Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Must-Read: Great Article About Inner Reality

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http://alexattitude.com/?p=167

This is some instructor over at RSD. I thought this article was great and it really does serve to put the different male/female realities into perspective. Deep, yet very easy to read and digest, with diagrams that actually help.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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alex is a really awsome guy, he has some sick infield videos og him at the RSD HOTSEAT event....

pulling a girl when her mum is with her and girls bf is on the phone (really carzy situation)... other crazy stuff too
 

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Guys, I'm bumping this because it's so important in helping to define what we want our reality to be and it clearly lays out what, specifically, women are irresistably attracted to in men.

The diagrams really served to help me to easily picture where I am no and where I can be simply by redefining where my internal validation comes from. This is epic, so read it.

For some reason he puts in a couple paragraphs about religion, and I disagree with his assessment (I believe in a Higher Power), but after that this thing gets really good and will provide perspective that can change your life.

Mods, I meant to put this in "Tips". Move it if you have to.
 

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"Furthermore, you will understand that you will always be at the mercy of how others see you – which carries with it massive amounts of anxiety or bad feelings because you worry about not fitting in."

- this is contra-sosuave, and contra-me.
 

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You didn't read (or at least absorb) the entire article.

He is speaking AGAINST that, not FOR it. He is teaching the reader how NOT to be that way anymore.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Atom Smasher said:
You didn't read (or at least absorb) the entire article.

He is speaking AGAINST that, not FOR it. He is teaching the reader how NOT to be that way anymore.
Thank God! I will start to read it again. Yesterday i stopped at that sentence.
 

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Its poorly written and goes on and on about the same thing without explaining it in depth. It seems biased.

Its like a tutorial on how to be alpha, and not even a good one, I ve not learned anything from it, nor do I seek external approval from anyone for the exception of the professional realm.

Inner reality is a bad term for what he describes, and he simply suggests that being delusional is the thing to have - what?
 
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PapiChulo said:
Its poorly written and goes on and on about the same thing without explaining it in depth. It seems biased.

Its like a tutorial on how to be alpha, and not even a good one, I ve not learned anything from it, nor do I seek external approval from anyone for exception of the professional realm.

Inner reality is a bad term for what he describes, and he simply suggest that being delusional is the thing to have - what?
"Girls’ realities are inherently different from guys’ realities. Guys are designed to be delusionally confident and delusional confidence stems from a delusional sense of self trust."

...yes. this is a bit strange.
 

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ha ha, that's one of those things a stoned college boy writes about his own delusional state.
 

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I get the feeling the concepts presented are beyond the comprehension of the average youngster.

You guys simply skimmed it over, picked up a few things that resonated in a negative way, and started tapping away at the keyboard.

Let me give you the gist of it since you need to be spoon-fed:

Most guys who are here, are here because they are REACTIVE to women. Women say this and that, do this and that, and it affects us and causes us to question ourselves. Next thing we know we find ourselves on forums like this whining about how women don't like us. That's how it was for me, and I'd venture to say that's how it is for the majority here.

By becoming a self-sufficient man with an INTERNAL locus of control and and INTERNAL sense of self-validation, we become immune to the whims of females and we set the frame for every encounter. We find ourselves qualifying them and not vice-versa. The diagrams in the article are very useful for keeping this mindset in the forefront.

Guys, when you read something you need to give it a chance and get to the meat of what is being taught. Of course there are going to be specifics you disagree with, but by rejecting someone's thoughts wholesale you end up missing out on something that can really change your life for the better.

Eat the meat and spit out the bones.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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RSD is beyond the comprehension of most SSer's
most would benefit from checking out their infomation/dvds...etc...
 

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kingsam said:
RSD is beyond the comprehension of most SSer's
most would benefit from checking out their infomation/dvds...etc...
You are absolutely right, kingsam. I've just started to realize this. That other site is on a completely different level and you have to be ready for it in order to grasp the concepts. Over there, I'm just a kindergartner at the tender age of 53, but those advanced concepts are the ones that are making a difference in my life.
 
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