if she is being considerate she would make some kind of compromise.

By the way I wasn't expecting to fall for her from the beginning. She was just another on of my spinning plates who stood out from the rest and gave to me more than I can ever give back.

Man, why is there always a higher price for a higher quality treatment from girls. Theres always pitfalls isn't there. I wish I never knew about her past and she never opened her stupid mouth.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

So what everyone is trying to say is that, just because a girl f"ucked up a short period of her life full of better achievements, nothing she can do or achieve can ever better her future?

Is she marked for life?

Does she not deserve love from a partner whom she's given so much to and given up a lot for?

Does she deserve to be labelled a hor no matter how much she has tried to make up for it?

Is she now categorised as scum, reject, object to abuse or ridicule and refuse any chance to live a full life?

What if she was your daughter, sister or best friend? Would you sentence her a life of punishment or refusal for basic rights?

 

[Last Man Standing]

Its your choice - but if you go towards marriage you'll never forget what you already know, so you must accept her and never mention or think about it again! Can you do this?

 

[tryin 2 play]

Yea dude if you can't take her for who she is, meaning her past and EVERYTHING, then don't waste anyone's time. If you can't accept it and move on the FORGET IT, because you will ruin everything. I know from experience.

 

[penkitten]

ever heard that song "before momma was momma"?
listen to it sometime.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Man I really feel like Captain Save-a-Ho lately.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

We've been fighting over n over again. I feel like I am on a witch-hunt to find faults on her. I know she can only take so much crap before she decides to leave altogether BUT she's remaining strong with me and really wants to be with me. No girl before has ever stayed on with me after this crap treatment from me. She's left previous boyfriends for even less.

She knows it was her fault for having that stage of her life and I feel like a bastard for reminding her of it everytime we fight. Her grades get a punishment everytime we fight, I feel like I'm doing a hell of a lot more damage to her than she could with me with her history let alone what she's directly done to me (or lack of) during our relationship.

If she didn't have that stage of her life heck I wouldv'e asked her to move in with me. (since she used to stay at my place 5 nights a week and bikes to my place all the time even though pays 150 in rent at her place). She's been the only girl (out of the ones I've been with, because they were either too jealous, couldnt give a sh'it about my friends, or my friends hated them) to have made friends with most of my close friends because she actually values me.

I dont know, my game has been on the low lately. I haven't been as strong and "real". I have allowed myself to be burnt in between dilemmas, morals, logic, insecurity and feelings. I have dropped the ball and created a slack, I need to pick up the pace and get on with the game. She has given me more chances more than world has given "George Bush to be a hero" lol.

 

[Last Man Standing]

If you love her and she treats you great, and you keep bringing up her past, then this means it, her past, is bothering you!! Is it gong to bother you a year from now? Probably, most likely, because you see her past out of her character.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea I know I gotta snap out of this rut.