"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I saw a very impressive cold approach on the train this morning. It was the first CA i saw in public that was not done by one of my friends.

I board inbound train heading into the city and see and hear this happen right next to me.

Across from where I was stood a nerdy girl, HB5 at most.
I see a guy enter the train and immediately make a comment about the books the girl was carrying. She was a law student and so was he. Initially i was under impression they've met before, but questions that followed stated the opposite. After establishing common ground where he and she were studying he began talking about craziness of moving and where they were from (this guy was from Long Island, NY and the girl was from a local town). He smoothly made an exit one station later. Note that neither of them exchanged names or contact information.

Topics of the conversation were pretty simple but the whole fluidity of this approach really impressed me. The vibe between then was very friendly.

After he left I asked her whether she met him before, she said No.

Witnessing these approaches is second best to actually approaching. Very inspirational!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thats why we should have a...video section or something here at sosuave so we can actually SEE seom approaches ourselves. Much more inspirational and useful:D

-fender-
 

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But what was the point if he didn't get the digits?

:confused:

I think he was just being friendly.
 

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Also, that was a good opportunity for you to get her numbers, even if she was a five. Great practice.
 

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That's what every DJ, or wannabe, should do imo. Keep your convo skills maximum because you never know when u really need them. Good opportunity well used I would say. I often talk to strangers, young and old, beautiful and not so beautiful, just for the fun of it, and so did he.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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