"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Music that helped you recover from breakups

Sayajin_Prince

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one cd that helped me alot was the new papa roach - getting away with murder, classical music also helps alot. just wanting to hear some opinions, cauze music really helps sometimes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Big Eee Zee

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fvck papa roach. music like that is not actually good in any respect and should be avoided, so if you have to listen to it do it right. I'm thinking Korn, issues. all the bands sound the same, but issues it really angry. I listened to it in my car for a week and it REALLY helped.

But like I said, avoid that stuff if at all possible. Check out stereophonics, coldplay is good, ben harper, oasis etc. Good music.
 

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The worst music is something slow or depressing as it will put you in a miserable state where you'll sit and reflect on your pain.

Circus music, happy hardcore or anything stupid and meaningless, on the other hand, should provide a good distraction and a happier mood. Or, alternatively, try listening to music that brings back pleasant memories before the break up, like stuff you were listening to as a teenager.

A good NLP exercise I've learnt for dealing with painful memories or phobias, is to play them back in your mind to a silly soundtrack. It does work quite effectively.
 

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anything by TRUST company, Ludacris, T.I., N.W.A., Snoop Doggy Dogg's "Doggystyle" Album, Dr. Dre's "The Chronic", Ice Cube, N.E.R.D.'s "Fly Or Die" Album (that got me thru the hardest stage of break ups), Nas, Jay-Z songs: Girls, Girls, Girls (remix), Big Pimpin', B.i.tches and Sisters, Takeover, Dirt Off Your Shoulder, 99 Problems (that will knock you into prospective), but do NOT listen to his "Song Cry" cuz it will fvck you up all over again.. listen to some Slim Thug and 36 Mafia.. no G-Unit, but you can listen to The Game...

and try these

2 Pac- "Dusted and Disgusted" (his verse will make you be like "HELL YEAH!")

2 Pac- "Bury Me a G" (the last verse will make you look at ho3z in a new light)

Junior MAFIA- "Get Money" (the 1st verse is so gangsta)

36 Mafia- "Slob On My Knob" (magic in the making)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Anything that wont remind you of her... slow, fast, doesnt matter. As long as it doesnt remind you of her, its good.


Laterz...
 

[DoN.2.Da.JUaN]

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2Pac - Wonder Why They Call U *****
 

penkitten

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"bitc* gimme my money back and dont forget my black tshirt"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Music to Recover from breakups? isnt that something women do? i just bite the bullet and suffer like a man.
 

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eminem - kim.

Ultimite track after a break up.
 

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So you want to listen to a bunch of emo music about guys crying cause they got dumped? how the **** would that help? How about you get some MOTIVATIONAL music flowing?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Dust 2 Dust

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Gwar- Sick of You
Misfits- Die Die My Darling
Type O Negative- Kill You Tonight
 

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old dirty bastard aka big baby jesus

ODB will make you realize you're being a ***** by letting some chic upset you. hell, by letting anything in life upset you.

"rollin wit you" is a good odb song.

also, go watch scareface with al pacino.

"the only thing i got in this life is my ball and my word. and I don't break 'em for no one." - scareface.

J
 

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I have a "F*** a B****" mix CD that I play in my car before and after sarging. Haven't been in a relationship since I burned it, but it helps me to get into the right mindstate.

Chino XL - Kreep
Sport Thievez - Cheapskate (Nada)
Main Source - How My Man Went Down in the Game
The Pharcyde - Passin' Me By
Mobb Deep f/ Q-Tip - Drink Away The Pain
Sadat X f/Brand Nubian - Lump Lump (remix)
Akinyele - F*** Me For Free
The B.U.M.S. - Outhouse Stunt
Notorious B.I.G. - The World is Filled
D'Angelo f/Chino XL - S***, D***, Mother****** (Remix)
Notorious B.I.G. - One More Chance (not the remix)
Chino XL w/ Saafir - How It Goes
Tre Hardson - Stay Around

I have changed the tracks every time I reburn this CD.

Chino XL is one of my favorite rappers and the epitome of a true DJ.

This is the opening verse from "How It Goes" (from ohhla.com)

[Verse 1 - Chino XL]
A pretty smile can cover up a character
Dirtier than Janet Jackson's clothes
When she played Penny on "Good Times" (right)
A chick in the hood shines
But blind to trick n****
That has not been exposed to this mentality of mines...
(I find the one I want) If she step up
I get her open like every piece of my mail when I was locked up
Laced up stupid after I drop 'em
Then **** every model in Q-tip's videos with the same condom
(I never met a *****) That faded me
Cus mentally and physically God was showing off when he created me
(Be afraid of me)
But stop hating me cause women are loving me, I'm sorry
That you was a virgin until your record release party (right)
Hoes won't admit this, but that's groupie's style (yeah)
I call 'em Cleopatras, they the queens of +The Nile/denial+
And these trick n***** dead on 'em
B***** looking like Barbie doll bodies with a G.I. Joe head on 'em
It's pathetic how quickly are to get naked
Probably infected, shieet! Give me the ones with good credit
Or Dead it, Admitedly I have a fetish you could be on
I like an ass so fat she can turn a boxer shorts to thongs
(Is you hot from all my songs?)
She diggin' me, Got women fingering themselves
Thinking of women fingering themselves that are thinking of me
You know what sickening me? (Yo dog express your feelings)
If Eric Benet can get Halle Berry I deserve Vanessa Williams

It's how it goes (*3X*)
Tell 'em how it goes yo...

(Chorus)
Saafir + [Chino XL]

This is how it goes
Down in the town of West Oakland keepin' hoes soaked in

[This game will never change]
[In Jersey freaks touch concrete eight inches on cheese baby]

It'll never be
Another me, sauce see squeeze up on a hoe like
"Oh **** you got to pay me!"
 

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Randy Travis - Out of My Bones

and the saddest breakup song...

Jimmy Buffett- Coast of Marseilles
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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