Friend came up from out of town went partying all week got 5 different numbers but have no clue who's who. What should I say when I'm callin these girls? I have no idea which girl did what or what I said to them. But some I know were pretty solid #'s. Should I ask- "which one were you?"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
multiple numbers last night
- Thread starter jp98502
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Would you ever point a loaded gun at yourself and pull the trigger? No, you wouldnt. Dont ask them anything like that. Talk to them as if you remember them, set something up and embrace the suprise.jp98502 said:
Lol ya that prolly wouldnt be a good idea. Talk to them as if I remember them? I dont remember anything at all about the whole weekend lol. How should I start? Like this?: "Hi Allison its James" and start my phone game from there?
Ring up and take a tone like you got a pretty good understanding of her the time you met and got her number, then ask her if she has a nickname or what do her mates call her, then she'l say 'nah im just 'kate'' or whatever 
Ive used this one a few times and its never failed on me.
Ive used this one a few times and its never failed on me.
PectoralisMajor
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good advice above
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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You have to send them pics of you so that they can decide if they like your look , if they do you are in...jp98502 said:
I wouldn't quite put it THAT way, but I don't think it would be an issue if you were to say that you talked to a million people this weekend and you need a little reminder on what you two talked about. Then you can just go into the "Oh yeah!" thing.jp98502 said:
Besides, nothing says red flag more than a girl who gets pissed just because you're a social guy...