"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Music that helped you recover from breakups

Sayajin_Prince

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one cd that helped me alot was the new papa roach - getting away with murder, classical music also helps alot. just wanting to hear some opinions, cauze music really helps sometimes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Big Eee Zee

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fvck papa roach. music like that is not actually good in any respect and should be avoided, so if you have to listen to it do it right. I'm thinking Korn, issues. all the bands sound the same, but issues it really angry. I listened to it in my car for a week and it REALLY helped.

But like I said, avoid that stuff if at all possible. Check out stereophonics, coldplay is good, ben harper, oasis etc. Good music.
 

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The worst music is something slow or depressing as it will put you in a miserable state where you'll sit and reflect on your pain.

Circus music, happy hardcore or anything stupid and meaningless, on the other hand, should provide a good distraction and a happier mood. Or, alternatively, try listening to music that brings back pleasant memories before the break up, like stuff you were listening to as a teenager.

A good NLP exercise I've learnt for dealing with painful memories or phobias, is to play them back in your mind to a silly soundtrack. It does work quite effectively.
 

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anything by TRUST company, Ludacris, T.I., N.W.A., Snoop Doggy Dogg's "Doggystyle" Album, Dr. Dre's "The Chronic", Ice Cube, N.E.R.D.'s "Fly Or Die" Album (that got me thru the hardest stage of break ups), Nas, Jay-Z songs: Girls, Girls, Girls (remix), Big Pimpin', B.i.tches and Sisters, Takeover, Dirt Off Your Shoulder, 99 Problems (that will knock you into prospective), but do NOT listen to his "Song Cry" cuz it will fvck you up all over again.. listen to some Slim Thug and 36 Mafia.. no G-Unit, but you can listen to The Game...

and try these

2 Pac- "Dusted and Disgusted" (his verse will make you be like "HELL YEAH!")

2 Pac- "Bury Me a G" (the last verse will make you look at ho3z in a new light)

Junior MAFIA- "Get Money" (the 1st verse is so gangsta)

36 Mafia- "Slob On My Knob" (magic in the making)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Anything that wont remind you of her... slow, fast, doesnt matter. As long as it doesnt remind you of her, its good.


Laterz...
 

[DoN.2.Da.JUaN]

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2Pac - Wonder Why They Call U *****
 

penkitten

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"bitc* gimme my money back and dont forget my black tshirt"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Music to Recover from breakups? isnt that something women do? i just bite the bullet and suffer like a man.
 

jason86

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eminem - kim.

Ultimite track after a break up.
 

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So you want to listen to a bunch of emo music about guys crying cause they got dumped? how the **** would that help? How about you get some MOTIVATIONAL music flowing?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dust 2 Dust

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Gwar- Sick of You
Misfits- Die Die My Darling
Type O Negative- Kill You Tonight
 

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old dirty bastard aka big baby jesus

ODB will make you realize you're being a ***** by letting some chic upset you. hell, by letting anything in life upset you.

"rollin wit you" is a good odb song.

also, go watch scareface with al pacino.

"the only thing i got in this life is my ball and my word. and I don't break 'em for no one." - scareface.

J
 

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I have a "F*** a B****" mix CD that I play in my car before and after sarging. Haven't been in a relationship since I burned it, but it helps me to get into the right mindstate.

Chino XL - Kreep
Sport Thievez - Cheapskate (Nada)
Main Source - How My Man Went Down in the Game
The Pharcyde - Passin' Me By
Mobb Deep f/ Q-Tip - Drink Away The Pain
Sadat X f/Brand Nubian - Lump Lump (remix)
Akinyele - F*** Me For Free
The B.U.M.S. - Outhouse Stunt
Notorious B.I.G. - The World is Filled
D'Angelo f/Chino XL - S***, D***, Mother****** (Remix)
Notorious B.I.G. - One More Chance (not the remix)
Chino XL w/ Saafir - How It Goes
Tre Hardson - Stay Around

I have changed the tracks every time I reburn this CD.

Chino XL is one of my favorite rappers and the epitome of a true DJ.

This is the opening verse from "How It Goes" (from ohhla.com)

[Verse 1 - Chino XL]
A pretty smile can cover up a character
Dirtier than Janet Jackson's clothes
When she played Penny on "Good Times" (right)
A chick in the hood shines
But blind to trick n****
That has not been exposed to this mentality of mines...
(I find the one I want) If she step up
I get her open like every piece of my mail when I was locked up
Laced up stupid after I drop 'em
Then **** every model in Q-tip's videos with the same condom
(I never met a *****) That faded me
Cus mentally and physically God was showing off when he created me
(Be afraid of me)
But stop hating me cause women are loving me, I'm sorry
That you was a virgin until your record release party (right)
Hoes won't admit this, but that's groupie's style (yeah)
I call 'em Cleopatras, they the queens of +The Nile/denial+
And these trick n***** dead on 'em
B***** looking like Barbie doll bodies with a G.I. Joe head on 'em
It's pathetic how quickly are to get naked
Probably infected, shieet! Give me the ones with good credit
Or Dead it, Admitedly I have a fetish you could be on
I like an ass so fat she can turn a boxer shorts to thongs
(Is you hot from all my songs?)
She diggin' me, Got women fingering themselves
Thinking of women fingering themselves that are thinking of me
You know what sickening me? (Yo dog express your feelings)
If Eric Benet can get Halle Berry I deserve Vanessa Williams

It's how it goes (*3X*)
Tell 'em how it goes yo...

(Chorus)
Saafir + [Chino XL]

This is how it goes
Down in the town of West Oakland keepin' hoes soaked in

[This game will never change]
[In Jersey freaks touch concrete eight inches on cheese baby]

It'll never be
Another me, sauce see squeeze up on a hoe like
"Oh **** you got to pay me!"
 

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Randy Travis - Out of My Bones

and the saddest breakup song...

Jimmy Buffett- Coast of Marseilles
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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