Must read post for guys struggling to get the kinds of women they want.

[Good Gao]

I am almost addicted to the stuff posted on this dude's blog and wonder where he goes next when he will talk about race. I've read a number of great posts in my life but this one hit it out of the ballpark for me, the best one I have read in quite some time. For dudes out there struggling to get the kinds of women they want, this is a must read.

The most important rule of the game you’ll ever learn: It’s not about you.

Throughout the years you’ve probably heard about a whole bunch of theories, gimmicks, pickup lines, and laundry list of things you can use to get a woman. You have been told that there is a &…

millennialbachelor.com

 

[Visionist]

He makes some good points but contradicts himself. First he says you need to focus on a woman's wants and needs (a huge red pill no-no) and then he turns around and says to be the best version of yourself ie. focus on your own needs.

So which one is it?

He could have said "tailor yourself to a woman's desires" instead. Some would call that simping.

He also says women do the choosing which is a blue pilled fallacy. Women don't "choose" the guys they like. They make themselves available - often meekly & indirectly - and those guys choose or reject them for another girl who undoubtedly also likes to think she "chose" that guy when in reality she was merely what he fancied in that moment. If a hotter and/or less annoying girl "chose" him she would be out on her ass.

Men choose. Men choose who is pretty. Men choose who gets pregnant. Men choose who gets married.

 

[Plinco]

I am almost addicted to the stuff posted on this dude's blog and wonder where he goes next when he will talk about race. I've read a number of great posts in my life but this one hit it out of the ballpark for me, the best one I have read in quite some time. For dudes out there struggling to get the kinds of women they want, this is a must read.

The most important rule of the game you’ll ever learn: It’s not about you.

Throughout the years you’ve probably heard about a whole bunch of theories, gimmicks, pickup lines, and laundry list of things you can use to get a woman. You have been told that there is a &…

millennialbachelor.com

It's a good article for newbies, to be honest, I did not think it was written out very well, I think there were some points that should have been made more clear.

 

[Visionist]

The best advice I read on his site is to stop obsessing over "game" and male - female dynamics in general.

The men with the easiest access to the most high SMV women rarely have any "game" at all because they don't need any. By obsessing over women, they become way more important than nature ever intended them to be.

I admit that this forum is somewhat addictive, especially now that I'm trapped inside and my life is in deep freeze. But it's that very addiction that prevents a lot of potential DJs from actually living their lives properly and by extension meeting more women.

That said though, some of the costliest mistakes I've made were before I joined this forum; I wish I'd had half of the advice I've read on here over the years, before I stumbled across SS.

 

[Good Gao]

The best advice I read on his site is to stop obsessing over "game" and male - female dynamics in general.

The men with the easiest access to the most high SMV women rarely have any "game" at all because they don't need any. By obsessing over women, they become way more important than nature ever intended them to be.

I admit that this forum is somewhat addictive, especially now that I'm trapped inside and my life is in deep freeze. But it's that very addiction that prevents a lot of potential DJs from actually living their lives properly and by extension meeting more women.

That said though, some of the costliest mistakes I've made were before I joined this forum; I wish I'd had half of the advice I've read on here over the years, before I stumbled across SS.

You'll always need game to close the deal but you are right, the whole mindgames stuff is BS.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

I am almost addicted to the stuff posted on this dude's blog and wonder where he goes next when he will talk about race. I've read a number of great posts in my life but this one hit it out of the ballpark for me, the best one I have read in quite some time. For dudes out there struggling to get the kinds of women they want, this is a must read.

The most important rule of the game you’ll ever learn: It’s not about you.

Throughout the years you’ve probably heard about a whole bunch of theories, gimmicks, pickup lines, and laundry list of things you can use to get a woman. You have been told that there is a &…

millennialbachelor.com

He’s still has a lot to learn.

 

[Good Gao]

He’s still has a lot to learn.

Such as?

Teach us what he failed to teach so everyone knows what he missed.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I am almost addicted to the stuff posted on this dude's blog and wonder where he goes next when he will talk about race. I've read a number of great posts in my life but this one hit it out of the ballpark for me, the best one I have read in quite some time. For dudes out there struggling to get the kinds of women they want, this is a must read.

The most important rule of the game you’ll ever learn: It’s not about you.

Throughout the years you’ve probably heard about a whole bunch of theories, gimmicks, pickup lines, and laundry list of things you can use to get a woman. You have been told that there is a &…

millennialbachelor.com

When I saw the word "race" I was looking for the name "Gao"....

 

[Glassguy]

The opening line "Its not about you" is totally backwards.

Of course its ALL ABOUT YOU!

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Such as?

Teach us what he failed to teach so everyone knows what he missed.

It’s not any fault of his own, he’s in his twenties and his woman peers have had higher SMV than him. He has a valid point in that women are human beings but he approaches women by entering their frame as opposed to focusing upon his own by developing his inherent masculinity.

In a fundamental sense, women have doubts about their femininity via attraction and men have doubts about their masculinity via production.

Most men approach production in a physical sense whereas the ones whom are inherently good with women learned that emotional and sexual content and more importantly context is the differentiator.

This gets reduced to qualifying these attributes as ‘game’ and the socialized knee jerk response to diminish it’s ability to facilitate productive interactions with women.

In other words, yes, learn their language AND figure out your own passion and mission in this life independent from women.

You are the prize not her. Even though she seeks external validation, she hates being put on a pedestal and desires to be included in a life larger than her own.

 

[Visionist]

By production do you mean financial success?

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

By production do you mean financial success?

That is on the spectrum, yes. It’s a demonstration of multiple facets that we as men embody. It shows our ability to focus and concentrate for degrees of intensity and duration. She sees that and wants to figure out how to get some of that placed on her.

The prime form is our attention.

 

[Spaz]

The article is written by a nerd who sounds like a virgin.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Do you live for YOUR needs first and foremost above all else or are you trying to please others?

Women's instinctive nature is to follow the strongest male she can find.

Not as a partner, not as a helper, but as a follower and a dependent.

A lady hooking up with a people pleaser is like being a business partner with a guy who gives away money.

 

[Good Gao]

It’s not any fault of his own, he’s in his twenties and his woman peers have had higher SMV than him. He has a valid point in that women are human beings but he approaches women by entering their frame as opposed to focusing upon his own by developing his inherent masculinity.

In a fundamental sense, women have doubts about their femininity via attraction and men have doubts about their masculinity via production.

Most men approach production in a physical sense whereas the ones whom are inherently good with women learned that emotional and sexual content and more importantly context is the differentiator.

This gets reduced to qualifying these attributes as ‘game’ and the socialized knee jerk response to diminish it’s ability to facilitate productive interactions with women.

In other words, yes, learn their language AND figure out your own passion and mission in this life independent from women.

You are the prize not her. Even though she seeks external validation, she hates being put on a pedestal and desires to be included in a life larger than her own.

No I think he is actually on to something and he even said that men need to improve themselves. But in a sale, you have to sell a product the customer values or else you not gonna be able to sell it. The product itself varies based on the market. This whole you being the prize stuff is stupid, yeah have confidence but the buyer comes first, you are asking for their time.

 

[zinc4]

I am almost addicted to the stuff posted on this dude's blog and wonder where he goes next when he will talk about race. I've read a number of great posts in my life but this one hit it out of the ballpark for me, the best one I have read in quite some time. For dudes out there struggling to get the kinds of women they want, this is a must read.

The most important rule of the game you’ll ever learn: It’s not about you.

Throughout the years you’ve probably heard about a whole bunch of theories, gimmicks, pickup lines, and laundry list of things you can use to get a woman. You have been told that there is a &…

millennialbachelor.com

Pretty lame article imo. Sounds like a woman wrote it. There are some truths there but nothing helpful to anyone besides the self improvement bit at the end.