"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Must-Read: Great Article About Inner Reality

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http://alexattitude.com/?p=167

This is some instructor over at RSD. I thought this article was great and it really does serve to put the different male/female realities into perspective. Deep, yet very easy to read and digest, with diagrams that actually help.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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alex is a really awsome guy, he has some sick infield videos og him at the RSD HOTSEAT event....

pulling a girl when her mum is with her and girls bf is on the phone (really carzy situation)... other crazy stuff too
 

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Guys, I'm bumping this because it's so important in helping to define what we want our reality to be and it clearly lays out what, specifically, women are irresistably attracted to in men.

The diagrams really served to help me to easily picture where I am no and where I can be simply by redefining where my internal validation comes from. This is epic, so read it.

For some reason he puts in a couple paragraphs about religion, and I disagree with his assessment (I believe in a Higher Power), but after that this thing gets really good and will provide perspective that can change your life.

Mods, I meant to put this in "Tips". Move it if you have to.
 

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"Furthermore, you will understand that you will always be at the mercy of how others see you – which carries with it massive amounts of anxiety or bad feelings because you worry about not fitting in."

- this is contra-sosuave, and contra-me.
 

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You didn't read (or at least absorb) the entire article.

He is speaking AGAINST that, not FOR it. He is teaching the reader how NOT to be that way anymore.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Atom Smasher said:
You didn't read (or at least absorb) the entire article.

He is speaking AGAINST that, not FOR it. He is teaching the reader how NOT to be that way anymore.
Thank God! I will start to read it again. Yesterday i stopped at that sentence.
 

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Its poorly written and goes on and on about the same thing without explaining it in depth. It seems biased.

Its like a tutorial on how to be alpha, and not even a good one, I ve not learned anything from it, nor do I seek external approval from anyone for the exception of the professional realm.

Inner reality is a bad term for what he describes, and he simply suggests that being delusional is the thing to have - what?
 
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PapiChulo said:
Its poorly written and goes on and on about the same thing without explaining it in depth. It seems biased.

Its like a tutorial on how to be alpha, and not even a good one, I ve not learned anything from it, nor do I seek external approval from anyone for exception of the professional realm.

Inner reality is a bad term for what he describes, and he simply suggest that being delusional is the thing to have - what?
"Girls’ realities are inherently different from guys’ realities. Guys are designed to be delusionally confident and delusional confidence stems from a delusional sense of self trust."

...yes. this is a bit strange.
 

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ha ha, that's one of those things a stoned college boy writes about his own delusional state.
 

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I get the feeling the concepts presented are beyond the comprehension of the average youngster.

You guys simply skimmed it over, picked up a few things that resonated in a negative way, and started tapping away at the keyboard.

Let me give you the gist of it since you need to be spoon-fed:

Most guys who are here, are here because they are REACTIVE to women. Women say this and that, do this and that, and it affects us and causes us to question ourselves. Next thing we know we find ourselves on forums like this whining about how women don't like us. That's how it was for me, and I'd venture to say that's how it is for the majority here.

By becoming a self-sufficient man with an INTERNAL locus of control and and INTERNAL sense of self-validation, we become immune to the whims of females and we set the frame for every encounter. We find ourselves qualifying them and not vice-versa. The diagrams in the article are very useful for keeping this mindset in the forefront.

Guys, when you read something you need to give it a chance and get to the meat of what is being taught. Of course there are going to be specifics you disagree with, but by rejecting someone's thoughts wholesale you end up missing out on something that can really change your life for the better.

Eat the meat and spit out the bones.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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RSD is beyond the comprehension of most SSer's
most would benefit from checking out their infomation/dvds...etc...
 

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kingsam said:
RSD is beyond the comprehension of most SSer's
most would benefit from checking out their infomation/dvds...etc...
You are absolutely right, kingsam. I've just started to realize this. That other site is on a completely different level and you have to be ready for it in order to grasp the concepts. Over there, I'm just a kindergartner at the tender age of 53, but those advanced concepts are the ones that are making a difference in my life.
 
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