Originally posted by sapphire
What is he doing right? It is not a secret weapon or some mystical force that draw women to him. He simply has the courage, unlike many guys, including good looking ones, to approach and make his interest known to a girl. You will be surprised how positive the reaction is when a girl knows that you like her. Remember a time when you knew that some chick liked you? Did not your interest in her in turn increase even though she was no prize? Maybe a 6 or 7 in the looks scale. But, somehow she became that much more attractive.
I think that is the dynamic at play here. Your friend is introduced to so and so and instead of trying to play it cool and aloof he immediately makes it known to the girl that he wants her in a charming and respectful way. She its it all up and he ends up bagging the girl.
This is so on the money it's not funny. I've heard women remark that they would like to meet a guy with the balls to approach that can maintain a little eye contact.
Again, this comes down to the fear that you have to work really hard to let go of - making a fool of youself. We've all done it, I've approached, been shot down, and then let it dictate my behaviour in this regard later on.
There's so much truth in it when they say you need to build up an immunity to rejection, because they'll do it for any number of reasons, and you shouldn't take it personally.
It's a hard lesson to learn, and I still struggle with it.
